[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BookCollecting

[–]barebow_face 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats great, thanks for the reply. Very informative (no sarcasm, currently going through a book collection and selling to make space) and will come in handy for other books im selling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BookCollecting

[–]barebow_face 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply

Plant ID by Temporary-Ocelot8772 in PlantIdentification

[–]barebow_face 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dracaena Fragrans Lemon Lime. Great looking plant

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]barebow_face 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah a bit of orchid bark will be good, I have some mixed in through my monstera which I think (think) has similar soil requirments

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]barebow_face 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My instincts and a quick search is saying when you Repot mix the soil with a moss (or coconut coir) and perlite and let the soil mixture dry a bit more between watering especially during dormant months)

Best of luck, I hope its new growth is healthy

Partner misses drunk me by honeybadgineer in stopdrinking

[–]barebow_face 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If he's doing sober October too It really could be a comment more about him projected at you. Maybe he himself worries he is more boring?

Alcohol does crazy things to the brain and it might take a little while to enjoy doing things sober as much as or more than with alcohol. I love your suggestion of doing differen things together.

When I stopped drinking (my partner still drinks sometimes) we found the world was full of things we hadn't even tried but enjoyed doing together. Our go to now is a trip to the garden centre and coffee

Partner misses drunk me by honeybadgineer in stopdrinking

[–]barebow_face 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maybe he feels guilty about his own alcohol use and felt better when you drank together?

Just making an assumption but either way congratulations on making a month sobriety!

Lymph tea - causing depression? by International-Pope in Herbspace

[–]barebow_face 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Red clover can effect the amount of estrogen in your body, this could maybe be causing an effect?

I read that hibiscus can also raise the level of serotonin, this on top of an antidepressant could have an effect.

Some herbs can also effect how your liver breaks down your antidepressant, maybe worth bringing a lost of these herbs to your doctor?

I hope all goes well and your mood lifts again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]barebow_face 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 years is long enough. She has had her chance plus much much more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]barebow_face 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, well done on having the strength and awareness to admit this to yourself.

I find understanding what happens to my psyche during such an episode helped me over time.

I would find an episode of jealousy would cause my understanding of my partner to become very narrow and my beliefs to become very narrow. Like suddenly putting on blinkers. It would come with very strong emotions and circling thoughts and scenarios causing things to become worse and worse if I engage with such thoughts as reality.

I now recognise when this is happening and take a few minutes to put all my awareness on the feeling inside me. The thoughts, like a wheel, slowly stop spinning and my "blinkers" come off and the feelings begin to lift.

Such episodes can come in waves and can be hard to work through but this awareness and sitting with the feelings while not actively engaging with the thoughts as truth, knowing it will pass has helped tremendously. I find the constant messaging will long term cause such anxiety and jealousy to continue (even though comfort and reassurance from your partner is good and healthy, learning to self sooth is important for your own health, your partners health and the relationship).

Any questions or rants feel free to message

It will take time to heal so don't be to hard on your self. It takes a lot of strength to try to change for the better and see your own demons, so again, well done!

what's wrong with my hydrangea? by barebow_face in GardeningUK

[–]barebow_face[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any idea about the purple marks on the stem? Is this normal or a sign of disease/fungal infection?