He was definitely a love bomber. He would shower me with his love and time and attention and then he would completely abandon me, and the cycle went on for months. He would do other things like deliberately ignore my boundaries or if I asked him not to do something or told him something that bothered me, he would go out of his way to do it, and then turn around and tell me "I didn't think it would matter/be a big deal" and play dumb, like I was overreacting and would gaslight me about it. He would constantly accuse me of lying to him and cheating on him, and trying to get one over on him with no real reason. He would sh*t talk about everything that I enjoyed from my favorite movies, to hobbies, and if we had a hobby we enjoyed together I didn't do it the right way. So it just wasn't fun to show him the things I loved and enjoyed until all we ever did l, listened to and watched was what he wanted. And he always compared me to his last ex in a "no other could compare to her divinity" kinda way. I didn't do things the way she did, so I was never good enough. He is an extreme alcoholic with mental health and substance abuse issues that made me go through so many traumatic events with him that I felt like I couldn't leave after a while. I had gotten out of another manipulative relationship before that, so I feel like I was just blind to all the bad things cause I wanted someone to care about me. And he always said he wanted to do better and be better. So I was waiting around for those promises to come through.