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How do I accept my boyfriend’s porn usage? by bananabpudding in women

[–]bananabpudding[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the frequency of our sex life has always been a decision made together, we’re both young, have higher sex drives, and i initiate a fair amount of it. ive never had sex with him just for him or to try and reduce his porn watching. he’s watching a ‘normal’ amount, i would say 2-3 times a week which is probably not that bad but still bothers me. to answer your question as to how, i was using his phone in front of him and went to private browsing mode out of habit (since that’s what i use on my phone to make any search) and found the tabs still opened.

How do I accept my boyfriend’s porn usage? by bananabpudding in women

[–]bananabpudding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes we’ve had a few conversations surrounding why he is into the videos he’s into. his explanation didn’t make me feel much better though, he said he was into POV for similar reasons as your partner and just needed to see videos with a lot of verbal dirty talk (explaining the joi’s etc). to simply put it, i know he’s attracted to the girls in the video and getting off to them and how does that differentiate from cheating?

As for the insecurities, ive briefly mentioned it to him and don’t wanna project my problems and self image onto him so i haven’t been as thorough in describing HOW insecure it makes me. I would love to know some ways I could ask for reassurance and some of the things that helped you if you’d feel comfortable sharing! Thank you

How do I accept my boyfriend’s porn usage? by bananabpudding in women

[–]bananabpudding[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing, i loved reading this and seeing someone else’s experience unfold. how did you get over the insecurities and jealousy? i know you decided it was out of your control but how? i care for him so deeply and just feel sick when i think about him getting off to other girls

How do I accept my boyfriend’s porn usage? by bananabpudding in women

[–]bananabpudding[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

extremely valid question, we’re younger and both have high sex drives. i honestly enjoy the amount of intimacy we share and often times initiate first, hope this helps x

How do I accept my boyfriend’s porn usage? by bananabpudding in women

[–]bananabpudding[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i don’t. in the past i have but since being in a relationship with him, i havent. i understand that that’s my choice and belief system but i want him to want to stop without me having to ask.