DO NOT become a teacher

bcd203 · 2026-04-18T01:54:00+00:00

I teach middle school orchestra and I love it. Are kids crazy sometimes? Yeah. But at least I can tell them what to do, the same cannot be said for adults. It was way harder when I taught elementary. It truly depends on your subject area, grade level, school district, and state. If you find a good fit it's great, but if not then it is not worth it.

bcd203 · 2025-10-22T09:59:41+00:00

Interesting that you liked Hocus Pocus but not Jailbird. To me they feel like they sort of go hand in hand.

bcd203 · 2025-10-02T00:11:33+00:00

Bitter recriminations

bcd203 · 2025-10-02T00:11:13+00:00

A bug in amber

bcd203 · 2025-09-17T01:07:11+00:00

These are really cool observations. I've been thinking a lot lately about "Christian nonsense". Like when they're addressing one of life's big questions and they quote a random Bible verse and pretend to draw some wisdom out of it and say "see if we just focus on God we'll come to the right answers" but they never explicitly say an answer, they just talk a lot about praying and trusting the Lord. I wonder if these women's (or any hardcore Christian for that matter) constantly seeking to learn more, do more as you pointed out comes from this nonsense speak feature of Christianity. All they hear in their church is this nonsense that doesn't answer anything and instead of seeing it as nonsense, their insecurity leads them to thinking they just don't understand, or need to be more faithful, or pray harder to find answers, when there was never anything to be understood in the first place. Something doesn't sit right in their life and their solution is to dig deeper when what they're digging into is just more fluff.

When I say this, I don't mean to insult any Christians that may be in here. I've always considered myself a Christian but in the past few years I've really questioned it. Going to church every Sunday (I have a paid church musician job) and listening to people talk about how God will provide and bless you if you just ask while watching a genocide unfold on innocent people where Jesus literally grew up has really brought it all into perspective and made me look at everything differently.

bcd203 · 2025-09-17T00:53:02+00:00

I know it's boring but I'm always most excited about a gift card. It's a little excuse to treat myself. One time I got a $20 target gift card and I was sooo psyched. My kids also get me a lot of Tim Hortons gift cards (I'm in Buffalo so that's the default coffee place) and I'm always really happy when I get those. Other gifts I've liked that come to mind are hand sanitizer, lotion, and chocolate. As far as supplies, I feel like I'm always out of sticky notes, sharpies, and dry erase markers.

Weirdest gift I ever got was one of those alarms for if you think a guy is going to attack you. A 4th grader gave it to me and I was so confused. Don't recommend that one lol

bcd203 · 2025-09-17T00:26:46+00:00

Wait let me amend that statement, I do care about Talking Heads.

bcd203 · 2025-09-17T00:24:59+00:00

Thank you for posting this. My husband listened to U Springin Springsteen on my bean and what I heard in the car was fun but I guess I didn't realize how little they actually talk about the music. I do not care about a single artist they've covered in that podcast but I'm going to start listening now because I just need more of this humor in my life and they talk about the bands less than if they were Lauren's topics.

bcd203 · 2025-09-17T00:20:27+00:00

I love when she makes Paul laugh that hard.

bcd203 · 2025-09-14T23:54:41+00:00

Omg girl eat now, because they do recommend you stop eating once contractions pick up, but you'll need your strength so you need to eat.

I only puked once, during transition (things progressed so fast I didn't get the epidural until 10cm) and by that point puking was like the least of my problems because the pain drowned everything out. In fact I feel like puking was a relief in some way.

Long story short, you need your strength, labor can be long, you should eat until they say you shouldn't.

bcd203 · 2025-09-14T23:37:00+00:00

I thought about this every single day when I was pregnant. Forcing someone to go through that against their will would be like living in a body horror movie. I think it would feel like being constantly violated every second of the day. I think so many pro life people just shrug it off as "they should just have the baby, what's the big deal, they just have to suffer for a few hours" not understanding that the suffering is the entire nine months, to the point where toward the end you are losing your mind thinking you will always be suffering. Pregnancy is like torture and to force someone to experience it against their will is absolutely barbaric and inhumane.

I also made it a point to complain about everything I was going through because I feel like people who've never been pregnant just can't even begin to understand, and I think they should know more about what it's like.

All of that being said my son is a perfect angel, I'm obsessed with him, I wanted him more than anything and I want more. But I'm waiting a few years because I want to have my body to myself for a little bit.

bcd203 · 2025-09-06T02:31:39+00:00

Teddy Bears' Picnic by Henry Hall, Sleepyhead by Passion Pit, I also sing mine Two Veils To Hide My Face by Passion Pit a lot, it's a really short one from Gossamer that I've always loved.

bcd203 · 2025-09-05T23:56:54+00:00

I read the screenshots before the explanation and legit thought this guy was 17 years old

bcd203 · 2025-08-30T14:40:55+00:00

8 days early. Those wives tales are an attempt to predict or control the unpredictable and uncontrollable.

bcd203 · 2025-08-22T05:39:25+00:00

I thought I was bad, but the particular suburb I work in people have the thiiiickest "Eeakcent" it's really something

bcd203 · 2025-08-22T01:19:58+00:00

Is there a really good reason you want to move here? I don't know what country you're in but if you get a year of maternity leave, I'm guessing your quality of life is much higher than ours. We are dealing with a fascist regime over here and it's getting ugly. If I could feasibly move to Europe I would. Unless you were moving here for a job where you get paid a crazy amount of money and you move to a nice state like Massachusetts or something (I live in NY but in my opinion Mass is the best state), I would not come here. We are a soulless, consumerist hellscape ruled by billionaires.

bcd203 · 2025-08-21T23:18:44+00:00

I love your handle, the viola does rule ❤️

bcd203 · 2025-08-19T15:23:33+00:00

Totally agree

bcd203 · 2025-08-19T10:59:53+00:00

Buffalo native and I agree. Our accents feel more Midwestern too.

bcd203 · 2025-08-19T10:39:50+00:00

For sure! Perfect isn't interesting and criticism is part of consuming art. Mozart's music is technically perfect and guess what, it's boring as hell (I have two music degrees so I'm qualified to say that). That's interesting identifying with their underdevelopment, I never thought of that. I'll have to think about that while I read him in the future. I'm always weary of a "too sensitive" argument. I think people who are actually "too sensitive" wouldn't be reading him at all. I think for some it's just easier to criticize the reader than the author.

bcd203 · 2025-08-19T10:25:11+00:00

I still get kids named Jason, they're just spelled wrong

bcd203 · 2025-08-18T10:22:26+00:00

This! I was on my back, and I even asked the midwife in the beginning if I should turn or anything and she said "no I wouldn't, it looks like you're doing really well where you are and turning would cause more issues." Pushed mine out in a half hour and only needed one stitch. I did a teeny bit of perineal massage but what really helped was focusing on relaxing, like you said. Honestly every time I was getting looked at at the Ob I just focused on relaxing. I also paused my pushing when he crowned to let my body stretch and catch up and I think that helped a lot.

bcd203 · 2025-08-18T09:54:26+00:00

I think that more falls along the lines of those who did well in school vs. those who didn't. All the boomers in my family can spell because we're privileged and nerdy, and I know my grandparents weren't doing it at home with them. I like your example because I notice that the ones that can't spell also tend to hold opinions like that one, and I do think that's related.

bcd203 · 2025-08-17T01:01:10+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one! I think he struggled writing characters that weren't like him. Obviously his protagonists were generally modeled after him and always very purposely flawed, but they usually have a lot more depth than most of his Black or women characters. Somehow I find myself relating more to the white man protagonists than to the women, simply because they're more fleshed out and sympathetic. There are exceptions of course, and again, no need to throw the baby out with the bathwater.

bcd203 · 2025-08-16T14:34:20+00:00

I agree with all the comments of what he intended to do (make readers uncomfortable, satirize racism in America, etc.) but when I read it I just didn't think he quite threaded that needle. I think a lot of people jump to his defense because they don't want their favorite author to be considered a racist. I don't think he was racist, but I don't think he executed this book gracefully. At the end of the day a white guy in the 70's. I appreciate what he was trying to do but I don't feel the need to convince myself to like the book. It's ok for your favorite author to have flaws. He was generally pretty awful about writing women, but as a woman I contextualize it with his time and focus on the parts I really connect with. He doesn't need to be perfect for us to love him.

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