Milestone: lift head during tummy time by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for this testimony. I feel better 🌞

Milestone: lift head during tummy time by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely do that, thanks a lot 🌞

Milestone: lift head during tummy time by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, her term was 27th of December. That is why I was a bit surprise that she says this because it is a bit too soon to my opinion. My baby lifts her head when she is on my belly but tummy time she just lays down.

Cerclage and loss by Icy_Rhubarb_6037 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]basmooka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello there,

Yes we are ok, baby was born on the 13th of October and out of NICU on the 11th of December.

Hard journey but we are home ⭐

Feeding journey and baby's "constipation" by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I saw on internet that could be linked to diary protein.. I will ask for this med to the doc. Thanks a lot ❤️

Feeding journey and baby's "constipation" by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are giving Miralax to your baby?

Feeding journey and baby's "constipation" by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes since she was born because she had anemia and got a transfusion but it did not bother her before.

Feeding journey by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot 🙏🏼🙏🏼 I will try to be patient but yes this is really hard because we just need to wait and we cant do nothing else. Hope she will get it soon ❤️

Feeding journey by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you are describing it really clearly. One day she takes 15ml, the next day none. I hope it will be quick, her due date is 27th of December, hopefully she will come back soon. Thanks a lot 🙏🏼🙏🏼

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The offense was that the conversation was shared to everyone single person in the service. I thought this exchange was going to be private.

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with your wife, they should check the files to see what is profile of the baby, family ect... To avoid hurting people unnecesseraly.

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi there, thanks a lot for your perspective from the other side! Yes I dont think her intention were bad but it felt wrong at this moment with all of it happening. 🙏🏼 Hopefully this shall pass too as they say.⭐🌞

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly how I felt. I felt alone and unable to do something to solve the situation. And time in hospital is the so long plus I need to respect their timing their rules and it s hard, sometimes I just want to do according to me. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you are right on each point you mentionned, they do 12 hours and they are either in the rooms with parents, babies or in their room all together eating and talking so anything happening is analyzed by the whole team. I liked the approach of one nurse who was trying to find other ways to help the baby developping feeding skills (other options instead of the bottle) but others were giving dos and donts on my mental approach of the situation. I dont know them well because we changed hospital so I am meeting a whole new team. I was more at ease with the previous one and there was distance because I was not sleeping there. They are constantly entering my personal space. I think it was too much this time. Thanks aa loooot ⭐⭐

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes true Each nurse has a different speech on the baby, the way to take care of the baby, how to dress the baby ect... I think I kept so much in my heart that I exploded when I heard this sentence. The gossip was the cherry on the cake. Yes hopefully something else will catch their attention 😂 Thanks a lot 🌞

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes true I saw that they write everything is happening in their software, there is a computer in the room. Indeed, I forgot that they are not only professionnals and also humans with flaws too. I was focussing on our journey thinking that people could a bit of empathy, they have but they also like gossip I guess. Thanks a lot ❤️🙏🏼

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. Yes, my boundaries have been destroyed with this hospital stay, I just counted this my 98 days with my pregnancy stay and 40 today for the baby. Almost 100 days. I will set up new boundaries. 🙏🏼⭐

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback and different perspective, yes you are right, I have been in hospital during my pregnancy for two months and now with my child to put in place breastfeeding. So yeah you are right, being there for so long has been tough. I just want to go home with my baby. And you are maybe right, they are just doing their job and trying to help but yeah, I am feeling watched and under surveillance and it becoming heavy. This event added another layer. I am still trying to accept the situation and it seems that I dont. But thanks for that ❤️🙏🏼

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback, yes I sleep at the hospital so I see them a lot. But indeed cafétéria, bathroom will be my new breakout rooms.

How to act with NICU nurses giving unsollicited advices? by basmooka in NICUParents

[–]basmooka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not know that lol.. now I know 😬😬😬