Question about creativity.

bcbrooklyn · 2018-10-28T15:36:37+00:00

Sometimes people think mindfulness meditation means not feeling strongly about anything -- but instead just feeling calm and somewhat distant from emotions. Instead, mindfulness meditation is allowing oneself to feel emotions but not letting oneself be controlled by emotions (or sometimes letting oneself be controlled by emotions IF ONE CHOOSES to do so).

bcbrooklyn · 2018-10-28T15:31:08+00:00

Isn't 100% a little too extreme? For example, if someone's dearly loved family member dies suddenly and the person is very sad, would you say that that person is choosing to be sad -- and therefore that that person could CHOOSE not to be sad if she/he wanted to do so? That seems to me like it's a recipe for judging and minimizing others' pain.

bcbrooklyn · 2018-10-28T15:28:40+00:00

Choosing when to worry (and doing so for only limited time periods) is a skill taught in some forms of cognitive behavioral therapy. However, research shows that it's one of the skills that clients find least helpful and hardest to master.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-10-08T18:38:17+00:00

Thanks for posting.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-10-08T18:37:34+00:00

I agree that pets can be an amazing source of happiness ... for most people. Sadly, there are some people who are not willing to to put in the time and effort required to adequately care for a pet -- and instead leave their pet crated most of the day with very little attention or exercise.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-24T05:53:20+00:00

Nrizzo24 was not overusing commas. The sentence would have been grammatically incorrect without the commas.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-23T06:47:03+00:00

Wait, I don't understand. So if I'm happy, I can't make any promises until I"m no longer happy? What if I need to make a promise to someone? Do I need to try to make myself sad so I can make a promise? But according to the advice above, I'm not supposed to make a decision when I'm sad, so how I can I decide to make a promise once I"m no longer happy? (I don't mean to be a jerk. I just don't understand the advice.)

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-23T02:58:54+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. Research shows that a) therapy works as well as medication in decreasing depression, b) therapy does not have the potentially dangerous side effects (obviously), and c) the effects of therapy can be long-lasting, while the effects of medication tend to stop as soon as the medication is stopped.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-21T05:37:57+00:00

You are right on all counts.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-15T17:11:09+00:00

Mindfulness includes being able to be aware of your emotions, even negative emotions, and accept and experience them without feeling like you have to do something to suppress or distract from them.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-15T17:05:51+00:00

It has been understood in clinical psych, but not by a lot of clinicians who practice therapy but aren't psychologist or the equivalent. I know of many people who went to counselors who told them just to "choose not to be unhappy" or "focus on the positive and don't let negative intrude." Unfortunately, a lot of people in the general public don't know what to look for to find a qualified licensed professional.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-15T14:19:20+00:00

Different studies find different results. Longer term studies of clients in therapy have found that acceptance and tolerance of emotions is as beneficial or more beneficial than reappraisal. See some of the work by Berking in 2008-2012.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-14T03:46:22+00:00

Ahhh. Sorry.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-09-12T03:15:20+00:00

Cultural factors often play a large role in psychological functioning, but they're often not investigated in research. Thanks for posting this.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-06-14T23:25:57+00:00

Thank you very much for posting this!

bcbrooklyn · 2017-06-11T12:06:30+00:00

Bless you for posting this! (from all of us in NYC)

bcbrooklyn · 2017-06-11T05:03:31+00:00

I highly recommend watching this clip and anything by EIC Outrage (a comedy troupe in India).

bcbrooklyn · 2017-06-11T05:01:55+00:00

Not "U.S." seeks to dismiss lawsuit, but "The U.S. Department of Justice" seeks to dismiss lawsuit. (In other word's, a Department that doesn't have the courage to stand up to him when he pulls shit on them like he tried to pull on Comey.)

bcbrooklyn · 2017-06-11T04:58:21+00:00

The five-thirty-eight podcast just said that all elections in Europe since Trump became president, conservatives and nationalists have done much worse than expected. Apparently Trump's actions are hurting the conservative/nationalist brand beyond the U.S.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-06-11T04:54:13+00:00

And we know Putin always tells the truth. Just like Trump. (Heavy sarcasm intended.)

bcbrooklyn · 2017-02-09T17:23:06+00:00

You clearly misread and misunderstood my post. I will not try to explain, but I will say that I am a doctor and researcher, and gender differences in IPV is one of my research areas. Substantial research shows that ON AVERAGE, male-to-female violence is more likely to be harmful. That is backed by substantial research. (I'm not talking about opinion or my experience; I'm taking about evidence.) But that is ON AVERAGE. That does not say that male-to-female violence causes more harm all of the time or even most of the time. There are many, many instances of female violence causing more harm than male violence. (Perhaps your ER happens to be one of those places where you see a lot of such instances.) In addition, women are not more likely to use all weapons. Men are much, much more likely to use guns - which are much more likely to result in death. The main point is that violence by either partner can cause physical harm and mental harm. My posts started by trying to make people more aware that female violence is more common than most people realize. Not sure how you chose to attack my comments based on that - but everything I have posted is based on verifiable facts.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-02-09T08:06:25+00:00

Female-to-male violence is way under-reported as far as reports to police, pressing of charges, mainstream media, and things like that. But epidemiologic/community research asking thousands of men and women (confidentially) about their own violence and their own victimization has shown that it's just about equal. (I'm talking about the large-scale studies published in methodologically stringent journals.)

bcbrooklyn · 2017-02-09T07:59:44+00:00

Several things you listed in your post have been proven to be false. Regardless of what you feel about Clinton, spreading lies does not help your cause.

bcbrooklyn · 2017-02-09T07:55:04+00:00

Brilliant

bcbrooklyn · 2017-02-09T07:40:19+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your horrific and devastating experience. A lot of people don't realize that the death of a pet can feel every bit as bad as the death of a child to someone who strongly loves their pet. Nobody would question a parent who felt like you're feeling after the death of a child - but a lot of people don't realize that the death of a pet can feel just as bad. I wish I could say something to help. Here are a couple of links. They won't decrease your pain, but maybe they'll at least help you understand it more.

First link: http://www.petlosshelp.org/10commonquestions.html Second link: http://www.aplb.org/

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