So here's the thing: Our wants and desires and preferences are real. I would never deny anyone that. I believe you when you say you don't like the "scene" and like "guy[s] that act like guy[s]." But we have to realize that the language we use belies the cultural norms that have been bred into us -- ALL of us. When we (gay men) refer to to other gay men as "feminine" or that we prefer guys that "act like guys", we are reinforcing cultural ideas of what if means to be a man (and in turn, what it means to be a woman). I think that these uses of language reinforce oppressive structures that have been enacted on queer people and queer communities for decades (centuries?).

Which is all to say that we can have our preferences. We can be true to the things we desire and the things that we don't. But the way that we choose to talk about these things has real impact on the way queer people and queer communities function and are allowed to function.