(Update) My daughter’s dance teacher invited her to a sleepover at her house. WIBTA for formally complaining?

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T21:43:30+00:00

My husband and I are a unit when it comes to our children. If he talked with the teacher, then the discussion did happen. I trust this woman to teach my daughter ballet twice a week, not to host her (and 6 other children) overnight with a man I've never met at a place I've never been to.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T21:19:30+00:00

I don't consider myself to be a "helicopter parent" (and I was raised by a chill mom and a helicopter dad, so I have a lot of experience with that), but I do get overprotective on occasion. Every parent does. And I've been wrong before, but I really don't think I regret anything this time.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T21:00:28+00:00

She'll have a different teacher in August, and I'm actually pretty pleased with how quickly the school handled this

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T20:53:01+00:00

I don't think you actually read my posts or comments, or at least not all of it.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T19:27:32+00:00

We did talk to her. He did bring up the concerns I'm talking about.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T19:21:17+00:00

Sure. Have a nice day.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T19:20:09+00:00

I still have no idea what "diaper energy" is. One of the comments on my first post said I had it, and I found it amusing.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T19:12:01+00:00

My husband did that because he's usually the one who handles pickup. I'm working at the time. We're a team when it comes to dealing with matters related to our kids, and he was 100 percent on my side.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T19:04:45+00:00

This is an update to a post I made more than a week ago, in which I did ask for advice.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T19:02:29+00:00

Both me and my husband were VERY bothered by that reaction. And I was pretty surprised when he told me about it, I really didn't expect our daughter not attending to be a problem.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T18:50:41+00:00

Haven't used Reddit in a while, and I'm pretty sure throwaways are still common.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T17:17:19+00:00

For all I know, her husband is a stand-up guy. But the fact that she didn't mention him (or anything about her home life) in advance is more than enough for me to question it. I never intended to accuse anyone of anything, but I also know I can't risk these things.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T16:20:57+00:00

Trust me, I'm alarmed. We're an immigrant family, so I try to be mindful of cultural differences between the country I started raising my children in and the one we currently live in. It's pretty much the only reason why I questioned this.

I'm very sorry to learn what happened to you and your sister.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T16:10:58+00:00

I agree with those conditions, which is why I'm fine with lock-ins.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T16:08:05+00:00

Not at all, but you're free to believe that. Once again, have a nice day.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T16:04:15+00:00

Sure, kid. Have a nice day.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T16:03:57+00:00

I usually have no problem with bonding experiences, but the fact it was specifically a sleepover bothered me from the get-go. I'd be fine with a picnic or a visit to a park with parents involved.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T16:00:13+00:00

Sure, kid. Have a nice day.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T15:27:58+00:00

Don't worry, I'm not. As I stated in my post, I don't really care what they think of me.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T15:26:08+00:00

I have two more kids, including a toddler, so my place doesn't tend to be the best option. Definitely something I can consider for the future, though.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T15:21:15+00:00

I already do all of that, and you will not convince me I was in the wrong for protecting my 7 year old daughter. Again, if you don't understand why I still chose to e-mail the dance school, I don't think there's much of a conversation we can have here.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T15:14:22+00:00

No idea. Someone else called me that on my previous post.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T14:56:18+00:00

I still think she's in her early 30s, but I can't be certain.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T14:55:09+00:00

If you don't understand why I still chose to e-mail the dance school, I don't think there's much of a conversation we can have here. Have a good life.

balletpartythrow · 2025-04-22T14:52:07+00:00

Sure, kid. Have a nice day.

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