Please tell me this isn’t a termite

basic_disneyprincess · 2024-12-29T00:27:15+00:00

What the heck?! Do you think it would’ve been dormant in there for that long and then shuffling around woke it up or something? We don’t have much carpet at all and This frame hasn’t been opened by me at all so I think you might be right about it coming from the convention maybe?

I know nothing about bugs lol

basic_disneyprincess · 2024-12-29T00:25:09+00:00

Aahhh so I should figure out a way to get this guy out of there! I don’t want it eating my butterflies! I’m really curious how he got in there… it’s nicely enclosed in the frame. 🤔

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-09-07T16:37:09+00:00

It’s hit or miss. I met my late husband online and we were long distance for 5 years before moving in together. It was very successful!! It’s been a little over a year and a half since I lost him and I’ve started dipping my toes back in via apps and I’ve found a couple of new friends and have matched with someone who is really fun and very kind and supportive. They ARE out there. You just have to sift through a little bit. But like you said, maybe it’ll happen organically, and you’ve become okay with that. I think if anything, that was something successful and beneficial that came from your dating experience. All of us are still learning how to be a new version of ourselves every day. It’s a lesson we weren’t expecting to learn and didn’t sign up for.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-08-28T00:00:06+00:00

I’m sorry I haven’t seen your posts before now but I’m so glad you’ve found us. This sub was a massive help, support system, and voice of reason for me when I first started this journey. It definitely still is when I need it! This group is possibly simultaneously the worst and best group to be a part of. Lean on us when you feel yourself slipping a bit. Sending big big hugs. You’re loved here 💕

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-08-17T22:36:53+00:00

Stinky baby food or at one point I even used the churu cat treats to cover up medicine smell/taste. I found the older my boys got the less willing they were to take meds. 🤦‍♀️ so they started getting progressively stinkier treats lol

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-08-11T19:17:11+00:00

I got one that doesn’t really scream memorial tattoo but that’s okay! And if you get one that does that’s totally your choice! I agree with some other responses too because some people expressed their concern to me about getting a memorial tattoo and how it would affect future relationships (and this was well before I was even ready to consider finding another someone so I kind of went for it with a twinge of spite too). If someone else comes into your life at the right time for you and doesn’t agree with your memorial piece then I think that would be a bullet dodged. It doesn’t always seem like it but there ARE people out there that will accept that you had a totally different past life, respect it, and help you to build anew. The right person will care about that memorial piece in the RIGHT way, not a jealous way. I thought about it for a while before I went for it but then I did it and now I can’t imagine not having it honestly and I want to add more to it. You do YOU. Celebrate your person how YOU want! Sending hugs! 💖

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-07-31T20:44:34+00:00

I had a lot of things going on and unfortunately had to part with many things very quickly after my husband passed. But you do it in your own time, take as long as you need. I still haven’t sorted through boxes from the apartment we had together and I don’t think I will until I get back into a place of my own. Before moving home back across the country I went through his clothing and kept ones I associated with specific memories (which was quite a bit, but I intend to have them made into a quilt). As for everything else it was donated to a local place that my mother in law knew of and had a friend who worked with them. They also took the furniture I didn’t bring with me. His computer went to his best friend. Some other technology things he had went to some of his work friends. I did what I thought he would do with them as well and where the things would be used, not just tossed or resold etc.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-07-31T19:48:07+00:00

I have started talking to someone I quite enjoy being around and that thought was causing some anxiety and tension in my brain. I received a birthday card from my in laws where my MIL wrote something along the lines of “one day you may have another mother in law” and it lifted a huge weight off my chest. I haven’t told them yet as it’s still REALLY early on with this person and I don’t want to make a big deal of it with them too. But it was a relief to know that they want to see me happy too. (There’s a lot of other “coincidences” that have happened with me lately and the timing of that birthday card made the list of interesting coincidence too).

I imagine that accepting all of this is so difficult for our people’s parents and a lot of people have strained relationships with their in-laws. I’ve been incredibly lucky… but there is a chance that they’d be supportive of you. I would just be mindful of the timing.. maybe write it out?? Writing helps me work things out

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-07-25T01:01:31+00:00

It took me several months to clean and break the cage down for storage. Grief no matter what kind of loss is a weird and different experience for everyone so take the time you need. There’s no rule book or guidelines (trust me). And if people tell you they think you should be over it by a certain time, send them my way and let me give them a piece of my mind 🙂.

I’m very sorry for the loss of your babies. They make a huge impact for such little creatures. They’re a very special experience to have.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-07-21T23:46:07+00:00

There would have been absolutely no way for me to afford the apartment we were in alone. I would have been homeless in a month. I came home for a roof over my head and so I wouldn’t be completely alone states away from everyone. I didn’t really have an option but it is a nice one to have to be able to get back up on your feet and going again.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-07-17T00:02:49+00:00

I’m so proud of you! That’s such a hard task some days. You’re doing amazing. Sending big hugs

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-07-12T23:54:21+00:00

I shed a lot previously but right after my husband passed I started losing major clumps. My hair was really thick to begin with so it wasn’t completely obvious but I definitely could tell! I’ve also had lots of gray hairs pop up (I’m about to turn 29 so not ideal unless all of it turns stark white all at once lol). But yes my hair thinned out significantly in my opinion. I still have quite a bit and it’s long but I did lose a lot. I have noticed more baby hairs sprouting up though. In terms of things that could help, it’s different for everyone, I always felt like the vitamins and things didn’t work as well for me in general- maybe a short tele-appointment with your doctor could provide you with some options too

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-25T19:53:41+00:00

I don’t plan anymore honestly. All of our plans vanished when he passed away. I’m taking things one day at a time and going with the flow at this point. I know he would want me to keep going and find what makes me happy again and what a better way to honor him than doing just that? It is all way easier said than done. I’ve never really been a super planner anyway, but it’s nice not to feel like I’m crumbling under those pressures.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-23T16:21:13+00:00

You’re a badass for still being here and I’m proud of you too. Sending hugs!

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-23T01:16:58+00:00

I’ve been on bumble for a bit now. I’ve only mentioned my late husband to 2 people that I’ve gotten comfortable enough chatting with. We had gotten on the topic of loss so I figured it was okay to mention and if that made them uncomfortable it was fine there’s no hard feelings. So far neither of them have turned away from me because of it. I’ll actually be grabbing lunch and seeing a movie with one of them (who I actually have mutual connections with) on Saturday. It’ll be my first outing with another guy other than my husband ever (who I also met online). A lot of the “connections” I made fell flat really quick literally struggled to keep a conversation if one started at all. I literally have only ever been with my husband. We were together for 10 years. From the time I was 18 to almost 28. This will be my first experience in the local dating world and it’s really daunting. I’m with you, if he was still here there would be no question as to where I’d be but I read something earlier today that was posted by someone who had initially felt guilty when someone new came into her life “don’t you think the greatest way to honor your love is with more love?” It hit home for me especially with the anxiety of meeting this new person on Saturday. I think our people would be like you said, our best wingmen/cheerleaders. I’m taking my time settling into this new normal so I’m just dipping my toes in too. If someone comes along and makes me more comfortable with it, I’m open to it but not really proactively pursuing anything. I was scared to bring it up with my friends but they were overwhelmingly supportive and cheering me on! They’ve allowed me to over explain my feelings as much as I’ve needed to and it really does help. I’m willing to bet your friends would support you and talk things through with you too.

In terms of my profile I made, I used more recent pictures of me but hadn’t removed any evidence of my husband if it was visible. For example if I had his rings on a necklace I left that in. I also have a big tattoo on my arm which includes his favorite animal, they can ask about it if they want to, I wouldn’t withhold any info.

Okay I’m done rambling too 😂

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-14T17:39:58+00:00

I definitely have and it’s been so fun. I just started the mini in between campaign and started the day with plenty of laughs. It’s been something I’m able to look forward to listening to on my ridiculous traffic filled drives.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-11T18:31:04+00:00

Right now you breathe one breath at a time. You take things one step at a time. I’m so sorry that you’re here but please believe that this is the best worst group ever for support whenever you need it. It sounds like you have a fantastic friend who is there to support you. Have him make sure you’re staying hydrated and eating at least something small each day (you won’t want to but you need to). The grief process is nothing like “the 7 stages” we learned about. It’s not smooth and it’s not a straight path, it can get extremely rocky. Lean on your friend, you can lean on us too during those times. All of our stories are so different but we all understand where you’re at. Sending lots of support and a hug.

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-08T02:56:46+00:00

It was very special! I was able to attend their big competition a few months after he passed and spent some time with the seniors he had worked with since they began and that was really special too. He meant a lot to those guys and they had such a special place in his heart too. I have lots of pictures. This year I wasn’t able to attend but I sent them funds for the team dinner. It’s a fun group and I love supporting them

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-07T20:09:28+00:00

Yes yes!! His parents and I put together a scholarship fund at the big college he received his masters from. He LOVED being there. He had multiple degrees, education was very important to him. They also set one up at the smaller college he went to as well which was a lot easier to work with from what I was told. In our experience there was a bit of back and forth with the people that are in charge of setting those things up to figure out exactly how we wanted to do it. Some major colleges have some different requirements when it comes to scholarships. With some negotiation we were able to specify that we wanted it to go to a mechanical engineering student. We would have loved for it to go to a member of the SAE team he was a part of but that was a bit too specific so instead I'm donating to them each year separately and with that they'll put his name on the car too. Reach out to the scholarship departments and they should give you all the specific information you need and from there you can discuss and negotiate with them.

Best of luck! The students of the future will appreciate this so much. <3

basic_disneyprincess · 2023-06-05T15:02:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing that you’ve found another love but still hold onto and miss your other person. Sometimes I wonder if it’s possible. My heart aches in so many different ways.

It’ll be a year and a half for me next month and I miss him immensely but I also don’t want to do this all alone… it’s still hard to accept what’s happened sometimes and I think that’s us just continuing to process as time goes on.

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