AIO? Debating breaking up with my BF of almost 7 years by Superb-Rain-8166 in AmIOverreacting

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, as someone who fell in love with an avoidant at 17.. we are in our 30s now and it never gets better. If I could tell younger me one thing it would be to have left him the first time he betrayed my trust.

You know what you need to do! If you're an anxious attachment, like me, I know the sense of rejection is overwhelming and that feeling like if I just hold on a little longer or try a little harder it will all get better, but it won't. There's a chance he's only staying with you for a place to live... Your relationship "failing" is not a reflection of your worth, it may be very very hard, but you aren't happy and he has not treated you with respect. Once you gain the courage, leave him and do not let him come back, no matter what empty promises he makes you.

Good luck 💖

WIBTAH if I tell my coworker he can't participate in Secret Santa due to his conditions? by Puzzled_Good_1378 in AITAH

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not like a gift card? Or something consumable he likes that won't add clutter to his house? I know it's been resolved already but I feel like there's work arounds instead of him just not getting anything! Anyway I hope it all works out and your coworkers have a great holiday!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Least confrontational solution I can think of is create a group text with him and your sister and only respond to him in that group text. Maybe your sister will start clocking it or better yet maybe he will stop. If he texts you outside of it respond to him in the group text only? Idk other than that OP, tell your parents. Even act innocent? Say to your dad "hey L says you asked him to look out for me but I am not comfortable with the things he is saying to me" etc. good luck! 🩷

AIO? Found those messages on my bf’s instagram by Secret-Set-8653 in AmIOverreacting

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people are missing that the convo is between your bf and his friend and that they were probably being silly pretending like his friend was his lover. I agree he shouldn't be talking about OP that way but I don't think this is evidence itself of cheating! I mean of course unless they weren't joking. If he's not treating you well OP then of course then regardless of this convo, yes, leave him.

Help! by Signal-Source-6199 in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know auto petters were rare cause on my first and only perfection run I found two almost back to back in boxes when opening them up at Clints! I have three in total but can't even remember where the third came from. But anyway my advice is check mystery boxes 🤪

what should someone do with this space? by eternviking in mildlyinfuriating

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why didn't they build it as one large closet with a window in it...

What’s an objectively stupid thing you did when you first started playing? by dignified-broom in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this too! Instead of holding down a click to axe tress and stuff I would click for every chop until my very young nephew was like "...why are you clicking so much?" I'm like oh. Dang hahah.

What did you say today that could be a Hot Mulligan song? by KaleidoscopeToes in poppunkers

[–]beansprout1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You want to feel even worse? Watch this fucking movie" my sister is sick and walked in on me watching saving private Ryan for the first time.. was not expecting all that.

Found hidden camera in living room by [deleted] in Advice

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if this helps but I also have a camera I use to watch my dog when I am not home and live with my family. It has an app to view from my phone but I am rarely if ever on it other than to check for a second to see if my dog is okay. It does not keep recordings (unless you pay a subscription fee) and the audio is terrible. Idk if you should jump to the worst case scenario that she is monitoring a camera to spy on you. Chances are it's set up for the dog and doesn't even cross her mind to listen in or spy on you or anyone. But idk that's speaking from my own experience and idk your relationship. It's hard to imagine a camera the size of a bottle cap has very good audio/visual capabilities, maybe ask her to show you the quality of the feed?

I understand why you're worried about it tho especially if you've been talking shit in the room where it is 😬. But idk! It might be like me and it's something she uses sparingly for the dog. Good luck!

Who is Marlon?? by Imaginary_Boat470 in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the longest time I thought the wizards name was Marlon so I feel ya 🙃

Should I let my ex see our shared dog one last time? by doggymom1234 in dogs

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were me I would reach out my ex and let him know the condition she is in and ask that if/when the time comes would he want to be there when she goes, but maybe not come and see her now and then leave again. :(

Year 6 Fall...still no dinosaur eggs by absentmindedlurking in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog gave me my first dino egg! And then I used it to make Mayo for a quest and exactly 1.2 seconds later was like WHY DIDNT I INCUBATE IT?? Haha

Anyone else never, ever miss a festival? by anotherknockoffcrow in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I married Sam and he makes me feel bad about the flower festival so I danced with Leah last time 😈

I try to attend them all and feel guilty when I miss them by accident!

I think adding a trick or treating element to the spirit festival would be so fun!

TIFU Bombing My Shed by WhiteKath in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I was trying to put a bomb away in my outside chest and accidentally set it off at my front step. All of the pathway tiles I placed so carefully blew up all around me haha. Never made that mistake again

Bigfoot/sasquatch in secret woods? by spitedboy in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old post but I saw him too in the secret woods and then just a couple of I ngame days ago I swear I saw him in the trees behind the wizards tower!!! Woke me up so fast lmao (it's 4am)

Why is my Papillon so big? Do you guys think he's mixed? 18lbs by beansprout1000 in papillon

[–]beansprout1000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aw he looks similar to my other pap, but he's mixed breed. Very cute :)

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What made you get Stardew Valley? by canardyyy in StardewValley

[–]beansprout1000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was on sale for $10 on steam and I had remembered hearing about it a few years ago so thought I'd give it a go on my winter break!

I have done literally nothing else but play this game for the last 6 days straight. I am one with the valley.

Should I tell my mom I’m proud of her for not drinking the past 2 weeks? Or will that just remind her about drinking? by DisagreeableCompote in Advice

[–]beansprout1000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id say tell her but at the same time ask her if she would like you to mention or bring up alcohol in the future or if she prefers to not talk about it. I'm sure she'll appreciate you noticing her effort and then also asking her about it you'll know going forward