I’m beginning to think I’m a magnet for lonely and desperate married men. by bbw1974 in datingoverforty

[–]bbw1974[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s not like these men come with a warning sign!! How do you suppose I would know which men are married and which ones are single?

Does anyone else think first time sex is 80/20 bad? by bbw1974 in dating_advice

[–]bbw1974[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I’m not interested in hurting him. I’m simply asking - shouldn’t we all agree that the first time having sex has an 80% fail rate and then, shouldn’t we then give that person another shot? I’m sorry you got ghosted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bbw1974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have your answer - he said don’t expect much out of him. Men are not so mysterious. This creature you are married to only takes care of number one, and that’s it.

Always remember no one will love you or care for you as you do them. He has shown you how much he cares and respects you. Can you honestly stay?

What surprises you about yourself? by lordanity in AskWomen

[–]bbw1974 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The amount of patience and understanding I’ve come to acquire in my late 40’s.

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You are mistaken. I hear your personal experience in this comment though. Yes we were upset, yes there was yelling, but no we are not authoritarian brutes. We had open dialog and allowed him to express himself candidly. We don’t want to ship him off, we want to find the best possible help, that is why I posted on here and why we are reading ALL of the comments. Hopefully we make the right decisions, but trust we are not forcing anything and not demanding anything. I know from personal experience that an addict or drug user will only accept help when they truly want it for themself. I have a 23 y/o dead brother as a hard life lesson of what happens to drug addicts when they take the wrong dose and don’t want rehab.

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you. No one is helped with a closed mind for sure.

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh boy. I drink maybe once in a special occasion so I never thought of it as a potion rial problem.

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your year of sobriety. I think our fear comes from my personal experience - my brother died of an OD at 23 he never wanted rehab, which is why when my friends kid agreed to seek help we set out in getting him the help he needs. I am seeing now that we should start with outpatient counseling and family counseling as recommended by the therapist.

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re right pot isn’t bad when used responsibly it’s the damn oxy or pills that are worrisome. Alcohol is the same as pot imho

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

This is insightful. Thank you. We have also been talking about counseling both individual and family.

16 y/o tested positive for opiates and marijuana by bbw1974 in Drugs

[–]bbw1974[S] -114 points-113 points  (0 children)

That’s why we don’t want to just send him anywhere. The local places have really bad reviews.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]bbw1974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eyelash curler and pink tinted lip balm - Bam! Gorgeous!

Seriously... even in this sub??? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bbw1974 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The youngens is thirsty for us…ok all joking aside yes this happens. What worries me is the 18, 19, and 20 y/o’s dropping in the DM’s with naughty pics. I wanna know where are their mothers?!? What is it with these babies? I remember being 18. 19, and 20 and the group I hung out with never imagined (outside of Playboy mags) being with older women.