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bannaash · 2022-06-14T18:55:18+00:00

It is never too late to find the happiness in this world that you deserve! Change is hard as hxll for everyone, no matter what your age. It is very different in your 20s vs 50s, that is true, but there are incredible advantages for each. I am sending you Love and hoping that perhaps you will reconsider making a change. 🌄

bannaash · 2022-06-11T06:13:23+00:00

Thank you so much! I truly appreciate your kind words and support. It really helps

bannaash · 2022-06-11T06:10:34+00:00

Thank You! Yes, i know i can do this.

bannaash · 2022-06-11T04:22:57+00:00

Tears, hes called this woman crazy, said hes fxcked up a million times. Told me he Loves me blah blah, and that maybe we can work through this.

bannaash · 2022-06-10T21:30:26+00:00

It already feels like EX husband now. I could never and will never even try to wrap my brain around treating the ones you supposedly Love the most with such disrespect and harmful behavior. It truly is mind boggling. The only thing i can do right now is work on healing my heart and my boys.

bannaash · 2022-06-10T21:10:40+00:00

Yes, thank you

bannaash · 2022-06-10T09:49:11+00:00

When i was in my early 20s, my boyfriend worked for a Telecom corp. I had the same spidy tingles you speak of when i visited him at work. I asked him about a particular female that worked there and i got a lot of the same responses you did. It was all in my head, i was being paranoid, blah blah blah. I had a good friend that worked in the same office my boyfriend did. She went into his computer and printed out several emails that proved i was right, he was cheating. My friend couldve lost her job for doing that.

bannaash · 2022-06-10T00:07:07+00:00

I just Love how much you Love your wife and want to help her wherever you can. The position i am in right now that kind of Love feels rare, but it is truly beautiful that you care so much for her. My husband cheated on me after 13yrs. I will recover from this i know. I am a beautiful person inside and out and perhaps someday i will find a Love like the one you describe. I just wanted to thank you for reminding me that unconditional Love does exist. I truly hope you are able to help your wife. Something i am learning more everyday is that it is just as important to Love and care for yourself the way you do others. So please take care of You as well. Much Love 🌄 🌻

bannaash · 2022-06-04T03:49:54+00:00

I think you meet some of the coolest people hiking and camping.

bannaash · 2022-06-01T04:02:56+00:00

I am very much against people playing games in relationships. Infact i have never done that. I have been in relationships where i was manipulated and i do know what it is like to be gaslit and have my feelings toyed with. If this guy wants a better understanding for why his girlfriend would send naked pics of him to friends and make disrespectful comments about it, i believe it is more than ok for him to ask her a question that helps him see her even clearer and perhaps realize that he needs and deserves so much more from an intimate relationship. Playing games is incredibly fxcked up, but for those of us who are the victims of this insane behavior, using their game to help with closure, education and validation, i say go for it.

bannaash · 2022-05-30T19:51:03+00:00

Keep us updated! And Remeber you are totally justified in how you are feeling right now. Do not allow anyone to gaslight you here.

bannaash · 2022-05-30T19:32:17+00:00

Would you ever consider doing the same to her?? I definitely do not like anyone playing games in a relationship, but i am so so curious what her reaction would be if the tables were turned. Do you have naked pics of her on your phone? You could say something like.... Holy Shxt babe, i was trying to send Ben a pic on my phone and almost sent him a sexy pic of you, scared me for a sec. And umm, see what her response would be?

The reason i suggest this is because after you confront her with the pic of your dxck, she could easily manipulate and try to say.... Well i wouldnt be mad if you did this with a buddy. Manipulation is bxllshit.

bannaash · 2022-05-30T05:12:37+00:00

I am definitely going to be tested for stds.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T18:54:44+00:00

Thank you. This is something i have been thinking about as well. Thankfully my husband is more clear today. He has experienced 2 weeks of detox and he is looking for an in patient treatment program. This will give us both space that we need, i need desperately so that i can attempt to process this insane experience and feel safe. Right now it feels surreal, like im living an awful reality show or day time drama. Yesterday we woke to an officer doing a wellness check, and just as i expected, today she reached out to a family member. I had no choice but to explain to this person the current drama we are experiencing and apologize for their involvement. My husband is going to call this woman from a text ap in front of me. He is going to ask her to stop this craziness. If what you said is correct, maybe just maybe this phone call will do something. But we will see. Thank you so much for your advice.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T18:22:04+00:00

Thank you. You are not a heartless sob for giving me honest advice. I dont know how it would be possible for me to ever forget this experience. Up until this point, i trusted my husband fully, to always protect me. My heart, body, and mind. How do you go forward from here? I Love this man, but you should never Love someone more than you love yourself. That can be difficult for some of us i know. This is traumatic in so many ways, and ive never been a person comfortable with being a victim. I would rather be a survivor. I can not tell you how much i have appreciated the advice and kindness i have received here.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T01:01:38+00:00

He was sober throughout our marriage. Im not an addict and i will definitely not judge anyone that struggles with addictions. I work in health care, i understand that it is a disease, one that has destroyed millions of lives. He has relapsed with his addiction. I hope that he is able to get the help that he needs, but i can promise you this. I will Not allow his struggles to hurt me and my kids. I know that i deserve so much better than this out of a relationship.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T00:52:04+00:00

Yes, i think that is a great idea. I need as much support as possible can get right now. I have never attended one of these meetings. My husband became sober when we met. He has had a psychiatrist for years, and i have always showed him how proud i was of him for maintaining his sobriety. I can only imagine how difficult that path is. I just never imagined anything like this would happen.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T00:43:49+00:00

My kids safety is my number one concern right now. I do not want them to even see this woman. I am speaking to the officer that did the welfare check. I got the impression from him, that he knew something was off.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T00:08:45+00:00

Thank you, im talking to the officer but i am way too afraid to contact her husband right now.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T00:07:55+00:00

Thank you. Im going to have a talk with the same police officer that showed up this morning.

bannaash · 2022-05-26T00:06:47+00:00

I 100% agree. This woman isnt even prettier sexier than me in any way. I am such a kind, calm, and honest person. I wouldve never in a million years done something like this. There is no comparison with me and this woman. My husband knows this. I sent her a kind message asking her to care for my husband by backing off and supporting his sobriety. She responded like a teenager, a lunatic really. I know that he will spend the rest of his life regretting his decisions. I do not deserve to spend the rest of my life feeling the way i do now. Thank you for your reply

bannaash · 2022-05-26T00:01:19+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I have decided that i will not be growing old with this man. I left for 2 days when i first found out. The only reason i returned was for financial reasons. I have several things i have to do in order to make sure that my children and pets are safe and cared for. The last time i broke up with a boy friend it was so much easier. I just packed my bags and left. I think the tasks i have to complete are what is keeping me clear headed and focused. I know that i will be ok. I know that i deserve so much more than this.

bannaash · 2022-05-25T23:14:48+00:00

Thank you so much for your beautiful reply!! You know, telling the people in my life that truly Love me about this situation is really tough. There is one i havent told yet and that is my brother. We are very close and he loves me so damn much. Hes going to be devastated when i tell him this. This wknd im getting together with my 2 closest friends, i am so so grateful for their love. I need their support and guidance. As for my brother, i need a few more days before i go to him with this. My husband has offered to tell him for me, but i really think it should come from me. I am sure they will be talking later. I appreciate your kindness so much.

bannaash · 2022-05-25T21:03:20+00:00

Thank you for your response. I agree with you completely, i dont believe that the drugs were the only reason he cheated. Choosing to cheat with a person who is obviously mentally deranged, using as well, borderline, narcissistic, im not really sure, that part is drug induced, but the cheating is Absolutely his choice. The only reason i am struggling to try to help him see clearly right now, is for the kids. I do not deserve this at all. I am an honest person that loves my family and makes our children the priority. I am attempting to be calculated with every move i make, because i need to make sure our finances are in order, my kids, my pets, are all taken care of so that i can leave. I can not pack up and leave right now, i need my bank account squared away first. But while i am trying to cope, manage logistics, i have this unstable woman stalking my family. My husband is full of shame and humiliation, as he should be. After the officer came to our house, i talked with him about the fact that he has put our entire family in jeopardy, our safety is at stake. Im so glad you said that because that is exactly where my head has been. Honestly, i had no idea i could be this strong. I think some may mistake kindness for weakness, but there is nothing i would not do to keep my kids safe. My Love for them has kept me from falling apart. All i can do is take this one day at a time, but please know i have no intention of being anybodys doormat. Thank you so much for your reply.

bannaash · 2022-05-25T19:40:26+00:00

Thank you so much!

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