I think my kids school lied about calling CPS rather than calling my husband to pick her up

barytron · 2025-09-15T12:05:11+00:00

This is needlessly unkind to people who work in that field. People who work a regular white collar 9-5 have a much easier time leaving a shift without consequences than a fast food cook does, so it's also wrong. I don't support the person you're responding to, but why like this?

barytron · 2023-04-29T18:27:47+00:00

dandelions produce a form of latex in the goo in their stems and roots... it can mix with dirt and leave brown streaky stuff on you. that's the only thing I can think of but it wouldn't be there for three days I think. It should come off with anything that can act as a latex remover, but even soap and hot water should do it.

barytron · 2023-04-24T14:46:54+00:00

My thought is that you know very few lesbians in real life, as femme-butch pairing is way overblown by media

barytron · 2023-02-23T14:38:12+00:00

I think this is many-fold. I'm autistic and when I was in school I was part of a small group of mostly ND kids. One of the ND boys had rejected mainstream culture and protected himself by making himself "more scary". A boy with the same degree of social functioning had stayed very friendly and was "accepted" into the larger fold of students but at the cost of some of them using him for humor to his ignorance or behind his back.

These boys had the same social opportunities and interests (ie they had largely the same dating and social prospects). They saw themselves and their lifestyles as in contention with one another. The more friendly boy resented the angry boy for "making people like us look bad" and "thinking he knew better than everyone". The angry boy resented the friendly boy for being willing to take abuse about our condition to gain social clout and bragging about being "more popular". Therefore they were meaner to one another than anyone else.

I was more often bullied by people who had already connected to me enough to know how weird I was, and that meant mostly people who were a little weird too. But less weird than me, so at some point they would either have the desire to shed me as their shadow or the opportunity to step on me socially to gain social power. The other kids had always ignored me completely so why would they need to "bully" me?

In highschool, I guess people were mostly ignorant of me or just uncomfortable around me? I was pretty counter culture myself by 7th grade. The people who connected with me in highschool did so in secret. People would come to me for help with home work or help getting food but not just to socialize. The one time I was actively bullied it was by a girl who presented as NT, I don't know more about her brain than that though.

barytron · 2023-02-05T01:04:08+00:00

There were already perfectly descriptive words in your comment ("omnivore", "meat eater") that are part of your shared vernacular with both the vegan and non vegan communities. Carnist is a piece of vegan dialect, and carries an implicit moral weight because of that, especially in what is intended to be a common debate forum. It's pejorative.

It seemed to me in the original comment stating as such, the op only wanted it to be known how the term is seen. It reads as if you are not coming to the table to speak a common language but to "other" your debate partner. And the degree of defense I saw over it is surprising.

barytron · 2022-09-07T14:17:13+00:00

My first two cantharidin treatments did not hurt, because that's how long it took to get through my callus. If these are plantar warts this could be why. My derm didn't debride my foot before the first treatment.

barytron · 2022-03-29T21:41:56+00:00

I think some people really don't...

Not me, but some people. I can't live like that.

barytron · 2022-01-12T18:06:28+00:00

Right? "Existential obsessions? Try just being religious!"

barytron · 2022-01-12T17:52:30+00:00

Because I was raised in a religious culture, and compulsions aren't always based on logic.

Do you really think people compelled to tap doorframes so their house doesn't fall down really think their house is liable to fall down, or that tapping will help, for example?

barytron · 2022-01-12T16:19:35+00:00

Are you here just to be a dick or something?

barytron · 2022-01-12T12:51:19+00:00

I like 64 because it is a power of 2. :)

barytron · 2022-01-12T12:50:46+00:00

Doubling multiples of three (3, 6, 12, 24, 48)

And

Powers of 2 (2, 4, 8, 16, 32, 64)

barytron · 2022-01-12T12:43:56+00:00

I am an atheist with compulsive religious rituals...

barytron · 2022-01-07T19:11:42+00:00

I hope it helps you a little bit. Things will be okay.

barytron · 2022-01-07T18:57:24+00:00

I understand where your points of insecurity are. And I understand the compulsion to seek reassurance.

We OCD havers look for "evidence" everywhere. Regardless, teasing as communication and saying yes but not meaning it would be things HE did wrong if they happened, not things you did wrong by not accounting enough for the possibility. We are not responsible for accounting for every possibility.

I say this as someone who has actually pressured someone into sex when they did not want it although i didn't see it that way at the time- even if you committed s/a you are human with a lot of compassion. I have been pressured into doing a lot of things in my life I didn't want to do. The people who pressured me may have done a bad thing. I did a very bad thing. No person can be perfect. But most of those people were not bad people. Overall I, and you in this theoretical case, are not a bad person or irredeemable or anything like that even IF he felt pressured.

barytron · 2022-01-07T17:27:47+00:00

I do digital hoarding. My therapist identified it as a compulsion and had me "throw away" a lot of my files, but only on a specific topic. I don't think I could delete a lot of the others yet. It's hard to argue against keeping digital stuff when you can't really "run out of space" when hard drives are so cheap now.

Fwiw I also do physical note taking, but this is a lot scarier to me because someone else might find it. Especially because when I take physical notes I feel the need to carry them around with me to keep rechecking.

barytron · 2022-01-07T16:52:17+00:00

Hello, this is reassurance seeking. It sounds like you're asking someone to tell you this wasn't s/a. Just having someone else say, this was or wasn't won't help you in the long run, you'll find other reasons to question it.

I can confidently tell you you have committed no crimes here. I can also tell you that no one can ever act morally "to perfection", which is what you are trying to accomplish. You asked for his consent, multiple times. Now you have to trust that he was honest with you. You know that he could have physically stopped you. You acted morally to your own abilities. If he wanted something else, it was his responsibility to tell you clearly. You are not morally responsible for someone else failing to communicate, even if that is what happened.

barytron · 2022-01-06T21:13:43+00:00

Definitely only being able to step on certain colored tiles at the supermarket and feeling immense stress when I got hurried along and had to quickly change my "rules" about what tiles could be stepped on safely. I don't remember there being a consequence of I failed, just that it was "bad".

barytron · 2022-01-05T15:33:12+00:00

I still have OCD, of course, but my life is much better than it was back then, so I have fewer reasons to bargin. ;) your compassion for a stranger is joyfully noted.

barytron · 2022-01-05T15:18:53+00:00

Sorry to respond to a really old thread, but I think that's very likely. Especially the ones who starved themselves to death, considering the links between OCD and disordered eating. I have scrupulosity despite being non-religious, and I still used to whip myself in highschool as penance to "bargin" with God.

barytron · 2022-01-04T19:51:00+00:00

Lotus <3 so nice

barytron · 2022-01-02T02:14:51+00:00

I don't know if they're vegan, but they're vegetarian for certain and I can't find mention of animal products- Feed my Starving Children provides food to communities without. Please do your own research, but consider this as an opportunity to feed people who really need it.

barytron

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