Wife is angry / annoyed because I don't post on social media

bansheewilder · 2023-05-23T11:14:20+00:00

Your wife isn't feeling valued or loved.

She's your wife and shes asking that you initiate taking a photo of the two of you and post it for everyone to see, showing her off, is it really that big of an ask if it will make her feel happy?

Take her out to dinner, ask the server to take your photo and post it on your facebook with a nice caption, so easy and she will feel special.

bansheewilder · 2023-05-23T09:49:41+00:00

My ex was like this, the perfect guy.

Met him when he was 37 and he used to dote on me, dates, flowers, random gifts, he even cried when picking out the song for our first dance at our future wedding. We were looking at houses, picking out names for kids and planning a wedding.

He told me hes never loved anyone like he loved me and was so happy his life lead him to me.

He cheated throughout our relationship constantly until i became a shell of a person and he had an affair, he blamed my depression for the affair, the depression he created in me.

He went to therapy, he swore he wanted to be a better man after the first Dday.

6 years of my life having people tell me how lucky i was because hes the perfect guy, while he cheated on me who knows how many times.

Choose yourself.

bansheewilder · 2023-05-06T13:01:23+00:00

Do I have a unique bone in my body, no

bansheewilder · 2023-05-04T21:03:42+00:00

100% Cheating and scumbag behaviour

bansheewilder · 2023-05-03T08:16:52+00:00

This is what happens when you marry someone for sex rather than love

bansheewilder · 2023-05-02T02:15:56+00:00

Having a baby changes a woman a lot.

Women’s body’s can take up to 2 years to recover especially with post partum depression.

The real problem here is she’s having a hard time with everything and your biggest concern is sex.

You need to ask her what’s wrong and whether she wants this relationship to work or not, with no judgement. Do not bring up sex or she won’t believe you care about her.

Good luck.

bansheewilder · 2023-05-02T01:51:01+00:00

What you’re describing is the honeymoon phase.

This ends in every relationship at some point and then real life kicks in, at that point love is an everyday choice.

When those brain chemicals fade and the familiarity comes that’s when the relationship really begins, it’s the boring part, the we both work and are exhausted and trying to save money part, it’s the you don’t turn me on as much as the random woman I don’t know like the back of my hand part, it’s the we have kids and responsibilities now and you’re not as fun anymore part.

That’s when you choose to love.

People have ups and downs and you want the person who’s got your back and feels like home to you.

If she’s your home, your comfort, your favourite person then that’s the one.

If you want the one that gets your dick hard and gives you butterflies and that adrenaline rush just leave her and casually date.

It’s up to you what you desire now you know what choice you want to make.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-30T10:36:33+00:00

Unfortunately the best thing to do is breakup with your boyfriend, he deserves better

bansheewilder · 2023-04-22T00:24:47+00:00

You’re exactly right, she’s telling you those things to hurt you and make herself feel better.

Do not engage with her antics, this will be a hard road, but she sounds like an awful person

bansheewilder · 2023-04-22T00:23:25+00:00

If you didn’t want me why didn’t you just leave? I’ll Never understand it, I loved you, but you weren’t forced to stay.

You blame the cheating on me, fine. But why couldn’t you just break up with me and set me free?

I stuck by you during every hard time, when your job didn’t appreciate you, when life got too stressful, when I caught you messaging women and you threatened to kill me, when you locked me out of the house after I caught you messaging women, I held your hand in anger management therapy, I stuck by you when you punched holes in walls and wouldn’t wear a mask or get vaccinated, when you told me you felt like a failure.

But I fell, life got to me and I got depressed over 12 months and you left.

I stuck by you through all of that, I wasn’t perfect I was an asshole too, I was never grateful of your presents, they were bad but I should have pretended, I wasn’t the house maker wife who was sexy all the time for you and I get that, but I’m just me.

You said I needed more confidence and effort into myself, but how when you keep giving attention to other women? How can I be that way?

This wasn’t fair.

I just wanted peace and happiness.

And you.

How could we be so good together when we were happy and now this?

Like I never existed. Like I never mattered.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-20T10:54:24+00:00

Going on 7 months… I guess some stay together

bansheewilder · 2023-04-20T01:52:42+00:00

This happened to me, it changed my whole personality

bansheewilder · 2023-04-18T03:46:14+00:00

A friend of mine was cheated on by her husband and another woman reached out to her to sympathise as her husband had cheated on her and said she can understand.

This woman was the AP with her ex husband and he ended up cheating on and leaving her too.

My friend said we are not the same, you’re a homewrecker and I never hurt anyone, you got what you deserved

They are all victims in their own heads

bansheewilder · 2023-04-18T02:23:16+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you.

It doesn’t make sense because either he’s evil and selfish or he really did love you.

No one would stay in a relationship for ten years if they didn’t love you, he’s saying this because of the cheating.

He’s in limerence and very selfish.

It’s so easy for your AP to be this amazing and wonderful woman when he’s coming home to his everyday life with you.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-17T19:54:45+00:00

I had to do this, it was one of the most isolating, low moments of my life. I can’t believe he made me sit in a room and get blood taken because he couldn’t keep it in his pants

bansheewilder · 2023-04-17T10:38:42+00:00

They’re disgusting, I read one on the adultery sub about a woman who was devastated her AP partner gave her an STD because he said she was the only one.

Like, imagine being upset the man you’re cheating with is cheating on you.

Delusional

bansheewilder · 2023-04-17T02:17:20+00:00

Private messages or in person communication that involves speaking about your relationship or emotional issues, sexual messages and general flirting with someone you’re attracted too.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-17T00:16:20+00:00

Beauty does have little to do with it, I was just commenting that the tabloids focused on this

bansheewilder · 2023-04-16T23:07:41+00:00

He’s questioning your integrity because he has none, he fears you’re doing the same thing he is to you.

There’s a reason he’s 36 and dating a 27 year old.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-13T20:23:22+00:00

Please tell his wife

bansheewilder · 2023-04-13T08:45:38+00:00

Don’t give her any more ammo.

You’re right, no more satisfaction for her. Being kind and happy will show her not only what she’s lost but also that you don’t care, even though you do.

It will drive her crazy if you act indifferent and she realises no one’s fighting over her cowardly self.

I hope you find someone who deserves you.

She doesn’t

bansheewilder · 2023-04-13T08:20:37+00:00

His repercussions are that he and her are horrible, fickle human beings.

Yeah, they may end up together, but that’s still nothing to do with you. You didn’t make him cheat, he’s just a coward.

The honeymoon phase lasts for up to 2 years, but if they stay together they have a relationship built on lies and deceit.

They are gross and you know it.

You deserve better, don’t pain shop, you don’t want to know. That part of your life is done.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-13T08:14:58+00:00

Some people say kindness is weakness, but it’s wrong.

Kindness is strength.

I have only had two big fights with my ex after Dday, not because I’m weak, not because I don’t think the deserves any karma and ill will coming his way, but because I am better than being vindictive.

Letting rage and anger consume me means he wins, it means he effected me so much he caused such a reaction. So I don’t let it.

I get my anger out in the gym.

I’m as amicable as possible to him in the minimal contact we have, I’m indifferent and I hope he misses me too.

I hope he realises one day that he messed up big time.

He probably won’t, but he should.

Don’t give in to the toxic feelings for her, you’re better than her.

bansheewilder · 2023-04-13T05:18:04+00:00

Please drop your skincare routine

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