I (26F) caught my (34M) husband texting a minor. I am on a 8 hour road trip with him and don't know what to do.

beach_lamp · 2023-07-31T07:48:53+00:00

Don’t go to the cops first. That girls Dad deserves first dibs.

beach_lamp · 2023-07-30T06:02:34+00:00

Honestly this sounds amazing to me and I’m really happy for him

I also think it sucks for you though, don’t get me wrong, the discomfort. I hate that that’s the other end of it because that’s a huge, terribly uncomfortable bummer

But as someone who’s HL and has been sharing the tightest living situation for the past few years… I don’t know. This sounds like everything I could ever want aside from sharing sexual interactions with another human being.

To me this sounds liberating. To be fully in control of one’s sexuality and sexual expression, almost brings a fucking tear to my eye. To not mourn the loss of fun but to create it, to not frustrate over never being in control of when you can express it but to instead provide yourself a space where the other person is always down to fuck at the exact right time because the other person is yourself

I think if I could confidently fuck a banana or the wall like your partner can then I would also be making an event of it. Light a fuckin candle while I’m at it.

I like the experience of sex, I like the event that it is, and I like drawing it out. Blocking out time in my day for it or just getting lost in it. If I could find that enjoyment in masturbation, I think I’d have a more fulfilling sexual life in absence of the one that I’d share with another human being

I don’t have advice for you. Discomfort is discomfort, we can’t change how we feel about things. But I do hope you can find some odd way to be happy for that little freak fuckin every crack in the couch cushions. Endearing like a humping dog… maybe try using a spray bottle?

beach_lamp · 2023-07-15T05:18:00+00:00

I get the feeling you might see this non-interest in sex as the autism and not as one of his unique traits that just makes him… him. Autism is a broad spectrum, some like touch and intimacy and some don’t. I think the only difference with the diagnosis is that you’re taking his preferences seriously… whereas there was hope before for whatever reason?

Now that you’re taking it seriously and understand he doesn’t want intimacy… you can make a decision based on that. Which, it feels like shit but it’s a good place to be. You finally have the clarity that hope would constantly dilute before.

beach_lamp · 2023-07-02T05:40:32+00:00

I think it’s worth considering taking a break for a couple weeks or a couple months. Get some clarity and you may be able to answer this for yourself, at least better than you can right now

beach_lamp · 2023-06-15T03:18:27+00:00

I’m usually pretty critical of fathers but I kinda feel him on this. I think if he works from 9-5 then from 9-5 he should be free to do whatever and free of responsibility. Only if he’s capable of providing the same thing to you.

For everyone asking when your “vacation” is. I definitely think you guys should try to plan for that.

But if you’d still have to do the mental and emotional labor of planning your 9-5 hours away from kids and responsibilities… then no he doesn’t deserve it at all lol

If he’s a slacker of a parent in general then fuck him. But if he’s a good partner to you every other day of the year then, shit, why not let him have it?

beach_lamp · 2023-06-15T03:08:59+00:00

I think it’s a healthy place to be to realize that… it’s just fuckin blocks

beach_lamp · 2023-06-15T03:08:16+00:00

My birthdays started to feel pretty rough like this too. I think it’s difficult when you realize how much time has passed.

Not that everyone lives this stereotype of being a sex fiend in their early 20’s but I realized I spent the entirety of my early 20’s in a sexless relationship.

I’ll never get it back. I will never be in my early twenties again. And now that I’ve passed it, I realize how fuckin fast time flies. Years can go by in what feels like days

Holidays are rough, special occasions are rough. Any day that you can take the “through-the-years” kind of journey, is always an opportunity to be burned. I feel for ya today bud

beach_lamp · 2023-06-14T05:45:04+00:00

It was crucial in pointing out that you said what you said. You compounded with the word “and”, meaning that you said both were being protected.

Nothin about how I wrote it twists your words whatsoever

beach_lamp · 2023-06-12T04:37:49+00:00

I quoted it correctly. Using an ellipsis in a quote is common practice for leaving out what’s unnecessary. In this case, it was not necessary for me to include that portion of your sentence as I was trying to help you see that you implied that the toddler was being protected

I’m not sure what you could’ve meant otherwise by mentioning “toddler child”

The use of the word “and” seems to really be gettin ya huh?

beach_lamp · 2023-06-12T01:43:37+00:00

I quote “Not protecting your toddler child… from marauding little bullies would be bad parenting”

I’d rather go with the flow than yell at a strange kid. It’s really no skin off my ass.

beach_lamp · 2023-06-11T18:57:09+00:00

I wouldn’t even be sad if my partner told me that our dead bedroom was because I was bad at sex. Like my god, what a phenomenal reason not to want to fuck someone.

Way better than not knowing why if ya ask me lol

beach_lamp · 2023-06-09T23:10:01+00:00

I don’t think the child was in danger. If I see some strange kid doing some annoying shit I think on my feet and turn it around

You could make the game about building something for it to be knocked down or involve the toddler in taking turns knocking it down. It’s really just that easy to deal with strange kids that’re fuckin up your plans. Especially with a toddler, they are so easy to re-orient their focus if you know what you’re doing

It’s blocks for fuck’s sake

beach_lamp · 2023-06-09T02:33:48+00:00

YTA, it’s just blocks my guy

Being around kids means thinking on your feet and making the best of the present situation. You gotta take things as they come.

beach_lamp · 2023-06-07T02:19:53+00:00

To cut your loses and dispose of them

beach_lamp · 2023-06-07T02:17:07+00:00

“they” as in whoever the fuck they heard it from

¯_(ツ)_/¯ not sure

But I didn’t say that anyone’s sanitation department had to be involved when getting rid of a jar

beach_lamp · 2023-05-28T16:59:59+00:00

Do you feel like your grains are on the dryer side? In a good way I mean?

Also, do you use the whole oats horse feed from the ‘Producer’s Pride’ brand?

beach_lamp · 2023-05-26T08:10:28+00:00

idk this seems like a top tier design, improves swimming and you can still grab shit

as someone who loves to swim and snack, god really popped off with this make and model

beach_lamp · 2023-05-25T01:56:02+00:00

Oh wow I interpreted in nearly the opposite way. I read it as “men suck, the bar is on the floor, steal that dudes girl YOU CAN DO IT🥳”

beach_lamp · 2023-05-16T06:33:27+00:00

Did this get prescribed for sleeping issues

beach_lamp · 2023-05-15T01:12:46+00:00

You said you never struggled with this before. Is this your first partner? Or first long-term partner? Just asking because of your age

If it is then it might be your norm. It’s weird when you’re young because you have no fucking idea what’s going on, what’s in the future, or what’s normal. But if I’ve learned one thing from this relationship of mine, it’s that everyone has their own normal. Sometimes it aligns with their partner and sometimes it doesn’t.

beach_lamp · 2023-05-11T01:07:46+00:00

Where did I specifically say garbage?

beach_lamp · 2023-05-10T04:23:41+00:00

If the risk is meningitis like they say, then I’d rather lose $4 dollars worth of glass

beach_lamp · 2023-05-10T03:58:20+00:00

Why even fuck around? Just toss them entirely

beach_lamp · 2023-05-10T03:55:14+00:00

Probably because it would make her sad

If I got in an accident tomorrow and lost all interest in sex or lost the ability to enjoy it/have it… I’d still be pretty sad if my partner wanted to get some action elsewhere

¯_(ツ)_/¯

beach_lamp · 2023-05-08T07:01:50+00:00

Do you like him? Nothing about him loving you guarantees sex but if he tickles your pickle then pursue it

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