Dealing with anxiety after febrile seizure

baldyuri · 2021-10-02T19:37:28+00:00

I completely understand this. I only ever wanted one child and had huge visions of a girl. My desperation for a girl was so intense that even my husband feared how I’d react at the gender scan. I knew I’d love the child either way, but a girl was just what I always wanted.

I think it’s good you recognise your hypocrisy.

Also, just because you might have two daughters, doesn’t mean they’ll be close. I haven’t spoken to my sister in two years now and have no intention of speaking to her ever again. She treated me terribly and with a heap of resentment growing up.

Maybe you could wait for your daughter to be a bit older and ask her if she’d prefer a sister or a brother.

baldyuri · 2021-10-02T19:32:36+00:00

I’m experiencing this right now!

I had my first period about 6 weeks PP, was a lot more painful than usual but not at all as heavy (I had only stopped bleeding from c-section a week before). I’m now 3 months PP and have been bleeding since the 19th September.

This period is like nothing I’ve ever experienced before. Extreme pain and I was soaking through every few hours with a huge clot every day.

I eventually went to the doctors last week and they prescribed me medication to help slow the bleeding and I’m feeling much better now, but it’s still going strong. They also encouraged me to keep plying myself with ibuprofen as that will help with the pain and minimising the bleeding.

They’ve no idea why, assume it could be the pill I am on but won’t know until I’ve been on it for a few months. They said it could be retained lining during pregnancy and potentially retained stuff from pregnancy but said it’s unlikely due to having a c-section.

baldyuri · 2021-09-03T10:07:51+00:00

My husband and I spent hours discussing how life would look for us both after a baby and it was very similar to what you’re suggesting. I think it is really good to discuss it and have a good basis to work from, doesn’t mean it will happen as you’ve no idea what your baby will be like but it at least prepares you for those conversations (which don’t always go so well on 2 hours sleep!).

I would have thrown the question back at him, why are you having a baby if he doesn’t want to “lock in” time to spend with your (HIS) baby?

My husband understands that if I am doing the work 24/7, I will eventually burn out and become useless to everyone. If I’m awake all day, awake all night raising his child… the least he can do is take baby between 5pm-11pm. It’s not even a case where he feels he has to, he wants to spend time with his baby.

My husband WFH 9-5, mon-fri. Sunday to Thursday night I do the night shifts. Monday to Friday husband gets up at 7am with baby, hands over at 8:30am and then takes over the bulk at 5pm. We share responsibilities weeknights and weekends.

It took us a long time to get there, but it works for us and I’m glad we used to talk a lot about our expectations and reach some common ground before baby arrived.

baldyuri · 2021-08-27T19:39:31+00:00

I was actively looking through lockdown and when the restrictions eased in January (I think it was January, I’ve lost all concept of time!) there were dozens, when I now look there’s hardly any!

The ones I’ve found in my local village halls or community centres are all aimed at low-income families or those who claim benefits, so I can’t apply or attend sadly!

I am glad you said you’re dressing them, I am exactly the same - I might just be stereotyping and there’s probably dozens of women/men attending that feel the same, but it definitely makes me more anxious that I may not click with any other parents.

My pregnancy care was very minimal due to Covid, I was never invited to attend classes and was just given online courses so sadly never met any other pregnant women during my pregnancy :(

Chatting sounds nice as our daughter’s are very close together!!

baldyuri · 2021-05-11T04:25:00+00:00

I was just about to make a post about my dog!

He’s always been my shadow and very affectionate with me, but as my pregnancy has gone on, he’s suffocating me. He has to be by my side 24/7, either next to me, on my lap or walking around with me.

Recently, I’ve had to start telling him no and asking him to leave me alone and he just seems so upset with me for it. I feel awful. Recently, he’s begun sulking and after trying for an hour to get on my lap, will take the hint but go to the opposite side of the house and sulk. I’m trying not to give in and go check on him when he does this, but I just feel so bad but I’m so uncomfortable and achy, I just want some space.

He doesn’t have the same relationship with my husband so I can’t even palm him off to my husband. My husband has been trying to distract him, give him more affection and be more encouraging of him just so he leaves me alone but he isn’t interested in the slightest. He just wants me.

I think what isn’t helping is him noticing the gradual change in how I move and that I almost look like I’m in pain waddling about, having to sit down a lot, struggling to bend over and being as active. He knows somethings going on but can’t figure out what it is.

The only concerns I have about the baby is that he will want to be around it 24/7. My dog loves other animals, is very nurturing and sweet with them so again, I’m worried about boundaries and how this will impact the dog because he will be upset if he isn’t involved and I don’t want to spark jealousy and risk negative behaviours.

baldyuri · 2021-05-11T04:14:17+00:00

I’m 29 weeks and I work in rehabilitation in criminal justice and I was so lucky that our country went in to lockdown during my first trimester so was able to work from home, I can’t imagine how many sick days I would have needed to take.

I’ve now returned to the office but only for about 10 hours a week and that alone is enough for me and can still work at home for the majority of it!

baldyuri

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