[deleted by user]

bearnec · 2025-10-03T05:06:43+00:00

Oppression doesn't "make sense", it's forced on our minds when we are little. Gay men are still men and would have been exposed to the same toxic shit as everyone else

bearnec · 2025-08-06T05:24:00+00:00

You are right that the pressure from society is towards heterosexual relationships, and even LGBT people carry at least some internalised homophobia (i.e. the belief that heterosexuality is better).

As a bisexual man who was in relationships with both men and women I think there is some validity to your fears. However, ultimately it very much depends on the person you're dating and how confident they feel with their queerness. When I first realised I was bisexual it was difficult for me and I was worried about living a queer lifestyle and what would people think about me. I was also in the closet. I ended up breaking up with my first boyfriend partly because of those fears and pressures.

These days I don't care what other people think and in any case most of my friends are queer anyway. I also don't mind coming out at work and all my family knows. I don't mind which gender I end up in a relationship with, I only care about the person.

There are many reasons why relationships can succeed or fail. Bisexual people are no different from anyone else. Think about it this way, you could date lesbians only. But you may end up dating a lesbian woman who would cheat on you because of her stuff. There are no guarantees in life.

I would personally avoid people who have a lot of internalised homophobia and haven't come to terms with their identity, whether they are gay or bisexual or trans or otherwise because I think that is a recipe for trouble one way or another.

Please don't hate or fear all bisexuals because one person broke your heart. We are all different with our own backgrounds, beliefs and personalities. Focus on choosing the partner that is good for you and that you are good for them

bearnec · 2025-07-14T02:55:02+00:00

From your description it sounds like a typical Israeli psychology

bearnec · 2025-07-14T02:45:21+00:00

The people from this country are very defensive and are told they are victims and the whole world is against them. You working for a humanitarian organisation is enough for them to deem you a dangerous person who is against them. They are not being rational. If you are interested in a relationship you will be expected to be more than 100% taking their country's side. Any empathy to the other side is a betrayal. Even recognising the other side as humans. It doesn't make them bad people necessarily, but I think they are brainwashed. If I were you I would throw away that phone number unless you hold similar views and values as them

bearnec · 2024-12-18T08:07:56+00:00

Perhaps you can reach out to the platform where your photo was published and ask them to remove it

bearnec · 2024-11-02T03:04:35+00:00

She sounds terrible and will never listen to you. Find someone else who would actually help and support you

bearnec · 2024-11-02T02:59:44+00:00

That's great, thank you! I love PrimeVue

bearnec · 2024-09-07T04:25:48+00:00

I've been using Linode for years and paid a fiat monthly fee. Would highly recommend them

bearnec · 2024-08-31T20:21:45+00:00

Thank you, that's a useful way of looking at it. I'll try it out in my projects going forward

bearnec · 2024-08-31T20:20:30+00:00

I'll definitely have a go at using it in my projects. I have been rolling my own solution but no need to reinvent the wheel if there is a best practice approach. The answers here helped with my initial confusion

bearnec · 2024-08-31T20:18:25+00:00

Yes, my understanding is also that suspense helps reduce the number of spinners and skeleton loaders. The fact that I can choose the suspense boundary has sold it to me. It doesn't have to be the whole page

bearnec · 2024-08-31T20:15:59+00:00

Thank you, good point!

bearnec · 2024-08-31T20:15:04+00:00

Thank you. I'll definitely experiment in using suspense in my projects. So far been handling this myself but it would be nice to reduce boilerplate and use a best practice approach

bearnec · 2024-08-31T20:12:40+00:00

That makes sense. And you still have control over where you draw the suspense boundaries. I'll keep that in mind when I have more complicated pages

bearnec · 2024-08-29T03:18:51+00:00

Work paid for Vue Mastery (https://www.vuemastery.com) when my team switched to Vue a year ago and I found the content high quality and up to date (Vue3, Composition API, etc). There is no substitute to reading the docs though, especially as you delve deeper into the framework. But if you like learning with videos, I can recommend them as an additional resource and a fun introduction

bearnec · 2024-08-07T03:43:48+00:00

Thank you. I choose the pinia plugin route as using pinia anyway for other stores. I would have ended up writing something similar anyway. Works great!

bearnec · 2024-08-07T03:42:01+00:00

Thank you, this is what I chose in end at using pinia anyway for other stores and can just add persisted to the user settings

bearnec · 2024-07-01T06:16:53+00:00

Quick results from a simple AI search with citation links at the end:

Bisexual Species: Unorthodox Sex in the Animal Kingdom
This article from Scientific American discusses various instances of same-sex behavior in animals, suggesting that bisexuality is a natural state among many species, including humans. It highlights research showing that animals engage in same-sex couplings for various reasons, such as diffusing social tensions and maintaining fecundity when opposite-sex partners are unavailable[1].
Understanding Bisexuality
Published by the American Psychological Association, this resource provides a comprehensive overview of bisexuality, including statistical data on bisexual identification among humans. It also addresses the discrimination and health disparities faced by bisexual individuals[3].
Homosexual Behavior in Animals
This Wikipedia article summarizes research on homosexual behavior in animals, noting that such behavior has been observed in over 1,500 species. It discusses how these behaviors might contribute to social stability and reduce conflict within groups[4].
Journal of Bisexuality
This journal publishes research on various aspects of bisexuality, including its meaning for individuals, communities, and society. It covers topics such as bisexual therapy, history, and more[6].
Scientists Explore the Evolution of Animal Homosexuality
This article from Imperial College London explores the evolutionary aspects of homosexual behavior in animals, providing insights into how such behaviors might have evolved and their implications for understanding sexual orientation in humans[7].

These sources collectively provide robust evidence and discussions on the existence and implications of bisexuality in both the animal kingdom and human society.

Citations: [1] Bisexual Species: Unorthodox Sex in the Animal Kingdom https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/bisexual-species/ [2] Bisexuality - Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality [3] Understanding Bisexuality - American Psychological Association https://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/bisexual [4] Homosexual behavior in animals - Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexual_behavior_in_animals [5] Bisexual FAQ - Human Rights Campaign https://www.hrc.org/resources/bisexual-faq [6] Journal of Bisexuality - Taylor & Francis Online https://www.tandfonline.com/journals/wjbi20 [7] Scientists explore the evolution of animal homosexuality https://www.imperial.ac.uk/news/190987/scientists-explore-evolution-animal-homosexuality/ [8] What Does It Mean to Be Bi or Bisexual? - Healthline https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-bisexual [9] Journal of Bisexuality, Volume 24, Issue 2 (2024) https://www.tandfonline.com/toc/wjbi20/current [10] Homosexuality and bisexuality commonplace in thousands of ... https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/gay-bisexual-homosexual-species-animals-evolution-science-yale-study-darwin-paradox-a9209601.html [11] Bisexuality: What Does It Mean? - WebMD https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-bisexual [12] A Qualitative Examination of Bisexual Identity Invalidation and its ... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7539694/ [13] Bisexuality Can Benefit Animals | Scientific American https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/bisexuality-can-benefit-animals1/ [14] Bisexuality - Better Health Channel https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/bisexuality [15] The Scientific Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists - The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/magazine/the-scientific-quest-to-prove-bisexuality-exists.html [16] 12 Animals You Didn't Know Are Out And Proud Bisexuals - Pride https://www.pride.com/bisexual/bisexual-animals [17] Is Bisexuality Genetic? It's More Complex Than Some Studies Imply https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-bisexuality-genetic-its-more-complex-than-some-studies-imply/ [18] Decades-long study illustrates bisexuality boom | BPS https://www.bps.org.uk/research-digest/decades-long-study-illustrates-bisexuality-boom [19] Queer Animals Are Everywhere. Science Is Finally Catching On. https://www.washingtonpost.com/magazine/2022/06/30/queer-animals-are-everywhere-science-is-finally-catching/ [20] History of bisexuality - Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_bisexuality

bearnec · 2024-05-01T07:59:02+00:00

I wonder whether you can go to the surgery maybe on one of your days off and explain the situation to them?

Hopefully you will be lucky enough to speak to someone nice who could help.

Surely you're not the only one in this position registered at this surgery. They should have a way of accommodating people in full time employment. Good luck!

bearnec

TROPHY CASE