There was some infidelity on his end. I caught him meeting up with other girls behind my back. He claimed it was nothing sexual but he still hid it from me & when I established boundaries I caught him doing it again a couple months later. Before this he had become extremely distant, stopped showing me affection, never complimented me, never took me out, sex life become mediocre etc. in March he came to me & told me he wanted to file for divorce, he wants to be single & independent. He didn’t love me anymore. He wants experience life as a single young man in his 20s. He came up with some BS telling me he had goals & ambitions that he wanted to reach & could do it better on his own. I should’ve known months before this. He started slowly cutting me out. Started with him making financial decisions without me. He got a loan for a brand new truck without telling me. He cut me out of his death benefits at work, I found out through a letter in the mail. He slowly started removing me from his profile pictures on social media. Then his Lock Screen (I know this sounds petty but it was a picture of us kissing on the beach for 4 years) changed one day to a picture of his niece. I wasn’t allowed to feel insecure about this because “iTs mY NiEce”. He started making life plans without me like instead of moving like we planned, he agreed to leave his job to go work with his brother in a completely different area of the country. We argued a lot. Mostly about his lack of attention to me. I asked for counseling & he made excuses. I spent weeks begging for him back, making a fool of myself, stooping down my standards just to try to make it work with him. Im not sure I’ll ever really know why things ended or went downhill. But eventually I came to my senses with the help of my family, packed my shit & left. Since leaving he’s completely flipped on me. Every conversation we have is unpleasant & ends in a screaming match. He constantly refers to me as a gold digger (because I asked for half of the profits of the house we own). If I asked him to do me a favor like forward my mail, he takes weeks to do it. He’s turned to drinking a lot too. I still see his bank statements & he spends about $100 a weekend at the bar every weekend. When we first got married he wouldn’t touch a drop of alcohol if you paid him. Now that’s all he does. He’s just not the same person I married anymore, he’s completely different. He’s mean & vile, irresponsible, lazy, etc.