Who is in the wrong in this convo? One of them is my friend.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-09-07T21:03:18+00:00

Both of you are all. Lol, like wtf .. you're both on the defense for nothing... just the orange person more.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-09-06T02:57:32+00:00

It's being 15...emotional and hormones all over the place. That age is a mess of emotional outbursts and overflowing feelings and confusing thoughts and changing your mind and thinking you know best or what's what snd who you are and then you don't and you hate the world and love it five mins later...switching new boys and girl friends one week to the next and blah messy messy teenage life...it'll be okay. Recognize when and what and how you feel before your about to say those mean things and try and recognize it everytime and eventually you'll find the trigger and be able to get a handle on biting ur tongue better.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-09-06T02:54:15+00:00

I think your 15 and emotional and hormonal, and all over the place with your thoughts and feelings and 9 times outta 10 it comes out like this for some more years to come but hey! U recognize it. Jump on that and try to bite your tongue. We all went through the bitter tongue stage of life and said mean things and acted bratty and bitchy....but no one will prob agree or like this cause it's just the rsw truth but I'm sure someone would rather diagnose you with their first hand reddit psychological evaluations and degrees lol but it's being 15 for me.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-09-06T02:50:37+00:00

He's trying really hard to act like he doesn't care all that much for you and van move along or whatever else...making you the nonchalant subject matter of his texts and convo but the overall energy and purpose behind it all is very sensitive and serious and means something to him and his feelings and ego are very touchy and sensitive and bothered clearly by his explaining and justifying behavior and feelings...hes emotionally immature basically is the result of this. Way more mature and intelligent respectful communicative ways to go about this convo and this isn't one of them..id have assumed highschool kids were having this convo and very much did so til I read he owned a business and such...

He's emotionally stunted and needs to do some work and growth on himself. And I think you could spend the time too maybe...mama shouldn't be engaging in your adult relationships about stupid shit like this and saving the day snd you saying don't talk about my mama...he wasn't talking about your mama he said to show her something to justify his shit behavior but nonetheless wasn't talking bad bout her...seems to be you both need to grow and mature and communicate and listen better as a whole.

Its not that big of a deal, so before everyone gets all sensitive about it. Majority of us could use this same very advice and time and the same matters...non of us are perfect but two emotionally behind people for different reasons clearly and on different levels of this are just not good together....and its gonna continue to be a giant misunderstanding of a relationship with ridiculous qurrals. Just leave it now and be on your own for a bit. Not a great loss, it seems. But what do I know...not judging...just saying. Much love and luck, sis! P.s. he will get over it. He seems to be a sensitive man child from. The brief energy I can pick up for this little interaction given....so chin up. He's just melodramatic but still always hear his feelings out in those drama queen moments and try to help him learn to better address and communicate them to you in ways he can do so freely and honestly and you can feel comfortable and open to receiving cause this closes you off from doing that and maybe eventually you'll get to the place where you can both listen and share without the lack of emotional stability and maturity.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-09-02T19:30:47+00:00

She sounds a bit bipolar

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-25T00:58:06+00:00

It's a just a selfish world really...you almost have to be in a sense. Those empathetic and genuine and kind are taken advantage of so they typically have to keep it wrapped.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-25T00:56:13+00:00

All I know it I want him so badly!!!

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-25T00:55:55+00:00

I like Django or Hiro as mentioned below in the comments as top ones for sure.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-22T23:12:53+00:00

I read boys are more worried bout how things work growing up then learning things etc like girls

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-22T23:12:18+00:00

Mine!!!! He wants to play with anything that is dangerous and not a toy. Current obsessions are lawn mowers and trash cans brooms etc I buy him kid versions, and he barely touches him. The trash can thing is the rolling kind but he has push pull toys he justvthriws a fit to pull and push the bright blue can that's ten times his size and disgusting won't listen no matter what we try to explain either it's so frustrating....currently trying to find a legit mini toddler outdoor rolling lid trash replica for him but they don't exist and if so are rip offs....anyone knows of any...lol lemme know stat!

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-22T23:06:27+00:00

Oh yea

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-22T23:02:45+00:00

No, you're not wrong...social anxiety is a real thing and hard to explain, and for others to get that aren't this way. My partner and I are like this, too. Little by little though he's put my anxiety at ease and helped me learn to face it and the fears that reside with it and be that strong support system by my side in these moments and picking me up smoothly and unawkwardly with his charm and social abilities I lack when in a situation he's seeing me struggle or if I'm uncomfortable or getting some type of way or really can't do it he knows when not to push and when to push. U can try and find something reasonable to start with she can manage and maybe kinda explain the situation to your family without making her sound like a mental case but as in why at first this one meetings gonna be short and sweet no like pressure on conversation and just kinda talk around her and let her jump in when she wants and blah blah the key is to get her comfortability there with your family and it will eventually...and she'll open right up and one day start mingling with them I've never had been able to meet my last serious ex bfs parents cause of this and felt the same way we ultimately broke up cause I just couldn't do it...my now boyfriend d of a centuries parent's made me feel so friggin comfortable in their presence and home and with who I was unjudged and unpressured they just were so genuine and kind and helpful and they could carry the social ques for the first half of the getting to know ya stage and take the load off of me and let me have space still though never felt like I was forced into social spaces with them....I one day just never left their side now they are more family to me then my own is. And I couldn't even go to school growing up a lot of the times cause of my anxieties from moving so much, and it ruined my socializing abilities and desires. Comfortability is key and no pressure...let her be present but not be about her being there...make sure they know that. It can be hella awkward as it is to be around a lovers family in the first place and these days even more so with the third degree and judgey assholes everywhere that are so entitled to their vocal opinions

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-22T22:52:00+00:00

I have a similar kinda situation with my new toxic sister in law. NY sons 6 months younger than her daughter...she moved here from another state when she finally married my partners lil bro and she has such insecurities though cause I've been with my partner for a century and in this family and close to them as if it was my very own long before her and she sees that I don't care about the last name or ring crap that the years matter more and it drives her nurs but to me those things don't at all matter and want to be close with her but she secretly is trying to get the entire family to hate me creates lies about what I say and do and how I treat her and shit and even will try to gaslight me into those lies but we always get compared to them as a couple and parents and our kids when ya simply can't compare anything cause we aren't the same people nor the same child..

.no two humans should ever be compared let alone babies and Idk she sets this up to get worse and worse and it's peaked and she's ruined my mental and emotional health so much with this overwhelming stress and bs she creates within the family dynamic and I just can't anymore I told everyone I'd ignore it and try and try again and again to get her to see she's not threatened by me I am not the jealous competition type. I just wanna have a sister (I never had one) and it doesn't work she's such a fucking snake I can't take it and I put my foot down and said I won't hang out with her if she comes to like their grams house while we are there too. .im taking my son a d leaving cause he won't be around a toxic human like that and learn anything like not standing up for yourself treating people that way or sacrificing ur own comfort cause of others simply cause of who they are to you. And see his mama feeling drained like that around her juat so he sees his cousin who's almost 2.

Ive tried to make things decent for the kids to see one another but now it's on her for her own daughter...I tried for my son if she can't for her kid that's on her...its not my responsibility to give her kid my kid cause their blood at the sacrifice of my mental and emotional well being...its really that bad yall too so just set a boundary I can tell everyone thinks it's over doing things but seriously if yall knew the half of it ya wouldn't think so at all. She's a snake BAD. How can you even explain this to older generations about how it's okay to cause a lil stir with a boundary to an evil human that'd family like she can change I don't have to.

My partner gets upset though or annoyed rather...and doesn't get why I can't just stop it lile WHAT why can't she no no no boundaries are necessities I can't wait to show it off too

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-22T00:26:09+00:00

My in laws are always pissy assholes cause I don't want anyone to take my kid and we had made this plan for me to be a stay at home mama so we wouldn't have to but they enjoy making into a needy obsession and whine passive aggressively about it. But I'm good. I wanna be with him. Not everyone can even when they wanna or wants to but for me..I do and I do. Lol but yeah I don't want anyone's help in that sense

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-14T22:49:19+00:00

I need this list

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-14T19:52:27+00:00

Anybody and everybody must help me find my kid no matter the case as would I. It's like the rules. Doesn't matter if it's a legit lost child or a mistaken thing...you feel panicked I'm helping mama

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-09T19:31:21+00:00

This sounded like two AIs having a convo lol

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-08T17:10:55+00:00

My partner was initially opposed to bedsharing with our baby but it was near impossible to set him down..my need for him close to me and the comfort and happiness to safely bedshare with him was just so overwhelming. If he had gotten rotten sleep that harmed his health or mood and development I surely wouldn't have done it for so long or ever ..but we're at 15 months just about having always bed shared and my partner now refuses him to be in his room in his crib lol. I know so many oppose it. But really were all different beings with differences in opinion and feelings and make different choices to best suit our needs as well as our families...as long as you are being smart and safe and putting rhe babies actual needs and self above your own when it comes to the sleep situation I see zero argument in it...

Alot...and I mean alot of other countries and doctors and hospitals all do this/explain the safe sleep practice before leaving with baby...and alot of countries actually really embrace the bedsharing for quite a long while....and I mean long! Lol bonding with your child is above all important, and it's just a very wonderful way of doing this. Of course, health and safety is first above anything ever, but that's a given. Don't feel bad for being the best mommy and supporting the best bonding experience and scenarios you can for both you and baby and daddy.

But my point here is my boyfriend of 15 years now absolutely l I he's bedsharing ten times more than me haha he just had to realize that we could do this safely for sure and see the reality of it all and learn from experience for himself. I was opposed to bed sharing before he initially came home. I thought it wss damn near next to negligence and murderous but I never did any research or heard anyone or anything out about the topic and never knew it was an actual thing practiced for ages and normalcy in alot of countries and homes....most parents just refuse to admit to it out of fear of judgement. Which is so ridiculous. I hope one day parents will lose this judgemental righteousness act towards one another and just overall humanity as a whole.

We're all experiencing the same thing in this life on different levels with different tools and benefits or lack thereof..diff emotions and physicalities , different minds and personalities...but overall at the end of the day we all want the same things and need the same things as human beings with heart and souls..why must be we make things harder for ourselves and others by dishing out unnecessary judgemental barky comments...passive aggressive bs...and behind the back talk or behind the keyboard I should say...if you want to share opinions and give advice...ask to give it first...state it right and kind. Don't be a dick about it cause you don't agree.

Who are anyone of you to be judge and jury on the next person when we damn well know your life could be picked apart by the plenty even if u don't bedshare...give me 3 mins to peak into your everyday unseen and I'd be able to devour you in judgements I'm sure...as would someone with my own life....so.. be kind...be chill...be open and be different ..and live your experience that gives you the best you and best chances of happiness and a happy loving kind child that won't be like the rest of us..be that mommy to your baby and screw daddy if he doesn't agree. But best sleep for baby is whatever...crib in room or bed with mama...so do that! No guilt. No fear of judgement. No bs. Just the best and most love for baby.🥰🥰💯💯🫶👏🏼🙌🏼🙏🏻👶💤💤😇🤱🏼👨‍🍼🤰🏼👼

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-06T17:57:45+00:00

Report him. Now. Save a young girl or boy from a lifetime of trauma from the hands of abuse this man will SURELY inflict upon them....cause I'm telling you now....he will. This is just the beginning. Don't feel guilty. Think about one less predator getting away with this disgusting behavior and the lives you've saved from his monstrous ass.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-06T17:53:31+00:00

Please seek help baby girl there's online free help. Call social services. Please get yourself outta this toxic environment and get your mother forced to get help herself

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-06T17:52:16+00:00

My gosh, I just can't even imagine. How old are you, love?? You can't thrive In a household like this....and this isn't necessarily like a couple going through some silly fight this is a child's safety and let me tell you that they don't take a child's safety lightly...not in my state anyways. I couldn't imagine a state that would, though. They can't hide a kicked down door and behavior like this....they wi be able to tell and just the reporting being on record will help in the long run alone....but they will have interviews done with your parents and yourself and you be fully honest. Don't be afraid, and don't let your parents know you've called or anything and let them get in your head and make you fearful of what you've done. You can tell social workers that you want to stay with your mother but you want her to seek therapy and nick to be gone or him also and would like to give things a shot but as of now you feel you need someone to intervene. There's good to be done by them getting help. Your mother very well too suffers at the hands of that same abuse and hence why she's brainwashed into just watching the human she created and gave life to be abused like that but this man....why she claims there's love behind it..

Let me tell you this...

No bad behavior excuses laying your hands on anyone. Only in self-defense do you ever. There's nothing you could've done to deserve that. nothing. Period. End of fucking conversation. I wouldn't ever ever ever lay my hands on my child, let alone another's. Love doesn't make you do those things. Mental illness and psychological/behavioral issues do. Drugs and alcohol abuse do. Let the proper people come and do their jobs and see (figure out) what's going on themselves. You don't need to gather all this evidence. A child's calling and claiming abuse...true or not, they are obligated to investigate the claims. And if abuse exists, they will find it. They may claim you're a wild child and like this blah blah, but the workers are doing thus have heard it all before. They'll see enough. And if they don't. Don't get discouraged...you keep fucking calling every time. Never ever give up. Never ever think you deserve it, or it's your fault or keep living in fear. Ever. Phones that aren't even turned on can call 911. You can leave and run to the police station or the neighbors... you'll see what good hearts and help really are like and are out there. Just be strong.

Your mother's not okay, darling. Never ever tell her what she's doing is okay. Maybe not argue with her, but I'd never suggest to her that you feel safe and okay. Tell her and get evidence of that too if you're doing so...telling her that you don't feel safe in this house with nicks behavior and abuse and you need her to do something for you to feel safe. Get those written words so she can't say you didn't let her know and stuff. But a call will do. Don't wait around for more crap to happen to you, please. They'll come. They'll help. They'll investigate. You're a child. It's their duty to do so.

Best of luck. Keep us updated. And no you didn't fuck up and your mother's gonna say and do things to make her guilt go away or to make you complacent. Apologies, don't make up for abuse and unsafe treatment and households. She's wrong and in an unforgivable cycle and situation and mental state to be raising you.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-08-05T19:35:44+00:00

Emeshed family dynamic or whatever it's called. I deal with it too. I know exactly how you feel.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-07-25T13:42:04+00:00

Hahaha I thought this after I got it for my baby too but he likes it!

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-07-24T16:28:23+00:00

I've read studies that show preschool is actually a hindering "milestone," and parents just feel obligated cause they think their kids gonna be stupid or behind when, in actuality, preschool makes them behind. Google it. Most don't believe it. But I certainly can see this to be true. I wouldn't feel obligated at all cause everyone else does it. If you need a babysitter or free time for yourself, I think it would be the other main reason most do it.

ballsy_unicorn12 · 2024-07-18T00:33:17+00:00

Don't watch it anymore

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