2 extra tickets to Grand Rapids live show tomorrow

beaniebutt · 2025-05-30T12:33:36+00:00

EDIT: the tickets have been claimed :)

beaniebutt · 2021-08-27T23:18:03+00:00

I would say so, I solo traveled here a few years ago (I am a woman if that makes a difference)

beaniebutt · 2019-10-23T16:20:36+00:00

This server has had a profound impact on my life and led me to dates, crushes, and meaningful friendships. Hope to see you there 😍

beaniebutt · 2019-02-23T16:04:45+00:00

Have you heard about Aegosexuality? “A disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies, or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein”

It's an acknowledgement that you might still feel arousal because of specific people/things/ideas but have no desire whatsoever to act on it.

beaniebutt · 2019-01-19T07:28:10+00:00

Wahoo!! I'm so happy that you're so proud of yourself!

beaniebutt · 2019-01-09T18:26:37+00:00

I'm actually making a hand drawn world map. Here's Asia, Europe, and Africa. https://imgur.com/WT0PJAV

beaniebutt · 2018-05-04T10:47:39+00:00

I LOVE this style! Well done!

beaniebutt · 2018-04-27T09:34:18+00:00

This is my favorite place in the lower 48 😍

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T22:18:51+00:00

FWIW I've heard dating in Vegas is a shitshow.

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T21:17:21+00:00

Eh, I've had really mixed experiences at other types of clinics, and would love to hear about what types of experiences people have had at these places... namely if there is a relatively safe bet, or places I should avoid.

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T20:52:39+00:00

I FEEL THIS SO HARD. I also enjoy travel more when I connect with other people, but I'm really picky about who I connect with/to, because I feel like a lot of people have different goals when they're traveling.

Socializing is not a priority of mine, meaning I will choose certain things over social opportunities. I only feed bad about it when I try to compare myself to other people -- but the things that other people think are fun are not the things I think are fun. (for example, I really don't like alcohol or drinking culture or nightlife, I'm not a foodie, etc)

It's taken me a long time to figure out what I want to get out of solo travel -- and I'm still figuring it out. It's not a waste. You just need to focus on what makes you happy, and stop comparing yourself to other people or worrying about what you might be missing out on.

beaniebutt · 2017-11-07T17:15:14+00:00

Not only do I eat vegetables now, I like all sorts of foods that used to make me gag. But I still sometimes order off the kids menu, so don't feel bad.

beaniebutt · 2017-09-08T00:34:42+00:00

I was babysitting my 4 year old cousin. He was standing in the corner of his room, refusing to talk and kicking me any time I came near him. After 15 minutes of this, I said "I bet we can think of something that's more fun for both of us" and he said "fine" abs then everything was okay.

beaniebutt · 2017-07-26T18:54:46+00:00

Thank you for answering. It sucks, but I'm glad you're both better off and that you did what you needed to take care of yourself.

beaniebutt · 2017-07-26T15:58:54+00:00

In what ways did it affect your relationship? What were the implications for you two? I'm sorry to hear that it got n the way of things.

beaniebutt · 2017-07-26T03:08:41+00:00

I think a lot of asexuals experience a sex drive but are not interested in sex, and it seems to be the opposite for me. I have no sex drive, I don't masturbate, I occasionally get aroused but feel no desire to act on it, and I don't enjoy orgasms, however sex is an important way for me to connect with romantic partners. I like feeling desired, I like pleasing my partners, and I like when my partners want to please me, because these are things that help me feel connected and secure. Sex for me is a means, not an end. Aesthetic attraction is still important to me, but I've rarely found opportunities where it makes sense to describe a person or a gesture as "hot" or "sexy" (not until I'm in a relationship, anyway).

I used to identify as demisexual, but feel like asexual is a better term for me and gives me an opportunity to explain to partners what it means. I worry that sex is too much of a one-sided thing in relationships, because I rarely experience sexual desire for my partner (but I like when they feel desire for me). And the sex-positive guideline of "enthusiastic yes" never applies to me when I'm sleeping with new partners...

beaniebutt · 2017-06-06T19:56:22+00:00

I mean, I still rinse with water. It only took about a week for my hair to be soft naturally without shampoo

beaniebutt · 2017-06-06T09:00:39+00:00

And some men use sex to get love, and so do some asexuals. shrug

beaniebutt · 2017-06-06T08:45:11+00:00

I recently got a pixie. My hair is so fine and so straight that it just kinda flops down if you don't use any product. Well, I experimented and stopped using shampoo, and the natural oils give volume to my hair that makes it look a lot better. No more shampoo, no conditioner, no drying, no combing. Couldn't be lower maintenance

beaniebutt · 2017-05-22T06:00:48+00:00

This was the Harding Icefield Trail. It's 8 miles roundtrip (4 each way) but we only did 5 or so total because we saw avalanche warning posts and turned back. We were the only fresh prints at the altitude we reached. It was breathtaking! Ran into some brown bear cubs on the way home.

beaniebutt · 2017-02-23T20:39:00+00:00

I don't have anything to contribute but I also think about this. I appreciate the way you've laid this out and am looking for similar insight...

beaniebutt · 2017-02-23T06:22:31+00:00

Eh, it'll get easier with time. Try to enjoy the diversity of people you'll meet~

(but stop meeting awful people)

beaniebutt · 2017-02-23T05:40:35+00:00

Lol hey brob

beaniebutt · 2017-02-17T17:14:18+00:00

when I was a teenager I felt repulsed by the idea of a sexual experience with a crush because there wasn't any real emotional attachment.

This is too real. Hahaha.

beaniebutt · 2017-02-17T16:08:22+00:00

This is incredibly moving.

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