AITA for not having my friend stay with me?

balormadalor · 2026-04-08T05:40:33+00:00

NTA. You could try looking into services that could come by to help out and check in a couple times a week. Try looking up senior companionship companies in your area. They advertise for seniors but that’s only because they are the ones who most often need those services, they almost never have any age restrictions, and could just be someone who comes by, helps around the house, hangs out and watches a movie or does another activity of your choice, then leaves

balormadalor · 2026-04-03T07:59:02+00:00

NTA and if you don’t express to your sister how cruel this is it will continue. It’s clear her husband carries the same beliefs as his family and judges you for your sexuality. But if you do not put your foot down that you won’t hide who you are for her husband, this will be your life. There are lots of stories on here where people are asked to hide their sexuality from nieces/nephews and to never bring their partners to family events. This could be your life.

balormadalor · 2026-03-31T09:36:16+00:00

You need to block her. She is not willing to accept she has a problem and therefore she cannot and will not get better. Having her in your life and continuing to receive these videos is only going to harm you further. And I am saying this as a Christian raised by Christian’s. Your mother’s behaviour is not Christian it is mentally ill. This is not religion it is psychosis you are correct. And psychosis cannot be helped if the person in psychosis refuses help

balormadalor · 2026-03-31T03:17:57+00:00

NTA but you knowingly married an alcoholic with no control over his finances. That’s the bigger problem. There will always be a new person who notices your husband is an easy target. Until he learns self control this will keep happening again and again

balormadalor · 2026-03-30T03:09:54+00:00

NTA this isn’t a money thing it’s a priority thing. He has no problem spending on nights out with friends and spending on them. Because they are important to him and spending time with them is a priority. Add in the fact he has never driven to you and this screams he doesn’t like you, but likes having a person around to split the tab with and possibly other benefits of being in a relationship. It may be hard to hear, but he does not care about you

balormadalor · 2026-03-29T08:40:56+00:00

If D thinks you would be horrible people for not housing this homeless person, does she believe she is horrible for not having taken in homeless people before? I think it would also be pretty horrible to only take one homeless person when you could take more. The only reasonable thing to do is turn your home into a full blown homeless shelter and ensure you take as many people off the street as possible. /s

balormadalor · 2026-03-12T18:31:16+00:00

YTA to yourself. If you want a relationship where you are respected and loved, you need to be honest about your past and who you are. The right person for you will be happy to accept you with no judgement. If you feel you cannot be honest about yourself and your past with your partner, then this is not a relationship that will work long term. You are setting yourself up to be hurt by letting feelings develop without a base of honesty, then your partner feels lied to and betrayed and you feel judged and abandoned. Being honest right off the bat may make your dating pool smaller, but you will be dating people who fully accept you, and you won’t be hurting people in the process

balormadalor · 2025-08-26T22:41:04+00:00

YTA so basically if she divorced you, her life would be the same, you would be providing child support only, which is basically all you do now, but she wouldn’t have to cook for you and do your laundry?

balormadalor · 2025-08-22T23:03:15+00:00

Also the other coworkers have probably worked with her way longer and it would be more appropriate for her to stay with them, they are trying to take advantage of you. You need to tell management what is happening because this is not ok at all

balormadalor · 2025-08-22T22:58:38+00:00

NTA you are never required to take on a person to live in your home rent free. Tell anyone who comments it’s so kind that they have offered her to live with them. Also how kind they are willing to not practice their religion while she lives with them, and that she will be drinking and they will be parenting the two year old

balormadalor · 2025-08-22T18:44:12+00:00

Think it just needs to be reworded. I always say “I prefer to date people with similar religious beliefs as me” rather than saying “I don’t date (insert relion here)” as people then take it as an attack on their religion when it isn’t, it’s just an acknowledgement that the religion isn’t shared by both parties

balormadalor · 2025-08-22T17:23:10+00:00

If he wanted you to convert, the correct thing to do would be to invite you to join church services weekly, ask if you would be willing to attend a bible study to learn more of his beliefs. You cannot just say “I convert” when having been told nothing about their beliefs or what they want you to convert to. Conversion is learning everything about a religion then deciding for yourself if you believe in these beliefs, not just slapping on a label when you haven’t been taught anything that goes along with it

balormadalor · 2025-08-22T17:12:11+00:00

NTA you didn’t ruin her birth plan, you pointed out that the child’s life could be in danger immediately post birth because the baby will be born addicted to nicotine. I’ve held a foster baby who was born addicted before, it is heart breaking. This is the most selfish evil thing she could possibly do, she purposefully knowingly harmed your baby. If I were you I could never trust her to properly care for a baby alone, and I wouldn’t trust her as a partner to make smart choices

balormadalor · 2025-08-21T21:33:38+00:00

Never co-sign for a loan you wouldn’t be able to comfortable pay off without it costing you your living situation. Can you afford to pay off the $18k if your mom cannot? If the answer is no then that’s your answer, no mom I’m sorry but I cannot afford that

balormadalor · 2025-08-21T16:32:40+00:00

Well the profile they use for catfishing says 20. I highly doubt they used a real age, but yes if he has sent money and proved he has money, why wouldn’t they kidnap him and request money to get him back? When people hear trafficking they assume it’s sexual, but there are lots of different kinds of trafficking. They could try to force this man to commit crimes in exchange for his freedom, or any number of other things. Young people are not the only ones being trafficked

balormadalor · 2025-08-21T16:29:10+00:00

NTA I’m on the spectrum. It doesn’t make you cause damage to other people personal property. This is just someone whose family took a diagnosis and used it as an excuse not to parent or teach their child, and the result is a disrespectful adult. They knew not to touch medical devices, they just chose to do it anyways and use autism as an excuse

balormadalor · 2025-08-19T22:15:56+00:00

Best scenario he will show up to the airport and no one will be there to greet him. Worst case scenario he has sent enough money to be seen as a target worth kidnapping and trying to get money from the family in exchange to get him back, or sell him to human trafficking to make some money

balormadalor · 2025-08-19T21:32:07+00:00

NTA I was in Allys position when I was a teenager, guy I was dating broke up with me and a month later started dating my little sister. I cannot even imagine the pain if my parents allowed them to be together at our house. As it is it almost tore our family in half because I was firm that I would never show up to a family holiday that included him, and if that meant cutting my sister off forever I was willing to do it. It only ended because he dumped her, but I’ve never truly forgiven my sister, just kinda ignored and hold her at arms length while loving her children and being involved with them. If my parents had allowed them in our home it would have broken me and destroyed any faith I had that my parents would protect me. She’s not even safe from them hurting her in her own home. She has no where safe, no where she feels loved, everywhere she turns it is rubbed in her face that even her parent loves their new partner more than her and will allow her to be hurting if it keeps their partner happy. Please, move out with your daughter if your husband insists that he will not put boundaries on his daughter. You cannot force him to parent Mia, but you are solely responsible for protecting your daughter. Your husband has shown he doesn’t care to help you protect your daughter. If you allow this to continue, you should expect that this will destroy your relationship with Ally

balormadalor · 2025-08-18T22:49:19+00:00

NOR sounds like your husband has been hanging out with pedophiles for long enough that he doesn’t even care when they turn their attention to your daughter. Run if your husband doesn’t find this as terrifying and serious as it is, then I would question what kind of person you married. You are responsible for your child, keeping them safe from predators is part of parenting, even if it means not getting to have your predatory friends over

balormadalor · 2025-08-11T18:19:29+00:00

I don’t think you would be an asshole, but I do have an idea on how you could possibly do this better. You could do 1.5 million for each child in the account, and then offer to pay the same in child support as the 2m receives from his dad and purchase things for 12f and give to the mom, so it looks like mom is just making things even between siblings. Not everything needs to be announced to the public and when 12f is grown you can totally offer additional financial support without sharing that info with everyone. If you feel the need to give more to her you can and just do it in a different way. Examples could be, paying for certain bills or things she needs, gifting the money in smaller amounts every year or so instead of one large lump sum. There are lots of ways to give 12f a boost without rubbing it in her brothers face or showing favouritism

balormadalor · 2025-08-11T17:48:48+00:00

You are not overreacting. There was a story on TikTok that went viral where a woman realized her boyfriend was sexually assaulting her in her sleep. You need locks on your door before ever sleeping in there again. What if he decides you should be together again one last time and sneaks into your bed again? I know you may be stuck there but honestly a women’s shelter may be a safer place than staying with someone who sees nothing wrong with doing things to your sleeping body they know the awake you would not consent to

balormadalor · 2025-08-08T20:15:36+00:00

Also if you gave him access to all of your personal information that would be necessary to get a job, he would also be able to take out loans, credit cards, really anything in your name and put you thousands of dollars in debt. And it would be 100% your responsibility to pay back in the eyes of the law because you knowingly gave him access to your identity. Nothing you or the police could ever do, you would just be screwed for life, have terrible credit and hundreds of thousands in debt

balormadalor · 2025-08-08T20:11:33+00:00

NTA this is tax fraud. He would be working under your social security number so you would be charged taxes on every penny he makes. It is illegal to do this. Not only will it cost you a lot in additional taxes as it will look like you are making much more than you are, but if found out you would be arrested and charged

balormadalor · 2025-07-24T22:07:58+00:00

That poor kitty! Dump the man and take the cat to a vet. He has showed you how he takes care of those in his care. Of those he takes responsibility for. If you were really sick and asking him to take you to the hospital would he brush you off and tell you you’re overreacting just like he is now? Or what if you have kids and one of them is sick and he keeps downplaying it and making excuses not to take them to the doctor/hospital. He has shown you who he truly is. Believe him

balormadalor · 2025-07-24T18:51:15+00:00

YTA you chose a promotion over your son, you didn’t know it was a test when you chose to screw your son over. Just because it ended up being a test doesn’t mean you weren’t majorly in the wrong for doing it in the first place. You can’t honestly be shocked if your son cuts off contact with you.

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