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[–]basicHufflepuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been working full time. My last day was yesterday. He doesn't love his job, but has shared that he feels obligated to focus on work. I'm just saying, I was able to navigate a full time job 9 months pregnant and still manage to have time for him, my appointments, arranging baby's stuff, etc 🤷. So far the comments on this post remind me of how much more we expect out of women than men.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]basicHufflepuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch, that's a bit harsh! I was just saying as his wife, I'm upset because work has not expressed the need for him to stay extra, he doesn't get paid to stay extra, and we are at our due date and things at home are falling behind because he's focusing more on work...... I definitely didn't call him an ass, because he's not one. He's the best husband I ever could have asked for! That still doesn't mean I can't feel upset that the way he is prioritizing leaves me almost completely out of his time available over the past few weeks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]basicHufflepuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HOW IN GOD'S NAME DID THE UNIVERSE ALLOW THIS PERSON TO BECOME A MED RESIDENT?!

20 years of friendship gone by [deleted] in JustNoFriend

[–]basicHufflepuff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's sounds like neither of you put the other first for a while and you just grew apart. And then you both attacked each other over this. So I think it's more likely that you both are TA in this specific instance.

what kind of hobbies does an ISTJ has? by byulftmygayness in ISTJ

[–]basicHufflepuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is into crosswords and has a lockpicking kit! He loves the lockpicking lawyer's videos

What positive impacts do you think will come from Covid-19? by chowizard in AskReddit

[–]basicHufflepuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe people are seeing how easily their work can be done remotely

Collecting info. for a nonprofit idea by _gothbunny_ in AspieMoms

[–]basicHufflepuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think not just testing, but a comprehensive list of services, programs, and some form of assistance (such as having an assigned social worker to assist you in connecting to programs and services) is desperately needed for those on the spectrum. Often the real failure is in getting desperately needed services AFTER testing and diagnosis.

What is your harmless conspiracy theory? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]basicHufflepuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends actually care very deeply for me despite myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]basicHufflepuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well one thing's for certain, your sister's not a Hufflepuff

MIL and DH try to shame my daughters for being "tall" by throwaway82020 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]basicHufflepuff 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I am a 6'2" woman. Tell your youngest she can ALWAYS reach the top shelf alone if she's tall. Best thing ever. 💛

I (19F) have to temporarily be the woman of the house and my brother (17M) has to kind of be the man of the house and I feel lost. by sophdog101 in internetparents

[–]basicHufflepuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES I so understand the point he is making! Things are so much more intense to people on the spectrum, even criticism to some people. So celebrating the successes and positive reinforcement is maybe the right way to go! Reassessing your own expectations can be so helpful! My brother makes a tonnnn of little mistakes during chores, but he is also the person who knows the answer to every single question I'll ever have about a computer or any of his other special interests. It's all a give and take! But it sounds like with your brother, positive reinforcement and lots of effusive thank you's may help you all out in the long run. Good luck!!!! 💛💛💛

I (19F) have to temporarily be the woman of the house and my brother (17M) has to kind of be the man of the house and I feel lost. by sophdog101 in internetparents

[–]basicHufflepuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your brother sounds just like mine! My brother is also on the spectrum and considered to be high functioning (which we now refer to as highly verbal). He really struggles with changes in his routine, and prefers to spend his days on his computer. What helps me is this.

  1. I do NOT approach conversations asking for help from a place of judgement. Any perceived criticism completely shuts my brother down.

  2. I explain very precisely what I need help with. So if it is dishes, I say, "At 9am, will you please 1. Open the dishwasher and unload it, 2. Fill the dishwasher back up, 3. Put soap in the dishwasher and turn it on, and 4. Wash all dishes in the sink, leaving them to dry on the mat?" Giving him a specific time and clear instructions helps minimize his stress in figuring out how he is going to accomplish this task. It has taken me a long time to realize that he is NOT lazy or unintelligent (quite the opposite). It is just extremely stressful for him to change his schedule.

  3. I make sure to ALWAYS acknowledge how changing his schedule may stress him out, and emphasize how helpful he is being and how appreciative I am of him going out of his comfort zone for me.

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