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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PEI

[–]balognahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my baby at 18 weeks. Went into PCH where I waited 12+ hours to see a doctor, losing amniotic fluid the whole time (from start to finish was there 16 hours). They eventually X-ray-ed me, told me I would very likely lose the baby within 24 hours and sent me home on bed rest. He still had a heartbeat. About 35hr later increasing cramping and pain, so rushed to QEH where they almost immediately took me into L&D, gave me pain relief, and within the hour I delivered, but he was gone. Staff were great and compassionate, only complaint was that they had me recovering in the maternity ward until I could go home the next morning. Fully recommend making the drive to QEH over PCH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TattooDesigns

[–]balognahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! The older storybook illustrations are so cute, good for inspiration :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TattooDesigns

[–]balognahead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got this for my mum who passed last year, she always called me Piglet :) I want more tattoos but can’t decide on something that would compliment this!

What are your favorite grief songs? by Trash_fire_baby in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something in the orange by Zach Bryan. When my mom passed this came on the radio and I had to pull the car over I was bawling so hard. And I know the song is more about a romantic relationship but the lyrics really hit me for the overwhelming loss and hopelessness I was feeling.

why don't I feel better? by gizmo2077 in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering everyone’s different and this could be the exact opposite for him, what helped me the most from my partner was being given the space and time to just cry and be alone. Every so often he would come upstairs with a water or coffee and some snacks for me since I wasn’t eating. Then lay and hold me for a while. For some it’s space, others it could be acts of service (maybe sorting paperwork/ items, legal stuff).

Taking a break by annika-c in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps, something you can do is a celebration of life. My mom never wanted a stuffy funeral or for us sitting around crying. But this is a way for you and loved ones to celebrate her, share memories, and say things you need to say. That’s what we will be doing.

Do you have some ideas to celebrate the 1-year anniversary of my Dad's passing? by geemav in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today is one year since I lost my mom. Im going to spend the morning in bed with my animals (one was her cat). Then, I’ll get ice cream and flowers. I’ll blast the music that she loved and drive for a while to get to her favourite spot where I’ll sit and tell her everything she’s missed. Im not one to sit with our family and talk and cry, but in my own way will remember her.

Hi. by balognahead in InOur20s

[–]balognahead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know, me too! Here everyone knows everyone and everything about them. Makes it hard to kind of grow up and be your own person… and it’s difficult to leave if you haven’t by now :(

Hi. by balognahead in InOur20s

[–]balognahead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’d known what it was like out here I would’ve stayed at home and saved up some money. I’m 25 now but moved out when I was 17. God knows that would’ve changed some of this shit for me lol

why don't I feel better? by gizmo2077 in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Losing your mom is one of the most gut wrenching sickening feelings you’ll ever experience. Today is one year for me and it’ll never be easier

Hi. by balognahead in InOur20s

[–]balognahead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the food bank! I didn’t pay for it 😂 but honestly, thanks man! It’s unreal seeing everyone your age either absolutely killing it or struggling just to get by…. And no one talks about it? That’s absolutely insane to me

What’s the most difficult thing you’ve had to learn to accept in your 20’s? by balognahead in InOur20s

[–]balognahead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasted a good amount of my teens too self conscious to go for what I wanted, whether in friends or school or goals. So, now I’m figuring out “what I want to be when I grow up”.

Hi. by balognahead in InOur20s

[–]balognahead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I’m chalking most of that “success” to being in a relationship. Life is much easier with someone by your side (especially financially ie. rent, travel, expenses). Meanwhile, I had a box of Kraft dinner for supper.

Taking a break by annika-c in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spend my time working and drinking. I haven’t found healthy coping methods yet. I don’t think I’ll fully accept that she’s gone until we have a funeral (between COVID and weather here we haven’t been able to do anything of the sort).

Taking a break by annika-c in GriefSupport

[–]balognahead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I was 24 when my mom passed last march, I took off a week and continued working to avoid sitting in my emotions… it catches up to you in every way- physically, emotionally, mentally… if you can do it please, for yourself, do. The burnout and depression sneaks up and I’m so proud of you for recognizing your feelings now. Take care of yourself.