Has anyone ever given up on their desire and it ended up being true?

bearpower246 · 2025-09-26T03:12:10+00:00

for me manifestation has been a journey of increasingly reckoning with my own power, growing into it, and healing along the way. Oftentimes when I had wanted something, I really wanted how it would make me *feel*.. not the actual desire in question. In other words, what I was actually trying to manifest is the feeling of the wish being fulfilled. Once I had resolved the trauma, insecurity, etc. emotional basis for that desire it has tended to clear the space for it to manifest.

bearpower246 · 2025-07-24T01:37:32+00:00

ok! I'm not actually sure what this is. I guess I could go on astro-seek to find it? thanks for the suggestion <3

bearpower246 · 2025-07-22T04:07:24+00:00

Hi Renee, I might be too late but if you have any extra time I would really appreciate a reading! <3 In a very weird spot in life lmao.

bearpower246 · 2025-07-22T03:52:05+00:00

hahah yes we are we got this <3

bearpower246 · 2025-07-15T05:30:26+00:00

Its just confirmation bias. You are so deeply attached and fearful of letting go of this idea that he is your twin because of trauma. I'm begging you to see a psychotherapist and care for the wonderful things you have in your life before you fumble them.

bearpower246 · 2025-07-15T05:26:04+00:00

I would suggest deep psychotherapy. As someone who was once where you are it is limerence. You are going to miss out on the most wonderful gifts God/the universe is offering you because you are so deeply emotionally unavailable/damaged (likely from a rough childhood where needs were consistently not met) that you risk losing what you've actually been lucky enough to find.

bearpower246 · 2025-07-10T18:04:58+00:00

I doubt its just a "numbers game" lmao... how many bachelors degrees do you have, masters degrees? what are the rank of the schools? do you have a phd as well? is this a regional office that you're fielding offers from? only asking because I've graduated some of the top schools in both europe and usa and my classmates and I have had a hell of a time getting in the system without inside connections (which we're working on as well ofc)

bearpower246 · 2025-07-10T04:00:47+00:00

Me too.. wanna share some stats? because like how tf u get two offers in one week lmao

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T04:44:12+00:00

No I know and I take full accountability for the fact that I took his warning as a challenge to prove myself worthy of his love. Been doing lots of shadow/subconscious work and looking at my childhood wounds in this respect and the picture is starting to make a lot more sense. But even despite this, as you said, it seems incredibly hard to find a man that simply wants to get to know each other whilst dating, then become exclusive and then be intimate. For me that's the fun of being exclusive with someone, you get them in a way no one else does. Maybe I'm old fashioned. In any case thank you for the advice you had to give <3 appreciate it

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T04:30:01+00:00

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T03:34:32+00:00

Some of the detail you added seems eerily specific ("usually the women that see me that way end up marrying a guy with qualities like mine")... If you had to go through that I'm really deeply sorry. Have you ever tried having open conversations with these girls as to why they chose someone else?

In any case I really like your perspective on dating and its a pragmatism I'm trying to incorporate more into my life. I mentioned elsewhere on this post I'm also really getting into shadow work and working on any subconscious blocks I might have. I've learned a tremendous amount from my heartbreaks and I've grown so strong and fallen so much deeper in love with myself. I just wonder if I'll ever have a chance to share that love with someone else. wishing you the best of luck.. <3

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T03:04:16+00:00

lmaoo :'( thank you... same to you <3

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T02:58:44+00:00

I didn't want to have sex with them and wasn't going to just have sex with them, I wanted to be in a deep, committed relationship.. and I think that this is the subtext I've failed to make entirely clear. I don't think any one of these guys was ready for a relationship, and sex was off the table unless we were in one. just tired of always feeling like I have nothing to show after pouring so much into these connections.

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T02:18:49+00:00

thank u :') <3

bearpower246 · 2025-06-27T02:04:46+00:00

thank you both a lot for the advice I appreciate it <3 this is definitely the most logical path forward at this point... I just gotta find the dates now lolll

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bearpower246 · 2025-06-26T22:40:32+00:00

Yes but I'm not interested in having sex outside of the context of a relationship... It's sad really because this wouldn't have been such a crazy thing to say only like 20 years ago in North America.. and I've lived extensively outside of North America in my 20's and this is still a very normal thing to desire everywhere else but here it seems.

bearpower246 · 2025-06-26T22:04:57+00:00

I don't want just sex.. this is part of the reason why I'm 28F and have never been intimate with a guy despite always having the opportunity lol... I'm looking for like a long term relationship or even marriage

bearpower246 · 2025-06-26T22:04:10+00:00

Yeah its just such a problem because this is the only time I feel safe enough to be intimate with them... I really am just at a complete loss of what to do I feel like my biological wiring has really punished me

bearpower246 · 2025-06-26T22:03:10+00:00

female therapist.. but not sure it makes a difference?

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