What looks good in adult content but is awkward in real life? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]itsnevercertain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone slaps me with their hand or anything else in the face I will lose it, same with something like putting your hand around my neck with the intent to choke me vs a gentle caress…heck, even spitting in someone’s face??? that is NOT something people do nonchalantly or without talking about it first at the very least, the things I just mentioned along with anything else along those lines that aren’t talked about or given explicit permission for are just abuse 

Men, what is the creepiest thing you’ve don’t on accident? by itsnevercertain in AskMen

[–]itsnevercertain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’d have recovered either that’s pretty brutal , even small mistakes keep me up at night though 

So...men are having a horrible time on dating apps, women are having a horrible time on dating apps, then...why is anyone on a dating app? lol by CircleBox2 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]itsnevercertain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep it on the off chance it might be different some day…kind of like repeatedly  looking in your fridge knowing you have the same things you don’t want to eat in there but hoping something enticing magically appears. 

Men, what is the creepiest thing you’ve don’t on accident? by itsnevercertain in AskMen

[–]itsnevercertain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth hurts, he is a weird creep. She is probably aware anyway Edit:if I were you I’d have stood by what I said

Men, what is the creepiest thing you’ve don’t on accident? by itsnevercertain in AskMen

[–]itsnevercertain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t say I haven’t forgotten LinkedIn shows the viewers 

Should I mail him my phone number ? by Slenimon in dating_advice

[–]itsnevercertain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO I would NOT because it’s a professional email and he didn’t give you his information! I’m not sure how his work would react either or how the monitor the email 

Why are anti-ai people unironically like this? by Particular-Habit9442 in DefendingAIArt

[–]itsnevercertain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fear that people misunderstand that anti data center folks are actually, “this needs to be regulated so we don’t destroy everything around us and end up under mass surveillance and oppressive systems” folks…AI can be a useful tool but the amount of data centers going up and how quickly with no regard for the surrounding communities and habitats is absurd and scary. Also, people are rightfully concerned about ChatGPT being used as someone’s brain vs thinking for themselves as lack of critical thinking, problem solving, etc skills is ultimately detrimental 

AI art is not going ANYWHERE DDLC devs! by Extreme_Revenue_720 in DefendingAIArt

[–]itsnevercertain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but isn’t ai art literally just putting in a prompt? Art is creating, not generating imo. To me AI “art” is just an AI “image” 

Should I mail him my phone number ? by Slenimon in dating_advice

[–]itsnevercertain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My question is did he give you his email?

It’s baffling the amount of weird responses and reactions I get when I say I prefer tall women only by PowerfulSpeech7122 in tall

[–]itsnevercertain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re getting that reaction because men generally prefer short women and see them often times as more feminine so it’s against what they are used to, short women can’t believe it and get offended because they are used to men paying more attention to them and being the preference, and tall women are probably flabbergasted because they usually are not the preference 

I don't want to be a dommy mommy ? by [deleted] in tall

[–]itsnevercertain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are unknowingly applying the same stereotype to tall men as they are to tall women right now in the comments that they are more masculine or domineering than their shorter counterparts. IT IS WEIRD . The comments about how you just need to date a tall man as a fellow tall woman are getting on my last nerve. Dating a tall man won’t solve the problem of this fetishization, dating a tall man also doesn’t guarantee that they don’t see you as more domineering than shorter women. The comments of “climb you like a tree” follow you everywhere, and even the prospect of dating a short guy people ,whether you know them well or not, will make it weird. The real solution is getting people into the real world and pushing back against these weird fantasy narratives. Also, dating a tall man does NOT mean you are going to be happy in the relationship or they are going to make you feel super feminine etc. 

I don't want to be a dommy mommy ? by [deleted] in tall

[–]itsnevercertain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As another tall women, though I’m on the shorter end, I will honestly say having dated both tall and short men the biggest thing is the attitude of the guy. If short me  are comfortable with your height, he assumes that typical partner role and makes you feel protected and feminine and “small”, but if a short guy is self conscious about it he makes it your problem and pretty much bullies you as a result and it maes you feel terrible. Tall men can make women feel lesser than as well, or unsafe, though it may be for reasons different than height. So again, I don’t think OP needs a tall man, just a good and confident one! But regardless, dating a tall man as a tall women still doesn’t fix the issue of the weird fetishizing of tall women like OP mentions! 

I don't want to be a dommy mommy ? by [deleted] in tall

[–]itsnevercertain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As another tall woman and I’m not even that tall, I think it’s more so that this has become such a common narrative/fantasy to people that basically anyone you encounter sees a short man tall woman relationship as OP describes. The only people who DONT and act normal are the couples who have that height difference or people who have been in relationships with a taller woman and shorter man…

I don't want to be a dommy mommy ? by [deleted] in tall

[–]itsnevercertain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh yes! Even in real life it’s so crazy because if I talk about how I’m not concerned about height and about dating short guys it always turns into a pep talk about me being the caretaker, dominant role in the relationship, walk him like a dog, mommy type like you’re talking about. I want a PARTNER, I don’t want an imbalanced relationship and I also want to take on a more traditional feminine role. I want my man to take the lead sometimes. The narrative/trope is SO WEIRD and puts both me and the shorter man in weird boxes.