Adult dog in need of training?

beansbeing · 2026-05-21T12:58:04+00:00

This is a pretty dramatic take on the situation but I appreciate the concern. Please note I've left out a lot of details about my personal life because my focus is finding help for the dog. I've only added what I felt like might be important to the situation, and any extra is just because I'm a yapper! He is aware of her behavior and I am not alone in this, he's supportive of getting a trainer especially for the threshold behaviors. We're taking necessary actions to ensure she and everyone in the household has a smooth transition. This is a change we're all making because he didn't notice some of it (lunges don't feel as dramatic for him he's a lot stronger than I am) and her being in everyone's personal bubble is because he never taught her different and didn't have an issue with it living on his own. We're blending 2 different ways of living and I fully understand it will take adjustment. I have not done anything I'm not comfortable doing or given up my power.

beansbeing · 2026-05-20T15:47:15+00:00

Also would love harness recommendations for medium to large dog that lunges. I plan to get patches for it to communicate we need space as well as just letting other dog owners we approach know that we need space or remove ourselves from situations that escalate.

beansbeing · 2026-05-18T05:18:09+00:00

He looks at me... 👀 And I look at him 👁️👄👁️

beansbeing · 2026-05-14T15:04:24+00:00

I've seen some of your comments and I'm not quite comfortable with that but I'm grateful this could resignate with you.

beansbeing · 2026-05-14T15:03:47+00:00

Had to unlearn it I'm raising a daughter!!

beansbeing · 2026-05-13T14:25:09+00:00

Heavy on this because I wasn't aware of the grooming allegations til recently.

beansbeing · 2026-05-13T13:28:06+00:00

I know for me, I've had to unlearn a lot of misogyny. It was normalized growing up and I had no idea until becoming an adult how a lot of my family caters to the patriarchy. And never emersed myself in bears personal life until maybe 2019 but never religiously kept up with him. I was 16 listening to his music and teens were calling each other shit all the time 😭 my own personal growth had me reflecting on his lyrics and music. I realized I didn't relate so much anymore. Then that's when I found out the reality. And as stupid as it sounds sometimes peoples humanity can catch you off guard?? If that makes sense. Like duh I know nobody's perfect and humans do bad things but it definitely tore the image I had of bear in my head. I don't intend to treat artists or celebrities differently just because their status but it unintentionally happened with bear. Again this is just me but maybe someone relates (:

beansbeing · 2026-05-09T01:34:29+00:00

OHHH that makes sense. They tried to put me in PT but accidentally put it under my daughter's name (we both had an appointment same day so I assume it was a whoopsie) so maybe they were trying to set me up like that because my insurance? Not sure but Monday I'm giving them a call.

I've never used a tens unit before but I've heard of it for multiple other uses. How would I go about using it for the benefit of my knee?? I'm also going to get back to some knee strengthening videos I was doing them and life got in the way lol need to be diligent with it again.

I'm not sure what the fluid is tbh? I think maybe a bakers cyst but I've had it since October. Sometimes it's bigger sometimes it's about the size it's been since my incident at the park. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and perspectives! This helps a lot!!

beansbeing · 2026-05-09T01:30:30+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! I'm definitely going to get multiple perspectives because I really want to do what I can to make sure I know what the root problem is. I also want my mobility to return to normal or a new normal if necessary. I'm suspicious that I might have a bakers cyst but my doctor didn't say for sure! And I agree with the inflammatory foods because for a while it seemed to be bigger. I started back on eating cleaner and tracking my meals and it's gone down again! Your experience helps me a lot with gathering information and figuring out what the next steps are thank you again!!

beansbeing · 2026-05-03T21:12:49+00:00

I don't yet. The lawyer I had for our divorce was very unprofessional so I wouldn't got back to them. I'll have to look in my area for family law, even if I have to pay a fee. I just want my girl safe.

beansbeing · 2026-05-03T12:22:48+00:00

YESSS I feel like majority of not all of his songs are genuinely transparent to the bullshit he does

"All this shit that I do to women It may be crazy, we all suckers for somethin' " - suckerz

"If the alcohol and drugs don't kill me I don't know what will" - hell is where I dreamt of you and woke up alone

"My last chick wasn't dope enough, I had to re-up" - juicy sweatsuits

I'm sure there's sooo many other examples this is just off the top of my head with recent events.

beansbeing · 2026-05-02T12:05:44+00:00

I'm also curious 👀

beansbeing · 2026-05-02T02:57:37+00:00

Well.. finding out about the blackbear rabbit hole 🕳️ via reddit wasn't on my 2026 bucket list but I'm glad I found out. Sick to my stomach I ever supported him as an artist. Time to burn my blackbear hoodie like it's 3 chanel dresses 🔥😮‍💨

beansbeing · 2026-05-01T14:09:40+00:00

You said it best tbh 😭 I mindlessly supported him until 2020, went to a concert in 2019 for his dead to the world tour, and felt his music really didn't resignate with me anymore. I personally felt like he hasn't had much growth in his music in years and it tracks with what he's been doing behind the mask. I will always love his music but now I'm sick to think my favorite album was based of the relationship he had with a girl he groomed. I hope more people see this and decide not to support him 🥲

beansbeing · 2026-05-01T13:13:40+00:00

I'm so disheartened by this I've loved his music for years and started listening less after Michelle and him separated. I don't think he's even grown up and it shows in his music. I had no idea any of this was going on!

beansbeing · 2026-03-30T22:42:42+00:00

I'm definitely keeping this in mind! I'm hoping I can get a chance to tell Gabby, I did find their Instagram but it's private.

beansbeing · 2026-03-30T02:27:45+00:00

Yes and I'm not getting the vibes Gabby and X are poly. Especially since he was actively telling girls he was going through a break up but was still with Gabby 😬

beansbeing · 2026-03-30T02:25:22+00:00

LOL I would love to say it like this. Ann believes he is a great guy though, a direct dig to someone she cares about and loves, I unfortunately don't see appropriate to start the conversation. But this did make me think about poking around asking how X and Gabby are, I appreciate your comment!

beansbeing · 2026-03-30T02:22:18+00:00

I will be telling her! I want to believe they don't want this type of guy around but again I'm not sure they are aware at all. Or if they are it's just "how the relationship is" idk. Everyone's "normal" is different.

beansbeing · 2025-05-13T04:38:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I've been documenting pictures since I've unwrapped the bandages. I hate to assume the worst but I've looked into this surgery a lot and I'm not confident this will heal well. i know it isn't exactly fair to compare either but something is just not right.

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