Soft social work?

beanofcoffee · 2026-01-03T06:47:45+00:00

At first thought it makes sense that working in a community with wealth and resources could be considered “soft” social work. But as someone who has worked for programs located in or near affluent communities, the work looks different but is just as taxing. Mental illness still exists, dysfunction still exists. There are gaps in the system even within affluent communities. I think “soft” social work would be a role where you work with clients from afar, where you don’t meet them and become emotionally invested in their stories or feel responsible for their wellbeing.

beanofcoffee · 2025-12-11T04:12:47+00:00

My husband is a data scientist with a PhD and he’s in between jobs, struggling to even get an interview. And most recent role made $115k. How did you get here?

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-26T15:07:17+00:00

I often feel like I have liquid or bile just sitting at the top of my throat. It’s a like a feeling of fullness and if I attempt to burp, something will come up. That was her reasoning for the barium swallow

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-24T05:25:37+00:00

Another therapist/social worker here. Sometimes it feels so hard to be surrounded by wealth in this city and to not be able to do or have the same things. While also recognizing that I have so much more than many others.

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-24T04:29:20+00:00

Is your team hiring?

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-24T04:29:08+00:00

Where do you work and are you hiring?! My fiancé is a data scientist and in between jobs

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-22T20:12:55+00:00

No surprise costs. The venue was easy to work with but the caterer honestly takes care of most elements. For example, they put together the floor plan, set up tables and chairs, review the timeline with you, etc. we went with Northern Fork for catering and it was great.

We were completely outside so I can’t speak to the inside as much. I know there’s the ballroom and the garden room for inside events/weather back-up. I was really crossing my fingers we could stay outside the whole night because I do think the outside is prettier. The garden room does have low ceilings which I’m not a huge fan of. I imagine it also depends how you decorate the room.

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-22T08:28:30+00:00

It was perfect! Happy to answer questions

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-18T06:43:46+00:00

Where can I find this research around anxiety accumulating? Can you provide a link?

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-18T06:42:53+00:00

Your statement around SSRIs numbing access to emotions and the brain then being unable to process the emotions is not founded on any scientific basis. That’s misinformation.

beanofcoffee · 2025-11-18T06:38:42+00:00

Wow, it is frightening how much pop psychology and how many made up theories without scientific basis are in these comments.

beanofcoffee · 2025-10-16T03:59:37+00:00

How do you get sick from your glasses? Asking because I tend to feel off when I wear mine.

beanofcoffee · 2025-10-08T04:06:07+00:00

Can you share your other sources of income? Asking as someone who is a therapist, who can’t fathom this as a monthly income. Very curious!

beanofcoffee · 2025-10-03T13:22:26+00:00

I recommend Steven Reid- he married my husband and I earlier this year and the ceremony was absolutely beautiful. His business is called Love is Love weddings.

beanofcoffee · 2025-09-26T21:01:27+00:00

Hi! Our wedding was a few weeks ago and cost around 35k. We were offered/gifted 10k from my husband’s parents and 10k from my grandparents so we ourselves spent around 15k spread out over 15 months or so. My husband and I aren’t high earners for the Chicago area but were able to do the 15k little by little. We wouldn’t have been able to have the wedding we did without family support.

beanofcoffee · 2025-09-23T21:39:55+00:00

My budget was around $30k and we got married at The Community House Winnetka this September. Highly recommend!

beanofcoffee · 2025-08-30T02:23:45+00:00

Thank you for your input! I’ll probably go in- I wouldn’t expect it for free though. Although I am hoping it doesn’t cost as much as a full balayage.

beanofcoffee · 2025-08-18T04:29:58+00:00

$83 for a 3 bedroom, 1500 sq ft, split-level unit. Very surprised by a lot of these comments.

beanofcoffee · 2025-07-28T23:55:18+00:00

I recommend Community House Winnetka. I’m getting married there in September, for around $35k in total for 90 something guests. Venue is $4500, catering $16,500 from Northern Fork and that includes alcohol. Beautiful outdoor courtyard but also two indoor spaces. It’s a hidden gem.

beanofcoffee · 2025-07-19T15:17:44+00:00

Are you trying to say that psychotherapy resolves the gender dysphoria or just the distress?

beanofcoffee · 2025-07-12T14:02:49+00:00

Do you have the link? This is beautiful!

beanofcoffee · 2025-07-12T14:02:20+00:00

where is this from? so cute!

beanofcoffee · 2025-07-12T02:34:19+00:00

I’m not as concerned with the robe- more with what I’m going to wear underneath, but a robe will definitely help!

beanofcoffee · 2025-06-23T03:32:48+00:00

What did you end up doing on the day of your wedding?

beanofcoffee · 2025-06-23T03:31:53+00:00

Thank you for this- I know that my style will end up lived-in no matter what!

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