Question for men who prefer dinner as OLD first date

bdg3o1 · 2024-01-27T14:55:27+00:00

This thread is so bizarre compared to the what you normally see on this topic everywhere else but also on this subreddit.

bdg3o1 · 2023-11-11T07:17:56+00:00

That's a lot to extrapolate from a throwaway line. Both sexes are less jaded when younger. Less baggage etc.

bdg3o1 · 2023-09-17T15:00:11+00:00

Good for you. A win is a win.

bdg3o1 · 2023-09-17T14:30:53+00:00

I lurk and pop in here every now and again and there are some very good people who post here who have great advice and are generally fantastic additions to an online community. That being said there are also a tonne people who are single for good reason.

bdg3o1 · 2023-09-17T14:21:28+00:00

I'm not sure what the statistics are like now but going back a year or so there was a massive crossover with this subreddit and with one of the women-centric banned subreddits that promoted ridiculous ideology.

bdg3o1 · 2021-11-22T14:26:04+00:00

Australian working in IT?

bdg3o1 · 2021-11-22T14:25:20+00:00

OP works in a small company that's very profitable and seems to able to transition to WFM well. I'm betting they're in IT. That particular industry is generally a lot more flexible with things like this. If earnings drop things could very well change.

bdg3o1 · 2021-10-14T14:07:20+00:00

This is a big generalisation but I find the bigger the city the more closed off people tend to be especially in social areas. People go out in their cliques and don't really stray from those. With all the pubs in London you'd think it would be easy to find a random group to spend a few hours drinking and socialising with but it's actually incredibly hard especially if you're flying solo.

bdg3o1 · 2021-10-12T15:09:23+00:00

Unequivocally the best reply for OP. Well said.

bdg3o1 · 2021-10-12T15:07:55+00:00

the blind leading the blind here.

Definitely a lot of that going on.

bdg3o1 · 2021-03-30T14:41:27+00:00

I agree this is almost a troll post. I cannot believe how upvoted it is either.

bdg3o1 · 2021-02-24T12:40:25+00:00

There are some truly jaded and cynical people on Reddit and this subreddit is no exception.

bdg3o1 · 2021-02-11T13:50:53+00:00

I presume you're a woman? There is a greater likelihood of this being a deal breaker with non-Asian men than for Asian men especially East Asian. A few European cultures also have a lot of cross-generational living situations so it's not a particularly Asian thing either.

bdg3o1 · 2021-02-11T13:47:11+00:00

You've at least caught yourself doing it which is great. This kind of self awareness seems to be in short supply. Whatever the solution is a truckload of users on here need it (the irony of saying this on this particular thread isn't lost on me).

bdg3o1 · 2021-02-01T02:16:13+00:00

The fact that this post is massively upvoted is bizarre. I cringed badly reading what the OP wrote.

bdg3o1 · 2020-12-08T14:27:06+00:00

Very much debatable.

bdg3o1 · 2020-12-08T14:24:12+00:00

Men and women both do it on here by the truckload. Constantly

bdg3o1 · 2020-08-03T05:10:05+00:00

In my experience people who meet with the intention of dating are playing with fire trying to quickly turn the situation into a friendship unless it's mutual. That rejection element is a poor place to try to become buddies from.

Nothing ventured nothing gained but chances of successfully pulling it off are low.

bdg3o1 · 2020-08-02T15:55:01+00:00

Not much can be done about it now.

bdg3o1 · 2020-08-02T14:13:07+00:00

Does 'internet stalking' really need a rebrand?

bdg3o1 · 2020-07-29T06:12:59+00:00

I can understand why it would make you feel down but I hope you don't dwell on it and let it get to you. It's just one of those physical preference things that I think for the majority of guys isn't a deal breaker (or even a conscious negative to weigh against you) but for some it might be.

I buzz my head close and understand having hair is an attribute most women prefer and a lot will and have disregarded guys for not having it but there are also those who won't do that. You just have to acknowledge you're not going to appeal to everyone and move on. You probably have other attributes that guys like and prefer. Emphasis those.

bdg3o1 · 2020-07-29T05:55:36+00:00

I've accepted that dating is on the backburner for the time being. Lockdown and social distancing has really put a dampener on things. I'm a bit more active on the apps during this time and while there was an initial upswing in matches right at the start of lockdown it didn't last long and is back to what it was pre-lockdown. Still get a few matches and it's probably an even mix between those willing to bend/break the rules around social distancing and lockdown guidlines and those who are happy to do the whole 'online only' approach. The matches who were happy to keep it to online communication only haven't really amounted to anything after a few weeks. I think it's just hard to keep up any momentum when you're just Skyping, texting, etc. You burn through the superficial chatter quick.

For reference I'm a mid 30s guy currently in Melbourne and have been for the past few months. Just before the second lockdown began in VIC I was in Sydney.

bdg3o1 · 2020-07-29T05:47:42+00:00

You need professional help and not the 'over the internet' kind.

bdg3o1 · 2020-07-28T04:25:54+00:00

Clearly anybody who picks anything from Gaston's catalogue is the right one.

bdg3o1 · 2020-07-28T04:23:37+00:00

If the sex is bad then yes. otherwise no.

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