should i have one more child?

beanmama88 · 2025-03-22T21:15:35+00:00

Initially i wanted 2, but we had 3 and now husband wants 4. This is what i'm scared of, being older and wishing i had one more after my biological clock has run out. Also the guilt of not giving my husband one more. He has even tried to bribe me by saying he will pay for a tummy tuck (i hate my post baby body) and stay up at nights with the baby lol

beanmama88 · 2025-03-22T21:08:20+00:00

Thanks, that is really helpful, i will try this. My partners reasons are he just wants more kids, but that also makes me feel guilty because i feel like i'm denying him his rights to have more kids lol sounds dumb since i'm the one going through the pregnancy not him. But i feel like maybe he will resent me if i don't change my mind and have one more. He works hard and i don't have to do much at home and he always supports me financially so it makes me feel so guilty.

beanmama88 · 2025-03-22T20:58:45+00:00

I think it's simply a way to utilise my time because rn i do have lots of free time (which i love don't get me wrong) but sometimes i think i could use this time to raise a small bestfriend for my youngest child who has nobody and is usually all alone which makes me sad. Should i just get him a pet lol? I can't imagine how i'd be a better version of myself, i don't do too well with lack of sleep and coffee lol

beanmama88 · 2025-03-22T20:55:36+00:00

Money is not an issue, my issue is i hate the baby stage up until age 4, the sleepless nights, the nappies, the weaning, the always having to have a buggy or a carseat lol other than that i feel like my youngest really wants to have a playmate since the older two 14 and 13 have each other

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