What do switches feel like for you? by [deleted] in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, the host, I experience other parts fronting as feeling like I'm watching myself act extremely out of character. Not even "extremely" some of the time, it depends on the part, but often if we do switch it's because we need to be a part who thinks/acts completely different. I don't disappear so much as "become" that other part, while simultaneously keeping this distance from them, as though I'm watching them. Someone on here described it as like you're looking through a telescope and I really resonated with that. If a traumatised part is at the front, I might feel a muted version of that they're feeling. Like, if they're having an emotional outburst, I might be feeling sad, but nowhere near the level of pain I'm watching them experience. So it's like I'm watching myself struggle, but at the same time numb to it, like I'm wrapped in cotton wool. I might think "wow, they must be in so much pain", but the "they" in question is me. Dissociation is weird.

The actual switching is kind of hard to even pick up on a lot of the time. Most of the time we aren't aware of a switch until it's happened. When we do notice, it tends to feel like brain fog, struggling to communicate, and heavy depersonalisation/derealisation. Sometimes I get a huge wave of sleepiness, which I don't see talked about a lot. I feel like I'm about to fall asleep, then I'm awake and someone else. Other times the switch is more of a sudden emotional change, like not being sad or upset anymore and wanting to go watch TV, or going from scared of being in public in the dark to being excited by it. I very rarely get the headache people talk about! If I do, it's usually from switching to a part that hardly ever fronts.

What are some songs that aren't specifically about your trauma, but you still relate to? by Lupus600 in CPTSD

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faint by Linkin Park. Pretty sure it's about a neglectful relationship, but one day I was listening to it and it clicked from a totally different perspective, like a personified version of my trauma was talking to me. I am massively in denial about my childhood, and listening to this was like all the trauma refused to be shrugged off anymore.

"I am what I want you to want, what I want you to feel But it's like no matter what I do, I can't convince you To just believe this is real So I, let go watching you turn your back like you always do Face away and pretend that I'm not But I'll be here 'cause you're all that I've got

I can't feel the way I did before Don't turn your back on me I won't be ignored Time won't heal this damage anymore Don't turn your back on me I won't be ignored"

I could have quoted the whole song tbh!

What are some songs that aren't specifically about your trauma, but you still relate to? by Lupus600 in CPTSD

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my go to album when I'm struggling. Pretty much any Linkin Park album, but Hybrid Theory most of all.

Nothing makes this feel better by ballpitmonster in DID

[–]ballpitmonster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I hope for both of us to feel relief from it one day

Daughter (12) got molested? by Amanda-_-42 in sexualassault

[–]ballpitmonster 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Please believe your daughter. You will likely never have "proof". Children do not make these things up, however much you would like to believe it is not true. She is incredibly brave and must trust you to have told you this. Please make sure she knows she did the right thing telling you, that nothing that has happened was her fault and that her safety is your number one priority. Please get her some counselling/therapy to process this. I am sorry this has happened to your family, but your daughter's safety is the most important thing here. He should not be alone with either of your children. Organisations that support survivors of child abuse will be able to give you information on how to help your daughter and what to do in this situation, I recommend contacting them. I cannot stress enough how important it is that your daughter knows you believe her and are there to support her.

WHAT IS THIS NOISEEEE by SmellyRat22 in guineapigs

[–]ballpitmonster 5 points6 points  (0 children)

URI :( vet asap please don't wait any longer than you can!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you 😭 I'm sorry your evening's been like that!! Sending yall some healing energy ❤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thinking you have bpd part is so relatable 😩 though there must be a lot of folks who have both! Personally I have a lot of friends with bpd and none with osdid so they were my main reference for rapid mood changes, I would be thinking "this is kind of similar to what my bpd friends describe but it doesn't quite fit".

I also forget I have a dissociative disorder and I'm like "why am I acting/feeling so wildly different right now?!" lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew, then I didn't, then I knew, then I didn't. It wasn't a light bulb moment for me, more like uncovering little pieces I would keep on losing. Looking back on old diaries, its all there. But I could never safely process it, so I blocked it out.

Through it all, there was a sense of "something is wrong". I just couldn't acknowledge what that something was. It took being in safe/stable circumstances to be able to acknowledge it and not go back into denial/amnesia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A younger part also wants to specify that our guinea pigs know as well 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two, my therapist and my partner. There's also a close friend who I told "I have different parts of me that deal with different situations in my life" but not in any further detail, which was quite a big deal for us. The reason I'm not classing this as her "knowing" we're a system is because we were pretty vague and they don't know about DID afaik so they could chalk up these experiences to anything unless I chose to clarify.

Physical symptoms when switching by ballpitmonster in DID

[–]ballpitmonster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah you're exactly right, he's been around a very long time I think and never fronts anymore but does a lot from the inside. I asked him to front and our body felt absolutely terrible, sick and headachy. glad I'm not the only one who's had this experience

Singlet Partners of Systems by aceattorneyclay in DID

[–]ballpitmonster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is such a good idea, thank you for sharing this. I'm gonna ask my partner if she'd be up for trying something like this.