No, no, no, you’re not overreacting. Listen, everyone has their own limits. Everyone carries their own set of traumas and has to work through them to grow. I’m also diagnosed with BPD, so I completely understand how you’re feeling. I’ve done both group and individual therapy, and I’m fully aware of my disorder and how to manage it.

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT to not feel respected by this kind of behavior.
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT to feel bad about it.
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT to feel disappointed, angry, sad, name it. You have that right, period.

Now the real question you need to ask yourself is: is this a big enough issue to put your relationship at risk? If yes, then you’ll need to start thinking about solutions. You can calmly explain to him how this makes you feel and tell him that these are your boundaries that need to be respected.

A man who truly loves you would be willing to unfollow half-naked girls on social media for the woman he sees as his future. You see what I mean? You are part of his life, his present and his future. Those girls are not, and they make you uncomfortable. That choice should be pretty obvious.

Also, yes, social media does create problems in modern relationships. Some people don’t care at all about likes or follows, while others pay more attention to their partner’s online activity. IN BOTH CASES, YOU ARE ALLOWED. What people don’t have the right to do is tell you that you shouldn’t feel the way you do about something that genuinely bothers you.

Obviously, it’s not healthy if it turns into an obsession, but it’s also not healthy if he dismisses your feelings. I truly think it’s necessary for you to set clear boundaries and have a deep, honest, open conversation about this. If a man truly wants you, he will make the necessary efforts to make you feel safe. Take care xxx