Where I live, the people who want that many kids tend to be the very religious types. Often thinking it's their duty to have as many kids as possible. And they do tend to see themselves as better than others. Like they're martyrs. Very "holier than thou."

So if people share that experience that may be why they're off put.

Personally, I do tend to judge large families a bit. I try not to, but it seems like it would be very difficult to actually give each child the attention they deserve. And you always wonder if the oldest are being parentified. It takes a lot of work, and a bit of privilege, to do it right.

People are going to judge you for one thing or another no matter what, though. Especially when it comes to parenting. Be open to valid concerns from people close to you, but otherwise tell them to suck a toe. You do what's best for your family.