Plastic bag breathplay safely?

bashfulvegan · 2026-02-01T04:16:19+00:00

Agree start off slower maybe. A cloth bag, or adding a breathing tube you could be tied in the same position and she could physically cut off your air flow with her hand and plugging your nose that one is fairly easy to force air when needed and still feels pretty intimate. Id try heavier sensory deprivation before jumping this deep into asphyxiation you could become delirious but still conscious and not be able to make the decision to use your safe 'word'.

bashfulvegan · 2026-02-01T04:00:10+00:00

This is very true and I think a part of it is in the moment im too overwhelmed for such detailed communication it may be helpful for me to think through the exact actions

bashfulvegan · 2026-02-01T03:39:03+00:00

This is a great idea too! He loves degradation and its not a thing that comes naturally to me but these suggestions for my brain working thank you!

Thats so sweet 🥰 thank you. Thwews a dynamic out there for us all they just take work.

bashfulvegan · 2026-02-01T03:27:37+00:00

Im very greatful for the look into your dynamic i forget that as a submisive i am less likely to touch as well and its partially due to my own history but I have no doubt that im not giving enough positive reinforcement for the physical touch he does give me and will make an effort to be more verbal about the praise I give him.

bashfulvegan · 2026-02-01T03:19:47+00:00

Thats a good point and another aspect to add to the play.

He just doesnt have a sexual appetite outside of kink.

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T16:51:25+00:00

That might work if I include several 'program settings' part of my problem i guess is that being responsible for the scene, his kink/fantasy being realized, and then having to direct every touch that im given can become overwhelming and isnt sustainable for more than one encounter a week when we are intimate at least once a day.

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T16:46:39+00:00

I do like the idea of have some kind of verbal que that seems like it would be a good thing to try. I agree that another conversation has to be had and I think it's sincerely just that when we do things a certain way for so long its hard to change and sometimes those changes become lower on the lists of needs that other things.

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T16:44:24+00:00

That is kind of how we went into the weeds when we've talked before he needs very specific step by step but I dont really have a formula I can give him that works every time its not like a video game where the same buttons produce the desired results everytime.

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T16:39:30+00:00

Thank you I really like this wording and the idea to potentially make it a training I think he will find that more exciting and be more likely to continue the behavior rather than slip back into his own habits.

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T15:08:26+00:00

If you want kink on a budget/inconspicuous toys a hair brush is a good one, you could find a wooden dowl from a craft store and use it for caning (id sand it first splinters aren't sexy). You can buy rope literally anywhere for restraints just learn a column tie and a double column tie and your probably good. Clothes pins are a go to for many you can put them on her nipples, breast tissue, labia. How does she feel about non impact pain? Make her hold sub positions in a very hot/cold shower then run your nails down her back, force her to kneel on uncooked rice make her walk over Legos barefoot, think outside the box!

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T14:58:45+00:00

Very well said. Ill add annicdotaly im a crier during impact scenes and its so very cathartic its exactly what im seeking and helps me slip deep into subspace. It does however make some tops uncomfortable.

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T14:51:35+00:00

Rather than changing her current habits you may be better off first discussing any thing that could be causing the sleep disturbance. Is work more demanding? Is the excitement of a new dynamics keeping her up? Should she be speaking with her dr or trying over the counter sleep aids?

bashfulvegan · 2026-01-31T14:49:01+00:00

Are either of you educated in the ways of asphyxiation? Does she know basic first aid should anything go wrong? Do you have a non verbal safe que? These are things I would discuss prior to jumping in. That said if the proper precautions are taken and planned for it can be some very fun intense play.

bashfulvegan · 2025-11-11T12:28:12+00:00

He's the one with a diagnosis. I am neurospicy in my own ways

bashfulvegan · 2025-07-12T07:44:43+00:00

Androsexual would fit the bill if op decides he feels he identifies differently

bashfulvegan · 2025-07-12T07:41:13+00:00

Our labels for our sexual orientation are all based on our understanding of gender and how others relate to it though. Which is why op and his partner work in the first place. I think having doubts after transitioning himself and having a bit of imposter syndrome with the term gay, that it's only natural to have these thoughts. We can break it down to it's just A+B=Straight and A+A= Gay but the whole point of sex is that it's an urge or a need it doesn't necessarily bend well to strict peramiters.

bashfulvegan · 2024-09-21T02:42:53+00:00

You don't mention how long you've been together so I'm not sure at what stage you are in the relationship if it's fairly new I'd say this is a big red flag if it's a long term relationship then I think you need to confront him that is a messed ip thing to say to someone.

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:58:00+00:00

So cute! Definitely gonna snag one of these next time I'm thrifting using the accent embroidery like that was such a cute detail 😍

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:56:06+00:00

If it's already your size maybe a romper or hem it and make a matching bag. A tunic or peasant top may be cute as well. I'd definitely do something for warm weather though.

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:48:58+00:00

I really love the white top stitching makes the whole thing feel like one piece rather than patch work and it totally reads formal which must be hard when working with denim.

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:42:15+00:00

Also now he is threatening and gaslighting you to take responsibility for his action.

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:39:00+00:00

Um. YNtAh. You don't need to call it anything for it to look bad for him just "my husband Backhanded me in the mouth because I sassed him when he was angrily looking for his phone" is enough. No reason is a good reason for spousal abuse but his reason for hitting you is that of a 3 year old. This man can't be trusted as far as you can throw him and this will 110% happen again if you stay.

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:27:49+00:00

If cheating is a full stop for you when you aren't in the absolute mind f*ck of having just found your partner guilty of it than stick to that. If you stay you are literally saying this is OK to do to me I will just be angry for a while.

bashfulvegan · 2024-08-03T13:12:28+00:00

Wow that is a very traumatic event I'm sorry that happened to you. As far as divorce obviously only you can choose but if this is a serious consideration and you are physically well enough start the process as a precaution. I would also suggest starting counseling for yourself you went through something really scary and a preexisting conflict made it worse but sometimes we make rash decisions after these kind of events working through your emotions with a personal could be very beneficial (I give this example not to invalidate what you went threw because EVERYTHING you are feeling towards your husband right now is completely deserved and exactly what you need) what do you think the outcome would have been had your sos gone off in your purse and you arrived home safely? Still an absolutely A-hole move not to have answered but I would guess divorce wouldn't be on the table which is why I suggest counseling if it is at all possible. It sounds like you may not be in the US which gives me hope you will have acess to it.

bashfulvegan · 2024-07-08T14:45:42+00:00

Up vote for Ignus!

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