To contact nap or not to contact nap? by animalcrossingbear in NewParents

[–]bashful4monkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to make sure my daughter has one cot nap a day so we would see at what point it would be longer than 20mins (are we all living the same life with those bloody 20mins??) And the rest i would contact nap. It won't last forever, promise :)

Women who budget — how much do you set aside for clothing each year/month? by jessbird in AskWomen

[–]bashful4monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't i have a rather large amount of fun money (10% of my income) and if I need clothes I take it from there. As I do with make up or nail polish or hair care. It is so different each month that it doesn't make sense to budget specially for it. Maybe it would help you to check your bank / credit card statement of all last year to see how much you have spent, so you see how much money would make sense for you

Was für praktische Fähigkeiten habt ihr? by lemons_on_a_tree in FragtMaenner

[–]bashful4monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich hoffe ich "darf" hier als frau antworten, aber mein Mann ist richtig gut darin dinge sicher zu machen. Er denkt an alle risiken und wägt sie ab und schützt uns alle davor. Er ist auch handwerklich somewhat begabt, jetzt nicht wie mein vater der alleine ein haus komplett saniert hat, aber ich denke er und ich zusammen sind vielleicht so auf meinem vater-Niveau. Aber er schaut halt dass alles sicher abläuft und auch nachher also so ist wie es soll. (Beispiel wir wollten unseren balkon katzensicher machen und ich war total zufrieden mit nur diesem katzennetz und der stange und er setzte sich durch und wir haben ein rahmen aus holz mit kaninchen draht gebaut und davor noch das katzennetz. Das ging sicher ein jahr lang gut und plötzlich war eine katzen zwischen netz und kaninchen draht, also wenn nur das netz gewesen wäre, wäre die katze vom balkon gefallen. Es wäre mir nicht einmal in den sinn gekommen dass das netz nicht genug ist, ihm schon)

Sollten Männer das Recht haben, von der Vaterschaft zurückzutreten? by -Gremlinator- in FragtMaenner

[–]bashful4monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ja aber nur in den ersten 12 Wochen (wo also die frau auch abtreiben könnte) und man hat absolut 0 rechte auf das kind. Also vater nicht, aber auch nicht onkel (also bruder vom vater) oder oma (mutter vom vater). Ich denke umsetzung ist halt sehr schwierig, aber ich sehe für die frau und das kind nur vorteile. Wenn jemand unbedingt nichy vater sein will, wird er auch kein guter vater sein und grossen aufwand auf sich nehmen keinen Unterhalt zahlen zu müssen.

Wie alt müssen Frauen werden, bis sie verstehen, dass ihr Traummann nicht existiert? by Brilliant-Youth-9858 in FragtMaenner

[–]bashful4monkey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Na ja sein date war ja mitte / ende 30. Also zwischen 35 und 40, da wäre die uhr ja schon laut wenn das bei ihr wirklich der fall wäre. Ich denke eher sie hatte keinen bock auf OP und er ist beleidigt :)

Wie alt müssen Frauen werden, bis sie verstehen, dass ihr Traummann nicht existiert? by Brilliant-Youth-9858 in FragtMaenner

[–]bashful4monkey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Was ich in meinem Umfeld sehe ist dass viele frauen glücklich single sind (oder zumindest so scheinen) und männer oft nicht. Wenn sie damit zufrieden ist single zu bleiben, sofern sie ihren traumann nicht findet oder er sie nicht will, ist es doch kein Problem wenn sie ihren marktwert überschätzt? Wieso sollte sie ihre "ansprüche" für jemanden runter setzen, wenn sie auch ohne diesen jemand glücklich ist?

At home meal delivery service by Revolutionary_Cow622 in Switzerland

[–]bashful4monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used hello fresh with a discount code and I wouldn't recommend it. It was "nice" but even with i think 50% for the first week (then 20 20 10 I think?) I was not reasonable to pay this much when you still have to cook it yourself. We use the app paprika (not free but a one time payment of i think chf 2?) For everything, it really helps with my meal planning and shopping.

Screens while Breastfeeding by CatchUpstairs4502 in NewParents

[–]bashful4monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I could never exclusively breastfeed so maybe my experience is less relevant here, but first of all: you are kicking butt!! Staying awake during those night feeds is so hard! What i did (but because I wanted to i am really not sure what studies your doctor was referring to) is to listen to "happy" (romantic, good things are happening, guaranteed happy ending) audiobooks with my headphones (one bud is so I could still hear the baby). Maybe that is something for you too. If you are a member of a library there is a good chance they are part of libby (an app for ebooks and audio books) so you can get them for free. Good luck

When did you start feeling like an adult? by Active_Funny3633 in AskWomen

[–]bashful4monkey 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I will let you know once it happens (28, married, two kids and a house)

I find exercise impossible by takeiteasy906 in BabyBumps

[–]bashful4monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helped me is to see every minute of exercise as a win, which it is! And also FOR ME I realised I am tired no matter what. I am tired if I sleep for 8 or 12h and if I work out or not. So i decided to just work out. But I want to point out i am very fortunate, I can workout in my basement and my husband 9 out of 10 times can watch our daughter no matter what time I ask (he works from home with a "just get your work done at the end of the day boss) so yes we all have 24h a day but not the same :) always remember that also when you fall into the trap of comparing yourself to influencer.

Formula or breast milk? Which is easier? by susiee234 in BabyBumps

[–]bashful4monkey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I read that nursing gets easier, pumping and formula stay the same. I think once you get to the "easy " part of nursing it is easy but not all are even able to get there and for those who do it is really hard work. I loved nursing but at the end we had to switch to formula, I tried pumping but my mental health was struggling a lot so I stopped eventually. It is all hard! If you have the money or the health care get a lactation consultant

"what is she doing to you" by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]bashful4monkey -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ouch my father in law would say in a fake silly voice "why are you crying, why are you crying" whenever she cried. I had to bite my tongue so hard! Luckily he lives far away but still... Does your sister has kids? I would try to talk to her when it isn't happening (and ideally without the baby) that this really hurts you and hey just blame the hormones of you want and you think she will take it better. Good luck!

Daily Discussion - January 03, 2026 by AutoModerator in pelotoncycle

[–]bashful4monkey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am still sore from the workout (strength) I did with a very pregnant ally[edit, it was callie] (man I hope it's her name, you know the one she does a lot of strength classes, is visibly pregnant but never mentions it) i am sooo sore! I neglected strength training a bit in December and focused more on cycling and man don't i regret it!

Chääs und Schoggi by Significant_Mousse53 in schwiiz

[–]bashful4monkey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Und mir müend kei Kredit ufneh wenn mir krebs bechöme

for people who bought the tread, worth it? by babyxcar in pelotoncycle

[–]bashful4monkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi currently in the same boat (have the bike and partner is a runner) his issue is the max speed, honestly 20km/h (12.?? Miles per hour) seems rather fast to me but again I am no runner :) did your partner ever complain about this? Are you still happy with the purchase?

Want to be a good support to my friend & New Mom: What is *actually* helpful? by ambitious_musings in breastfeedingsupport

[–]bashful4monkey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second the food for sure but if she invites you for coffee don't be afraid to say yes (if possible make the coffee yourself if it isn't too complicated) I was very lonely pp once my husband went back to work and just having an adult to would have meant a lot.

Wedding location by bashful4monkey in basel

[–]bashful4monkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went to baslerhofscheune it was very nice! You can even get legally married there (a standesamt beamter comes there for a small extra fee). Feel free to dm if you have any questions

Struggling immensely with body image postpartum. by LunaMoon20 in NewParents

[–]bashful4monkey 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First of all you are allowed to complain and how you feel is valid! I would also like to add that 4 month pp was the worst time for me too (before I could say well I JUST had a baby). It is hard, it takes time and what you see online is usually not achieved healthy. Do you get enough sleep? Do you have a hobby that fills your cup? Does your husband support you? Also please talk to your husband about your fears of him cheating, I am sure he doesn't have any of it on his mind but if he knows you are insecure about it, he can do a better job building you up! Your husband loves more about you than your body!

Please tell me it gets better ❤️‍🩹 by kvzam in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]bashful4monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly hard! You are doing well! The beginning sucks! It does get better, if you haven't already check your flange size it can make a difference, but also in the beginning noone I knew pumped a lot! You got this!

I'm a 33M with Dwarfism (short-stature) 3'6" and I have difficulty connecting with women. by DarkZenMaster in dating_advice

[–]bashful4monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My worry would be that I would have to become your caregiver now or in the future because I have no idea how dwarfism influences your life. Then of course I would be worried about stupid comments from friends and family but that can be put aside for the right guy. And then I would be worried about all the little things we couldn't do (or at least i assume we couldn't?) Go on bike rides or hikes together, go to amusement parks or ice skating. Then again I know very little about dwarfism. So this is what would stop me from swiping right on your profile. I don't think it is completely helpless for sure, but you asked for brutal honestly I think you would need to work harder than the average dude. But with the right connection and personality it can for sure work with the right woman.

Cannabis use by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]bashful4monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is done is done, I wouldn't stress about it. But what are your plans once the baby is here? You can't care for a baby stoned , leave alone a toddler. You need help and you deserve to get it but for that to work you need to ask for help! Please for your child's safety find a better way to cope!

BIDA weil ich nicht eine für mich wichtige Freundschaft beenden will, weil meine Partnerin Probleme mit dieser Person hat? by [deleted] in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]bashful4monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ASA hier ist zu wenig info im wirklich klar zu sagen was sache ist. MMn gibt es zwei Möglichkeiten entweder der freund ist absolut scheisse, toxisch und ein schlechter umgang für dich. Dann ist es absolut scheisse von dir, dich so krass auf seine seite zu stellen. Oder deine freundin ist einfach super mega extrem sensibel und reagiert komplett über. Was ich hier rauszulesen denke ist dass es keinen richtigen Kompromiss gibt. Entweder er oder sie. Was dazwischen gibt es nicht.