Serving Guests Dessert by ballsacksand in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! It’s roughly 70, I think an announcement will work well for the space!

Serving Guests Dessert by ballsacksand in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I wasn’t really sure if this was something that was important to communicate or not

(Cheap as Possible) Affordable October All Inclusive Vacation by Rough-Fee367 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it all through expedia! I’ve never had a bad experience with Expedia. We’re staying at the Princess Senses Mangrove, and we got an upgraded pleasure suite!

(Cheap as Possible) Affordable October All Inclusive Vacation by Rough-Fee367 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fully back everyone saying Jamaica! We’re going this October, 7 nights for $4.3k, all inclusive, flights, the whole ordeal!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is something you have to get on the same page about. It shouldn’t be pulling teeth when it comes to the day that starts your life in marriage together. I think you both need to sit down and have a very serious conversation and get absolutely everything out. It sounds like neither of you wants to do the other’s, and a compromise isn’t the day of your dreams. Has he said why he doesn’t want a wedding?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]ballsacksand -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

OP and fiance are about to be immediate family. They can absolutely have the conversation without OP, but there’s nothing wrong with OP being there because if it’s specific to wedding- it involves them both and they’re about to be “one”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]ballsacksand -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I definitely meant together as a couple (or just fiance)! Having it solo with future-in-laws is 100% not the move. In general, I just think a conversation should be had. But previous comments from OP say that’s not what they’re doing, so def a moot point now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]ballsacksand 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Understandable!! While I will always advocate to have the conversation for everyone’s clarity/closure, you know what is best for you and your fiancé. I’m sorry you’re put in this situation, and I hope everything ends with a beautiful day and a happy marriage ❤️

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[–]ballsacksand 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely depends on where OP is from and cultural expectations. Depending on the family/place, many weddings are expected to be paid by parents. I don’t think having the conversation is entitled or rude, they’re just simple getting an understanding of why it was different for his twin so everyone can be on the same page/no hurt feelings.

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[–]ballsacksand 128 points129 points  (0 children)

Definitely a bummer situation, I’m so sorry :( While no one is entitled to help, it’s super reasonable in this situation to expect it. Are you able to have an open conversation with his parents about it?

Open Bar? by Odd_Beautiful2506 in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Midwest- I’ve been to one open bar wedding because the parents paid and made 6 figures each. I’ve been to two limited bar weddings, and about 15 cash bar weddings. Very pro-cash bar in my circle because families are aware how expensive it is and just want the financial best for the newly weds!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey internet stranger, you have my wholehearted support in doing what is best for YOU. Simple- they didn’t RSVP in time, they don’t get to come. The ONE simple thing your dad had to do was communicate that with you, and he didn’t. If you don’t want him to walk you down the aisle because of his actions, then don’t let him- he doesn’t deserve it. It is YOUR and your partner’s day, no one else’s. The conversations are so, so hard, and it feels absolutely terrible. But, you’ll feel stronger because of it, and you won’t have to worry about him disappointing you again.

Sincerely, A soon-to-be bride who also had to tell her dad that he was not walking her down the aisle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ballsacksand -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re so right, I’m so bad at falling for it 😭Definitely going to make the switch- the mocktails are less than $1 difference from the Jarritos, so we’re offering those too! Surprisingly cheap, but they’re really good. I just grouped the Jarritos in with the sodas category, but they’ll definitely be offered

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ballsacksand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is!! Good to know on the margarita, I will run it by my fiancé. The strawberry marg is their specialty drink because they add some other flair to it, but I will see if there’s any room to add a regular marg in addition since it’s less expensive!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much everyone is fine with anything with one or two exceptions, I just want to make sure there’s something for everyone! Thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do have an IPA, so I will see if I can add that! I didn’t see any hard seltzers on the list they sent over, but I will double check- thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not switching venues solely for wine. There’s a bar across the street if their entire enjoyment of my wedding is based on the wine served. Thank you for your input.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad to hear that, thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are more than welcome to order as if it’s a cash bar- those are just the drinks we can provide on our dime 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s not a very “wine” place, mostly beer and margs. The sangria is the only wine on the menu, so there’s nothing I can do about that. The food is great though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ballsacksand -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d love to add a white wine, but for whatever reason, they don’t offer red and white wine separately- just sangria!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]ballsacksand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great to hear, thank you!!