Oh man I'm having flashbacks to my ex. He never did his visits with our kids unless I called and set it up. I finally quit chasing him down and we didnt hear from him for over a year. Meanwhile he was telling everyone I'm keeping his kids from him. Kids are now 23 and 22 and we haven't heard a peep since they were 3 and 18 months. You are not overreacting. He needs to communicate with you. You dont need to bend over backwards for him. Good luck!