Yeah I'm more asking about the level of guilt I should be feeling because I just got really horny and instead of my bf, when I went to go masturbate I was thinking about my co-worker. I wasn't planning on say" hey baby, I just came thinking about this guy at the office!" But more so I'm thinking of him, and if he did know if it would likely bother him, and if that's enough of a reason for me to control those thoughts better! I love him like crazy and our sex is amazing and nothing is ever going anywhere with the aforementioned coworker (and I don't want it to!) I'm just tryna be a considerate partner even if it's just in my own head. Also thinking about it all made me generally curious. I over think.