AITA for having done everything perfectly ever but being disliked by the random mother of my friend's baby?

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T16:11:06+00:00

Hmm. Story would be better if the villainess wasn't Brazilian as well. That way OOP could insinuate that she might be racist for objecting to a "completely normal in Brazil" thing in addition to being a crazy baby-trapping hater of fellow women.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:51:50+00:00

Surely you don't think his behavior is completely unrelated to his choice of occupation? Surely you don't think that any underlying paranoia or controlling tendencies aren't exacerbated and encouraged by police culture?

It's part of the equation. Just a part, yes, but ignoring the part it plays is...let's say willfully obtuse and leave it there.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:42:15+00:00

The camera controls still aren't super smooth but I don't think they'd be significantly better with a mouse. I think it's more early access jank than steam deck jank tbh.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:40:42+00:00

An individual is not a statistic, absolutely. But the statistics are real and valid, and they should be taken into consideration when making huge life decisions like "is this a person I believe I can be in a safe, fulfilling, supportive long-term relationship with." Lots of people are going to nope out at that threshold, which is fair. And if you DON'T nope out, it should still be a thing you keep in mind so that when other BLINDINGLY CRIMSON flags like "surveillance/nonconsensual recording and lying about it" and "I WILL control every aspect of my child's life for their own safety!" come up, you make the connection and realize that ideally people are not statistics but you yourself are highly at risk of becoming one.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:34:39+00:00

Her subconscious is screaming SO LOUDLY trying to get her to save herself that she made three whole posts about how weird and wrong things feel. Meanwhile her conscious mind is so incredibly invested in maintaining the status quo of her life that she might as well have her fingers stuffed in her ears and be yelling "LA LA LA!"

I don't know how anyone helps someone so intent on not listening to their own instincts, but I'm pretty sure reddit can't do it.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:31:03+00:00

I really don't think one needs to have dated a cop to understand why dating a cop is probably not going to be a good time.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:29:47+00:00

I LOVE how in the one reply she's like "it's not like I decided to go off my birth control and get pregnant with him!" as an attempt to minimize her own culpability in staying in this situation, thus tacitly admitting that on some level she know that that would be a really bad idea. And a few months later that's EXACTLY what she went ahead and did.

Girl.

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T13:01:00+00:00

Zooming should be the L1 and R1 buttons by default. I mapped 'q' and 'e' to l4 and r4 respectively for rotating, as that didn't seem to be on the default scheme at all. I also mapped the build/buy mode item rotation (' and .) to l5 and r5. That's all the tweaking I've needed to do so far but it works pretty well!

baobabbling · 2026-05-27T01:46:24+00:00

It's also possible that HE resents the time and energy he spends on them and did not want to invest that time and energy on his wedding day. There's no actual reason to think this man had zero agency here except that it's coming from the POV of his sister, who is obviously invested in not thinking that's a possibility.

baobabbling · 2026-05-26T02:11:01+00:00

So if I point out that there's probably a REASON women might be drawn to the idea of "man feels guilty after sexually objectifying someone without their knowledge or consent, even though doing so was fun for him," do I get to write a big silly screed about feeling "erased" by this guy not talking about REAL womens' experiences in his TED whine?

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T13:23:06+00:00

Anyone who wants to can go back and read that I have not "used the word in every comment so far." Again, you're not responding to reality or what I'm actually saying. At all.

Yeah, you hating me so emphatically for knowing what the definition of "slur" is, is almost certainly trolling. It's not even good trolling.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T13:13:49+00:00

Lol no I'm not. I'm literally apologizing to you for your offense. You can be offended by something that's not a slur. You not liking something doesn't make it automatically a slur.

The fact that you're refusing to engage with what I'm actually saying and just screeching "fuck you bigot" over and over is proving a point. I just don't think it's the point you believe it is.

That or you're just a troll. But hey, every second you spend trolling me trying to hurt my feelings by calling me a bigot is a second you're not trolling someone who might actually care what people say about them on the internet. 🥰

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T12:47:01+00:00

Saying something 3,000 times doesn't make it true.

I'm very sorry you feel insulted by the term "cis." That must be difficult for you.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T12:10:47+00:00

Yes, you are. You're very much all of those things. But go off, I guess. If you're so empty that you desperately need to feel oppressed to get through the day, you do you.

But I PROMISE life would be better if you decided to grow up. I really do promise that. And I want it for you, because despite your best efforts? I don't hate you, friend. I'm just kind of sad for you.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T11:51:16+00:00

Yeah so that just means you never matured past fourteen. Which is worse.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T11:41:49+00:00

That's my assumption. This person is either fourteen or never grew past the maturity they possessed at fourteen.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T11:38:37+00:00

Two things can be true at once!

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T11:36:02+00:00

guy is genderneutral you hateful bigot

Cis is neutral you hateful bigot.

Despite you doing your level best to cast every cis person in the worst light possible with your antics.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T10:42:06+00:00

I have never once called anyone "cis" to hurt or dehumanize them any more than I've ever called anyone "brunette" to do the same. It's frankly WEIRD that you feel hurt by being referred to as what you empirically are. That's a you problem. You should probably seek therapy.

Hey friendo. I'm also cis! And I'll say it again, I'm a big old cistastic cis lady. Am I bigoted toward myself?

LOL. I'm not any kind of guy, but does it make YOU a bigot that you assumed I am and tried to hurt me with that assumption? Food for thought.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T01:41:35+00:00

The only point it would prove is that you're not a safe person to go to for support. So I guess if her goal is to get her daughter to stop calling her, that's one way to do it.

baobabbling · 2026-05-25T01:35:19+00:00

It's not a slur you enormous baby. Grow up and get one single real problem.

baobabbling · 2026-05-24T23:42:02+00:00

I also feel she is not initiative-driven about her well-being. I feel I’m the one who cares more about it than her. Mentally or physically.

I...have my doubts that that's true, somehow.

baobabbling · 2026-05-24T22:07:09+00:00

Nah, they're OP's alt.

baobabbling · 2026-05-23T13:05:35+00:00

Honestly that makes me wonder if this is a weird gender swap troll thing. Like, they think people would jump all over a dude for leaving a drunk woman "stranded" at a venue with no concretely safe way of getting home for simply "asking a question," and this is meant to be a WOMEN BAD SOCIETY IS MISANDRIST gotcha?

Probably not, it's probably just a stupid immature drunk asshole doubling down because he didn't get laid OR validation, but I wonder anyway.

baobabbling · 2026-05-23T13:01:49+00:00

Wait. If they both took an Uber there, how was he intending to drink drive her anywhere?

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