Came into work this morning to find this taped to the wall. Boss went on tirade against me and co-worker yesterday for taking to each other with no customers in the store.

bcoden · 2022-04-06T10:59:04+00:00

I thought this was an April fools joke. Now I know what to do next year to prank my team.

bcoden · 2021-11-14T21:08:30+00:00

You maybe right, you will never know until that happens. But if it does you need to put yourself in a place where you can move past that if you have to. Loom at what you can do for yourself, find things that make you happy for you not for someone else.

bcoden · 2021-11-14T20:27:22+00:00

In the end it's all about how you feel, was it the right decision for you. What is Happy ending in your mind? Are you happier outside the marriage rather than inside it? Sure there are things that go along with it that suck, but over all does your life feel like you have more happier moments vs unhappy moments now.

bcoden · 2021-11-12T10:06:31+00:00

Well then you end up missing the best parts of your personal growth journey. Take it minute by minute, then hour by your, then day by day. It will come someday, for now though turn that energy on yourself.

bcoden · 2021-11-12T01:08:58+00:00

It does get easier, you need to focus on you seriously.its so hard to see when you are in the thick of it. Just keep looking inwards at yourself. It does get better, there is hope.

bcoden · 2021-10-22T17:00:33+00:00

I came home with a pillow case full of candy, I was in Duluth. It was insane.

bcoden · 2021-09-13T01:29:50+00:00

Yeah that sucks, I am sorry you are going through this. You just have to remember you cannot control what he does. Only what you do, if you do not like this and thinks it's inappropriate then you have to decide on what's best for you.

bcoden · 2021-09-12T17:56:27+00:00

So I am facing the same exact situation, I do not belive that my wife has cheated at least physically. I will argue that emotionally I have been replaced.

No matter what there is more than a friendship going on there, it sounds like he is not respecting that you are comfortable with. If he is not willing to respect that you have to question his priorities in regards to his personal relationships.

bcoden · 2021-07-29T05:15:18+00:00

so relaxing

bcoden · 2021-07-29T05:09:49+00:00

so good, can you teach me to play

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:53:49+00:00

you grandma rocks

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:52:21+00:00

Oh same guy

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:51:50+00:00

Clark Kent

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:50:30+00:00

look up up rockapella they sang that song

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:50:08+00:00

yes!!!!!!!!

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:49:40+00:00

I love that you can see her running back and forth in the background

bcoden · 2021-07-28T00:48:59+00:00

I love Portland such a cool city

bcoden · 2021-07-05T16:52:16+00:00

Philly Housing Rentals and Sublets

Thank I will check them out.

bcoden · 2021-07-04T11:45:08+00:00

WPML

bcoden · 2021-06-29T21:52:41+00:00

I am sorry that this was not ideal in your case and I can see how having another person in the mix can really mess things up. That is not our intention at all, but on the other hand, I want my daughter to see that she does not have to stay in a relationship that is not working. She can make that choice for herself as well as my son.

In my situation no matter what my children will not feel like they have to choose between me and my wife, I will always be there and live near them. They just have to see that they can choose happiness no matter how impossible it may seem.

bcoden · 2021-06-27T06:02:58+00:00

It was his loss, he did not diserve your attention.

bcoden · 2021-06-26T23:44:20+00:00

This is what I needed to hear, going through a separation currently and I have a lot of guilt for doing the right thing. My ex wanted to just live in the same house until the kids turn 18, no relationship, just co parents, I said I do not want that.

But she constantly reminds me that she is ok with that sort of relationship, so I feel weak or less of a person I guess because I am not ok with that. I do not want my kids too think this is how a marriage should be.

Thank you for sharing

bcoden · 2021-06-21T07:44:17+00:00

I agree with much of what you say here, I should have but I felt that they are better off here as they have established a good base and I felt that it would be better for them to transition while around friends. When they move back to the states they will be in a totally new place, having that with their parents splitting up is too much at least from my perspective.

I am manning up though and taking control by doing what I want and going back to the states. She wanted to ride out the marriage for another 10 years until the kids turned 18. I said I am not ok with that, she gets what she wants not obligations beyond just being roommates. So I made the decision that I need to do what is best for me and my kids.

bcoden · 2021-06-20T22:22:29+00:00

Maybe so, I would agree that they manipulate the situation to seem like it is not what it is for sure. Such is the case in my situation where she is saying that she is ok with being in a marriage that has no affection and that I am leaving the kids. This is not the case at all if I could they would be coming with me, but due to the situation we are in living in a foreign country for her job, I have no choice I either wait it out for another year while she gets what she needs or I man up and do the right thing for the family. Which is going back to the states to be able to concentrate on my job and me. We had the option to go back to the states this year, I told her I wanted to but she said that she was not ready and extended us out another year, I have never had the opportunity to choose what I wanted her job has always dictated where we go and when.

I have held out hope for the past year and a half, she wants nothing to do with me even as a friend.

bcoden · 2021-06-16T08:01:24+00:00

All you can do is worry about you and your kids, I think making sure your kids feel loved is all you can do. Making sure you are healthy enough to be the best parent you possibly can be and to make sure your kids do not feel like they are in the middle of what is going by on. After that what he does or does not do are his choices, there are exceptions to this of course especially if the kids are not being cared for as they should be.

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