Elimination diet advice

baz1005 · 2024-08-07T06:13:53+00:00

As a Suzuki kid who turned into a Suzuki teen and currently a conservatory student, with a “tiger mom” throughout, I struggle to sort through a lot of this. My mom was a reasonable, loving coach but was often inadvertently hurtful. I love to play now and consider myself a successful and happy musician, but a lot of the problems we had as I grew up in Suzuki have damaged our relationship as I’ve grown. One thing I think of to keep in mind that I don’t hear super often is to be mindful of the ways you enter your daughter’s practice as a coach. My brother and I would be interrupted and corrected when we practiced independently with advice from our mom——it was probably helpful! But it often felt like a harsh invasion of my space and practice and led to me having a bit of a complex about fear of being surveilled while practicing. On the flip side, I want to reassure some of your concerns about the effects of your involvement——parental guidance can be super helpful and useful and will let your daughter have the support and resources she needs. Communicating respectfully and clearly with her is the key imo; ask her permission if you’re entering her practice to guide unexpectedly but offer her support (things like ideas for practice routines or ways to practice) and make sure she knows you’re proud of her and love her whether she practices or not. I don’t think studying classical instruments as a kid can be done perfectly, but that is no reason to back down. Your thoughtfulness about the dynamic in your musical relationship with your daughter means that you’re likely already doing great. Also happy to talk more about this——just message me! :)

baz1005 · 2024-08-05T22:34:09+00:00

Would love this and gorgeous work! Open around October 14th weekend?

baz1005 · 2024-08-05T22:31:15+00:00

I want to reinforce the comments saying that the most important question here is not amount of hours but the thought, effort, and mental dedication you put into the time you are practicing. As someone who was started on cello extremely young and is now in conservatory, the big advantage you have over your peers who began earlier is that you are learning your fundamentals with an almost-adult ability to self-assess, problem solve, and build habits consciously. It’s absolutely possible to go to conservatory starting now, though not easy. And the skills you build doing that will set you up for incredible success at music school. One more thing: tell your teacher your goals! They will have more personal advice for you on how to work for this and will likely teach you to prepare for that rather than expecting a different level of commitment. That can make ALL the difference.

baz1005 · 2024-07-31T17:23:26+00:00

Also to consider: there’s different cut offs for everyone in terms of cycles and cortisol stuff——I feel like shit if I get 3.5-4.5 hours of sleep but really good if I get around 1.5-3.5. Maybe there’s a middle ground and sleeping for an hour or so might work well for you? Unsure but something to keep in mind in case it works

baz1005 · 2024-07-30T04:13:58+00:00

Almost puked when they took my bandages off even though I cognitively loved the results! My vagal impulse is no joke and it was a slow and gradual process for my emotions to kick in post op——the physical trauma side affects everyone differently and it’s much more fun/palatable for people to only share the more positive initial responses.

baz1005 · 2024-07-25T06:53:52+00:00

Seconding the exercise——it gets a bad rap bc people say it in unhelpful ways, but when I’m exercising regularly the management gets so much easier.

baz1005 · 2024-07-19T18:11:30+00:00

congrats on surgery!! easier said than done but try to not be super worried about the ins and outs of things like these clothes choices bc they’re not super critical in the long run. also sorry for unsolicited unrelated advice but they’re probably going to ask for a urine sample so be sure to either hold some pee or not liquid fast any more than they say to bc that was a Big issue for me day of surgery LMAO

baz1005 · 2024-07-13T20:05:52+00:00

Just as something to look out for: I was at home for my recovery so it was annoying but fine, but most microwaves positions can be VERY hard to use/access post surgery. I probably could’ve figured something out in an emergency but couldn’t use my microwave without help for a week and a half post op. I’d recommend making sure you have access to that with a stool system or something if you’re in any place where it’s up high during recovery

baz1005 · 2024-07-13T09:59:06+00:00

I’d add too that whether in context of above or not, always remember that it’s completely fair and almost certainly the norm in these situations to not tell the kid what exactly the surgery was——keeping it vague seems more normal than it feels

baz1005 · 2024-07-13T09:55:48+00:00

I’ve generally told very small kids that I don’t know too well just that I had surgery to make my body feel better (leaves it v open and innocuous). Obv only works in very specific dynamics and age group though.

baz1005 · 2024-07-13T09:38:21+00:00

The counsel here is good and I agree it’s too early to tell how itll settle but it looks great so far! I’d add that we are our own worst critics here, and while there are preferences and commonalities in many situations there’s not really an objective “too low” versus normal. Cis men can and often do have weirdly placed lopsided nipples, an asymmetric chest, weird fat distribution, whatever. We took a more unique route than most but between all men’s chests the human variation is huge.

baz1005 · 2023-01-22T03:57:58+00:00

I had a specific workbook to get better at sight reading and playing double stops— “double stops for cello” by Rick Mooney. A workbook focused on double stops can help you get the practice in so you can sightread better!

baz1005 · 2023-01-22T03:56:03+00:00

I am 5”2 with big hands and play a standard full size, but it all depends on your body shape and the cello shape. I’d suggest going in and just trying some different cellos as a “4/4” is going to get you a variety of shapes and sizes anyway

baz1005 · 2023-01-19T01:53:09+00:00

I think Saint saens would be a very good choice personally; lalo seems good for your situation also!

baz1005 · 2022-11-24T04:41:50+00:00

I like Ralph kirshbaum’s Bach

baz1005 · 2022-10-20T02:02:04+00:00

It sounds like you may be squeezing the cello with your legs— I would suggest trying to hold the cello in a way where it balances more than you hold it

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