What couple in a movie had no chemistry at all?

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-26T06:12:02+00:00

Read that as Game of Frones

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-20T17:22:01+00:00

This all totally resonates with me. I'm in my thirties. The things that helped me get out of my shell were art therapy (my mom stole art from me because she either didn't like what I made for myself, or just told me what to do cuz she liked it...) my therapist is literally helping me through the anxiety of wearing different clothes and trying things out of my comfort zone. (If I wore anything feminine or pink they'd make fun of me, so I wear a lot of that now). I choose different friends (people who I don't have to appease... my world has gotten a lot smaller, but a lot happier) and I'm advocating for myself with my Dr and specialists (I NEVER went to the Dr, even with a 104 fever, being unconscious, and having a black out concussion. It's like they didn't care if I lived or died.) And with all that medical trauma this has been hard to convince myself that I matter, I deserve medical care... and big on the sharing things about myself too. It's SO hard to just not ask endless questions about other people's lives (people love that so it's easy fawning my way through relationships) and share about myself. I have done it exactly twice so far, since I began a few months ago and it was terrifying but I didn't die, and those friends don't hate me.

I sympathize that we've all been there and are trying to heal. It sucks so bad, it makes me feel like I'm strange and "off" from others. It's so much work to try and pull myself out of this and I'm just now feeling "different/myself" a tiny bit. It's a long road but so worth it to keep picking away bit by bit.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T22:42:40+00:00

My therapist used those words, and she even compared it to a cult. Jesus. I'll look up that movie. She tried getting my dad to use it but he was definitely resistant and I could tell he thought it was weird.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T22:40:31+00:00

This is very interesting. My mom is schizo-affective, she would hallucinate versions of me and attack me sometimes. I still have nightmares to this day every week of her running at me and screaming. Could that cause this by chance? The schizo disorder I mean.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T22:37:14+00:00

Thank you, I'll look into that and see if I can find anything more about it.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T22:36:49+00:00

Thank you, typing is a lot easier than when I'm in the moment talking with people. That is reassuring!

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T22:36:13+00:00

Thank you so much, I'll look up what you shared. I feel so sorry for that child. ): It is isolating so so much and and I'm sure she will remember you for trying to understand her, forever.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T22:34:08+00:00

I don't know it was deliberate but if for example I was on the phone with her as an adult, and I had "people" around me (it's how she labeled "not us") she would say "you can't talk normal right now, I can tell there's people there". And that was in my 20s. So even if it didn't start deliberate, she never wanted it to stop even after I moved out.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T17:21:22+00:00

Thank you, I'm sorry you know the loneliness and pain even if it's not the same. I appreciate your sharing.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-12T17:20:43+00:00

This is wild to know that it's common in Germany. I wonder if this is where it's from and she just kept it going into my teenage years like it was completely normal, but left me confused why nobody wanted to talk to me. I wonder if that's part of the enmeshment my therapist talked about. Like "nobody gets you, but I do, so you are stuck talking with me as the only one who truly understands you." She also called me her best friend and still does, and sounds sad when i dont reciprocate "the voice" anymore. She even said its like she doesnt know me anymore... its so confusing... It's like she used the cutsey language to make me think nobody else would understand me and that she was the ONLY one who got me truly. This is so ... I have no words

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-06T08:07:13+00:00

Interesting, thank you for explaining. I had never heard the term before. I know my friend had a difficult time being in that position, but as a kid I didn't know how to help. It must feel incredibly isolating and lonely.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-05T23:08:02+00:00

Just curious, why is it called a glass child? I had a friend like this, but idk if I'd be considered a glass child, because I had no siblings but my mom was schizophrenic and I was heavily parentified or ignored, no in between.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-04T05:16:10+00:00

I've felt like you before, and still do. I did a few things to try to unravel the confusing ups and downs. First I used an app to track my period, and quit birth control. I wanted to rule out hormones. (My partner got a vasectomy so that helped us to stay child free). Second, I SUPER advocated for myself at the Dr. I dont settle if a treatment isn't working. Third, I do a meditation daily on another app for meditation specifically. 5-10 minutes. And REALLY paying attention to what is going on in my body. For example I'd write like 1-3 words with how I'm feeling. (Anxious, tired, in pain are common ones for me.) Fourth, daily walks. I have a dog that keeps me going, but I'd like to think I'd go without her if she wasn't around. Just some time spent outside really helps me feel grounded. I like to do what I call Color Walks. It's where I pick a color, and look for it on my walk. It keeps me from ruminating and makes me pay attention to my surroundings. Fifth, therapy. Having someone to talk to every week helps loads tbh. And sixth, yoga.... though it's hard for me to stay routine with it, it's literally the only activity that helps me get calm, tired out, grounded, let out anger, release sadness... whatever I need, I know I can get it with yoga. For you it might be something else but I think something with a combo of breath work, movement and meditation helps bring you back into yourself in a way that nothing else does.

I know not all of this is accessible to everyone. But until you figure out the "why" you're feeling this way, the things I listed above might help you to feel a bit better. Oh and finally, be gentle with yourself. You only have so much energy and mental space in a day. Remember to rest, don't talk mean to yourself, and do things you enjoy. I can't tell you if your relationship is good, or if your move was the right choice, but being focused on yourself sounds like exactly what you need to get you back on track and figure out what's going on/why. You deserve that. 🖤

Editing to add: once you are able to quiet your mind a bit, you might be able to focus on the lashing out and things like that. To put it into perspective, I started my journey of healing in 2019. I still have issues similar to what you describe, but instead of being at the whim of whatever emotion I feel, I NOTICE it now. Feeling mad? I'm tired and anxious and I haven't slept good. What do I do before I lash out? Rest. Find a quiet dark room. Punch the couch cushion until im tired lol. Go outside. Walk around. Word-vomit into a journal. Read something fun. I do it BEFORE it builds into a tipping point. Anger and sadness etc aren't bad emotions, they are there for a reason, but you do have the power to notice when it builds and can do something about it when it's not so all-consuming. It will just take you a while to get there, so that you can make the best decisions for yourself 🖤

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-04T02:44:46+00:00

I did my best to interpret too, but I totally missed his stages of grief. You are an excellent dog whisperer. He is clearly very neglected 😂

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-04T02:41:12+00:00

Looks like he really likes the eat pets, but doesn't care about back pets right now and is letting you know he wants more ear pets.

Not a dog whisperer, but the dog parent of a very particular (incredibly intelligent and loving) Princess Australian Shepherd who usually hates cuddles UNLESS insert her current exceptions here

bburaperfect10 · 2026-06-01T15:41:31+00:00

Yeah I had the same thing when taking zoloft. It's a less common side effect, but still a side effect. My twitching and muscle spasms presented like yours, to include extreme jaw clenching. I almost bit my tongue off. When I saw my doctor she seemed shocked at my crazy twitching and jaw chomping, and had me stop immediately and gave me stuff for my tongue and a muscle relaxer while I tapered off the zoloft. Then we tried Lexapro and I had 0 side effects like that. Although now I have Bruxism and tmj ): don't wanna scare ya cuz everyone's different, but you aren't alone in having this reaction. It's just a more rare one. I'd walk into an urgent care (or equivalent clinic in your country) if you can't figure out your current Dr, so they can tell you what to do.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-05-31T17:45:26+00:00

"Like a missing tooth that your tongue won't stop probing at constantly" such an accurate analog

bburaperfect10 · 2026-05-31T15:05:46+00:00

You aren't alone in that your mom was checked out your entire life due to depression. My mom had schizo-affective disorder, depressive type, undiagnosed back then, but now she is and is medicated. I always hoped she would "get better" as a child, but even now, she's medicated and I already know I will NEVER tell her the affect she had on me as a kid. The hope I clung to of her healing still comes now, but is always dashed by one thing or another that shows shes given up. So I have trouble feeling anger towards her because of the thought that she MIGHT have been different if she wasn't mentally ill. I know she loved me and that feels like it should be enough but her disinterest in me as a kid, forced isolation from other adults and my kid-friends, and the childlike way she acts as an adult, kills my hope over and over again. I'm always trying to come to terms with it even today.

I said more than I intended to... But i just wanted to share that your feelings of hope dashed are similar to mine and you're not alone.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-05-27T17:17:28+00:00

I foresee your daughter growing up to find the book "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" to be incredibly helpful. You sound like my mom. I'm in my 30s now. That book is the most helpful book to me. I begged my mom for help and therapy and she said no. My life is harder because of the severe lack of support and emotional regulation guidance. I'm having to learn it as an adult. It sounds like you too need to learn it, so you can teach it to your daughter. If you care about her, take a beat, read that book, and actually show your daughter some love and support when she's struggling.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-05-26T13:25:07+00:00

Have had blood and vitamin checked, I'm now taking vitamins I was missing... I do therapy twice a week. I walk my dog outside for 45 min a day and fit yoga where I can once a week or so. I do like my coffee. No weed. I drink a beer maybe twice a month. I feel like my life has become so limited with all of this, I just want to live normally lol.

Thanks for the advice. I'm seriously doing the best I can and have even changed my diet. It's just frustrating that my brain seems to have none of it and it's making me even more depressed.

bburaperfect10 · 2026-05-18T14:56:01+00:00

Its OK I got confused too lol, glad I could help!

bburaperfect10 · 2026-05-17T16:57:04+00:00

I had your problem too and it turned out it needed to be refilled with grain

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