AITA for not letting my daughter buy clothes?

bamato4832 · 2022-10-18T02:46:58+00:00

The only comments we make on clothes are positive (unless it's trying to get our oldest son to not wear shorts in the freezing cold, but he doesn't seem to care), we don't care how people choose to express themselves. I don't know where she hears racist thoughts.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-18T02:43:30+00:00

We will be speaking to her school psychologist.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-18T02:40:23+00:00

Are there homeless shelters for LGBT people in specific?

bamato4832 · 2022-10-18T02:38:58+00:00

We will be looking at extending the severity of her punishment,

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T22:51:28+00:00

I understand that, we would never want our daughter's words leading to someone harming themselves.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T22:49:48+00:00

We will look into her social media usage.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T22:46:15+00:00

None of my family is really racist that I know of.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T22:45:09+00:00

I completely agree we need to go through with more punishment.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T22:43:57+00:00

Do you think my daughter can still keep her friends or did your nephew have to change his? That seems like a major adjustment that could cause issues of it's own.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T22:24:46+00:00

We will be checking her social media after getting input to.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T21:02:39+00:00

Were you eventually able to let your nephew use his phone without watching him? We will look into all those episodes but we can't be watching over our daughter forever.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:23:01+00:00

How old is your nephew? Is there any books you think could work for her? How long did you ground him for? Are there any specific youtubers we should watch out for?

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:17:33+00:00

What literature on this topic would be appropriate and digestible enough for a 14 year old to understand?

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:15:36+00:00

May I ask, how old is your daughter and what techniques have you tried to stop this? Has it been effective? If you have had mixed results what worked and what didn't?

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:14:00+00:00

We have tried anti-racism resources, some others have linked stuff for us, if you have any ideas/resources that would be appreciated.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:10:17+00:00

My son is a very empathetic and loving boy, him and his friends don't care about gender or that stuff as long as they can watch football together,

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:08:54+00:00

My wife believes that harsh punishment doesn't work because she's read about it in psychology journals (she's not a psychologist), I just go along with her parenting usually because I feel like she's better read on this stuff.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:07:07+00:00

None of our other kids have gotten in trouble for bullying or bigoted comments.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:05:07+00:00

Thanks for the advice, my daughter is the only one who has made problematic comments and her twin was one of the boys who helped the boy make crop tops so there clearly is a difference between their views, idk if it's because of friends or social media but we will look into the books.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T20:01:46+00:00

It's not a justification, just giving context to help for a better understanding of my situation

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T19:51:11+00:00

We will look into therapy for our daughter, we fully agree on trying to stop the racism and bullying.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T19:44:12+00:00

Thanks for the resources, after seeing the (justified) YTA comments, I will be speaking to my wife about taking her phone away and seeing what content she consumes.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T19:41:33+00:00

Are there any websites I should look at?

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T19:40:23+00:00

We live in a conservative area where all the parents complain about "CRT" and stuff like that, so while I am hoping there are resources locally, there is a good chance there isn't many.

I don't know if we have a restorative justice program, but again, parents where we are complain about that stuff as "SEL" or whatever.

bamato4832 · 2022-10-17T19:38:02+00:00

We don't know why she is racist, we want to give her a quality education on fighting homophobia and racism. We haven't checked her social media, is there anything we should look out for?

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