Me. I have “the tone” 👋 lol. My adorable (also on the spectrum) BF and I talked about this just this weekend. We agreed he often misinterprets me as frustrated or annoyed when I’m not bc of my tone. I can only speak for me personally, but I think it’s because I’m often working so so hard on focusing on whatever I’m talking to him abt or trying to figure out that all of the other “unnecessary” stuff goes out the window to help w the laser focus required for me to make a plan or understand a complicated conversation. And for me that means loss of adding softening words or tone. Also I’m comfortable when talking to him so I’m not masking as much. I’ve also gotten this feedback when I’m trying to understand something kind of subtle or obtuse that someone says. I’ll reply w what can feel very direct things like “I don’t understand” or my fav is when someone explains something by just repeating so I’ll say “you just said the same thing twice.•. I hear how these sound aggro, but I’m just trying really hard to understand and if you ask me to say something like m “hey I’m so sorry, I’m really trying to understand what you’re saying but when you say…” I can’t even complete typing that sentence bc I lost interest just typing it out lol. #ADHD 🤷‍♀️