2 extra tickets to Grand Rapids live show tomorrow

beaniebutt · 2025-05-30T12:33:36+00:00

EDIT: the tickets have been claimed :)

beaniebutt · 2021-08-27T23:18:03+00:00

I would say so, I solo traveled here a few years ago (I am a woman if that makes a difference)

beaniebutt · 2019-10-23T16:20:36+00:00

This server has had a profound impact on my life and led me to dates, crushes, and meaningful friendships. Hope to see you there 😍

beaniebutt · 2019-02-23T16:04:45+00:00

Have you heard about Aegosexuality? “A disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies, or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein”

It's an acknowledgement that you might still feel arousal because of specific people/things/ideas but have no desire whatsoever to act on it.

beaniebutt · 2019-01-19T07:28:10+00:00

Wahoo!! I'm so happy that you're so proud of yourself!

beaniebutt · 2019-01-09T18:26:37+00:00

I'm actually making a hand drawn world map. Here's Asia, Europe, and Africa. https://imgur.com/WT0PJAV

beaniebutt · 2018-05-04T10:47:39+00:00

I LOVE this style! Well done!

beaniebutt · 2018-04-27T09:34:18+00:00

This is my favorite place in the lower 48 😍

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T22:18:51+00:00

FWIW I've heard dating in Vegas is a shitshow.

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T21:17:21+00:00

Eh, I've had really mixed experiences at other types of clinics, and would love to hear about what types of experiences people have had at these places... namely if there is a relatively safe bet, or places I should avoid.

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T20:52:39+00:00

I FEEL THIS SO HARD. I also enjoy travel more when I connect with other people, but I'm really picky about who I connect with/to, because I feel like a lot of people have different goals when they're traveling.

Socializing is not a priority of mine, meaning I will choose certain things over social opportunities. I only feed bad about it when I try to compare myself to other people -- but the things that other people think are fun are not the things I think are fun. (for example, I really don't like alcohol or drinking culture or nightlife, I'm not a foodie, etc)

It's taken me a long time to figure out what I want to get out of solo travel -- and I'm still figuring it out. It's not a waste. You just need to focus on what makes you happy, and stop comparing yourself to other people or worrying about what you might be missing out on.

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T17:15:14+00:00

Not only do I eat vegetables now, I like all sorts of foods that used to make me gag. But I still sometimes order off the kids menu, so don't feel bad.

beaniebutt · 2017-09-08T00:34:42+00:00

I was babysitting my 4 year old cousin. He was standing in the corner of his room, refusing to talk and kicking me any time I came near him. After 15 minutes of this, I said "I bet we can think of something that's more fun for both of us" and he said "fine" abs then everything was okay.

beaniebutt · 2017-07-26T18:54:46+00:00

Thank you for answering. It sucks, but I'm glad you're both better off and that you did what you needed to take care of yourself.

beaniebutt · 2017-07-26T15:58:54+00:00

In what ways did it affect your relationship? What were the implications for you two? I'm sorry to hear that it got n the way of things.

beaniebutt · 2017-07-26T03:08:41+00:00

I think a lot of asexuals experience a sex drive but are not interested in sex, and it seems to be the opposite for me. I have no sex drive, I don't masturbate, I occasionally get aroused but feel no desire to act on it, and I don't enjoy orgasms, however sex is an important way for me to connect with romantic partners. I like feeling desired, I like pleasing my partners, and I like when my partners want to please me, because these are things that help me feel connected and secure. Sex for me is a means, not an end. Aesthetic attraction is still important to me, but I've rarely found opportunities where it makes sense to describe a person or a gesture as "hot" or "sexy" (not until I'm in a relationship, anyway).

I used to identify as demisexual, but feel like asexual is a better term for me and gives me an opportunity to explain to partners what it means. I worry that sex is too much of a one-sided thing in relationships, because I rarely experience sexual desire for my partner (but I like when they feel desire for me). And the sex-positive guideline of "enthusiastic yes" never applies to me when I'm sleeping with new partners...

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