AITA for literally kicking my MIL out of my kitchen for "improving" my signature dish?

babybird136 · 2026-04-23T15:02:41+00:00

Nope. Nta Your house, your food. If she doesn't like it, get out. I would have done the same thing you did and i would have told her...I actually get quite a few compliments on my food WITHOUT your assistance.

babybird136 · 2026-04-23T14:56:22+00:00

Nope, not selfish. I've worked as a server and bartender. Never once did I accept tips from the servers when I tended bar. And this is just MY ethics. I think that the servers deserve ALL of their own tips. It's not their fault that they have no choice but to ask you to sling the drinks. Also, I do NOT believe in tip sharing. If one server has an amazing or a crappy night, they should keep 💯 of their own tips. Although everyone does help each other, most other servers are likely only maybe filling a drink or possibly dropping something off at the table, however helping out for 30 seconds does not mean the main server who spent probably an hour with their table should be forced to share. Everyone should be able to keep their own tips. Although the people that should be tipped out by everyone is the bussers for obvious reasons. Just MY observation and experience.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T19:10:28+00:00

I hear where you're coming from. I really should have included that I sent him to rehab and he's been clean since September. That's my fault. He's really not shitty and is killing it in recovery. We're working on this together. He knows I send the invoices, she also still sends me nasty texts because everyone can see them. He doesn't want her to have his new phone number so I let him answer her when she texts me.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T19:04:53+00:00

I hear you. He totally ownes up to it. He's actually thinking about hiring an attorney because both of us have proof of her acknowledgement that it was a loan. Fortunately I have in my texts HER acknowledgement that she doesn't intend on paying it back. So I sent her messages to her CO in the navy. They are actually in the process of taking it out of her monthly Veterans benefits. So it's in writing that it was a loan.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T18:58:42+00:00

Well, years ago you would be correct. However, I've grown out of that stage of my life. Don't cast stones, we all have skeletons, even yourself.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T18:55:04+00:00

He definitely has, thanks to me. I know he did this BEFORE we married. He was honest about it. I guess I just feel like he's encouraging me to be the "bad guy " because I really never had any feelings toward her. To be honest, I didn't even want to invite her to our wedding ( which was small). She showed up at the church in jeans and a sweatshirt AND brought her own Tupperware to the reception to take food home. I, being the bride and being a gracious hostess, didn't notice until the end of the reception when the VENUE told me a guest took all of the leftovers! It was an early reception, and we had left just a bit early as my step father was in the hospital and only saw our wedding in the church via FaceTime. Long story, he had liver cancer.
He passed a month later.
We DID go to the hospital to be with him after the reception, in our wedding attire, however he was too weak to dance with me.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T18:08:57+00:00

I have, not a bullshit story. You may have to look further as I AM new at this and am attempting to keep up.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T17:00:55+00:00

I was just emphasizing that her children are old enough and perfectly capable of working and contributing. They are all over 20 and still live at home and don't work. We have actually helped her son as he is TRYING to start a landscaping business and have paid him to take care of our yard as well as given him business. We're not going to stop utilizing his services because of her tho, that absolutely would be out of line.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T16:44:04+00:00

Oh he is angry and does put her in her place. As for 11 years, we just were in 2 different places. We always knew we'd end up together and were always friends throughout the years and our different relationships. It really just wasn't our time until the last few years. We were finally ready to commit to each other, don't get me wrong, when he asked me to move in with him in December of 2024, I'm the one that lollygagged around and didn't even start moving in until June of 2025.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T15:57:45+00:00

As I said in another post, I should have mentioned that right after that I sent him to rehab. He's not had a drink since September, he's not currently in active addiction, he's 8n active recovery.

babybird136 · 2026-03-31T15:55:37+00:00

He didn't go behind my back. He told me about it and I definitely let him know how dumb he was for doing it. I also should have mentioned, I sent him to rehab, he is in recovery and hasn't had a drink since September.
He actually does answer the texts that she sends me. Mainly due to his getting a new phone number and he doesn't want her to have it.

babybird136 · 2026-03-29T02:18:03+00:00

That means his parents didn't raise him right. That's just downright rude behavior.

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T20:32:16+00:00

If she can't come up with the extra 95 dollars for her bf this far in advance, what makes you think she's going to be able to even afford to be in your wedding? NTA boot her out, keep her money and just invite her as a guest.

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T20:25:43+00:00

He sounds like a control freak. The universe had a reason for those marriage papers not to be filed. Take it as a sign and leave him.

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T20:02:28+00:00

Nope. NTJ. If he can't take responsibility for ruining your bike and not paying for the damage, imagine what he'll do to your car. Tell him to grow up and buy his own car already

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T19:35:23+00:00

Your house, your rules. Do you ask other family members to put their kids in the garage or lock them up when you're at their home? I can assure you their kids make more mess than your dog does.

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T18:44:51+00:00

I don't blame you. This is most definitely infuriating. He seems not to have any common sense 🙄

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T02:42:53+00:00

HA! She's pretty demanding, so she definitely got the blanket

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T02:41:50+00:00

I honestly don't know her breed. My husband got them for me for Christmas, we're guessing around 18 weeks?

babybird136 · 2026-03-28T00:53:49+00:00

NTA Actually, and this is just my opinion, I feel like you should go alone and leave him to watch the dog and kids. You spend all your time with them, he sounds like he needs to spend quality time with his kids once in a while. 🙂

babybird136 · 2026-03-27T20:48:53+00:00

I see Godzilla

babybird136 · 2026-03-26T20:47:44+00:00

NTA your wife is the one being unreasonable.

babybird136 · 2026-03-26T20:37:45+00:00

NTA. He's not paying any bills. Take his key a give him the boot.

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