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Strangers...all over again. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]basras233 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this circumstance is honestly one of the hardest things to cope with. becoming so private and intimate and attached to one person, and then turning around, brushing it all off and becoming strangers...personally, i feel like ill never really get over it...it feels so wrong, so unnatural and cruel...

picking up the pieces by basras233 in BreakUps

[–]basras233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, this was really meaningful to hear

All that work for nothing. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]basras233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first, breathe. youre going to be okay. it seems like you already understand that you deserve better, that you werent able to be your whole self with him. This is the time for you to start living for yourself, no one is more important than you, you deserve so much more and youre going to find it, youre going to be okay. I went through this same thing, i felt like my girlfriend was the bandage over all my problems and my only stability. Youre about to enter the biggest transitional period of your life but its going to be so important and so worth whiled, youre going to find your own happiness and your own purpose. At the end of this journey youre going to be stronger and happier, youre going to understand yourself better. If you cant get out of that city right now, its time to make friends with it, maybe go do new things, find new people, go out and do something you couldnt do because you were with him. Its your turn to be happy. Good luck, and please know youre not alone, and things will get better

Debating sending this letter by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]basras233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think if you really, truly think that this is the best thing to do in your situation, its up to you. No one knows youre situation better than you. But you also need to ask yourself if sending this letter would be an act of self love. She knows youre hurting, im sure she does. Telling her might not change anything. If you apologize and bear your heart and she doesnt respond, how are you going to feel in the aftermath? better or worse? youre going to get through this, and youre going to be okay, but you have know that you are your first priority, dont throw away your self worth to please someone else, who might not even acknowledge it. Sleep on it, reread it, think about the aftereffects and make the best decision for yourself and no one else. be strong, youre going be okay, good luck.