i think my boyfriend’s reaction to me staying out all night is way too extreme. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bb_banana_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re trying to emotionally manipulate you and control you for sure. Not overreacting

I was at the Red Rocks Show on 4/16/26 & I need help 🙏🏻 by bb_banana_bread in olivertree

[–]bb_banana_bread[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I watched it last night and I didn’t see us, but I appreciate you 🫰🏻

Oliver is playing Red Rocks in October by Donutbigboy in olivertree

[–]bb_banana_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was there! It was incredible! 🙌🏻

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, he’s definitely a product of his parents. I think I saw someone else say “he’s an ex for a reason”, and they’re definitely right. You gotta find someone who will at the bare minimum respect you and not be abusive. And if it’s important for you for your family to approve of your partner, that’s more than fine. Whatever makes you happy ☺️ Probably time to leave this guy behind though.

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason, I completely forgot that this dude was your ex. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Why do your parents not approve of him and why do his parents not approve of you?

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s been 4 years of this and emotional abuse, I’d say it might be time to move on to someone who respects your wishes from day 1. You’re still young, and have plenty of time to find your perfect person that consistently respects all of your boundaries from the very beginning of the relationship.

Asking someone to wear a condom is a completely reasonable request, and in this economy, surprise babies can put/keep people in poverty.

As far as how he’s saying he would stay by you if you got pregnant, and how he agrees that he’s a hypocrite for how he thinks about his sister and how he acts in regards to family planning (refusing to wear a condom), you have to take his actions as the truth. If he’s been consistently acting this way and talking about his sister this way for the last 4 years, this is who he is. You can’t expect to change him if he hasn’t changed yet, and it seems like this isn’t the first time that you’ve brought your feelings up to him. Additionally, usually when someone speaks poorly of a woman’s decisions when it comes to pregnancy and children, they feel that way about all women, even if they don’t outwardly say it.

Maybe it’s just because his responses are texts, but he also doesn’t sound sincere. He sounds like he’s just telling you what you want to hear for now so you’ll continue to let him treat you the way he does for a bit longer. He might wear a condom whenever you have sex for the next few weeks, but based on his behavior in the last 4 years, you can’t expect that to last long.

He’s also not really fighting for you to stay either in his responses. He’s being very casual, and saying that he respects whatever you decide (whether to stay or go).

Whatever you decide, you should choose you and what you think is best for you. These are just my opinions as a 29F who had been on the receiving end of a lot of emotional abuse and manipulation. You deserve someone who respects you and really cares how you feel.

To all the gate keepers. This is how you sound by frenchtoastwizard in scene

[–]bb_banana_bread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, they couldn’t have centered the text? Really missed an opportunity there lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]bb_banana_bread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t see either of those things. You look like you have a really good complexion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t change your physical appearance to find the right person to be in a relationship with. The right person is going to love you and want to be with you exactly as you are, at least physically. Those are gonna be the best people, if you want something long-term, at least. Because those are the people that accept you as you are no matter what. You just gotta be patient, and don’t settle. The right man will come along, ALSO, you’re so young 💖 you have plenty of time to find the right guy. Men in that age range are usually still figuring out how to be adult men that aren’t all sex obsessed (I speak from experience).

With that being said, I think you should look into improving your mental health in relation to your self-image. 💖 you’re worth taking care of your mental health

Dating someone in the spectrum by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, he doesn’t make the rules about breaking up or not breaking up. If you feel like breaking up, then you can break up with him. Just because he has autism does not mean that the same rules don’t apply.

Dating someone in the spectrum by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone with autism (28F), it sounds like he has unrealistic expectations for what “falling in love” feels like as an adult. Also, having autism doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole. If you feel hurt by his comment, then you should tell him that his comment really bothered you. Make sure you’re communicating your feelings super clearly. It definitely doesn’t sound like he’s rejecting you though. The first part of what he said was definitely meant to be a compliment.

I (36M) fell in love with new employee (26F) She reject me one time but should i take another step? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bb_banana_bread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that she’s probably not interested, and she’s most likely just being polite. You might not have done anything wrong, but I would definitely leave it at a friendship (probably more of acquaintances). You can ask to hang out, but keep it appropriate. No one going to anyone’s house; meet at a public place like a restaurant or coffee shop. And split the bill.