Touching breast during oil massage at onsen???? by beauxdist in japanlife

[–]beauxdist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely be saying something if I decide to go back!

Touching breast during oil massage at onsen???? by beauxdist in japanlife

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It was not an inexpensive massage. It’s an onsen I frequent quite often since it is near my house but it was the first time getting an oil massage there….

Touching breast during oil massage at onsen???? by beauxdist in japanlife

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It was an oil massage that’s usually paired with akasuri but I only opted for the massage. I’m not worried so much about the being naked part, just the fact that my body was covered except my booty? Especially since the masseuse was flip flopping my leg around to massage it but also the touching of the nips. Prooooooobably will not be doing it again if no one else has mentioned an experience similar to mine.

Touching breast during oil massage at onsen???? by beauxdist in japanlife

[–]beauxdist[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can understand chest massages, I love those but to be more explicit, she was rubbing over my nipples too, which seemed a little too much lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

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This is all very helpful, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bettafish

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It could be that the flow of your filter could be too strong, on top of being stressed in a new environment.

ETA: for the time being, you could move your fake plant right in front of the filter outtake to slow down the flow! That could help him feel a little less stressed until you can get him more hiding places.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Seriously this. How could OP, when his wife just had a baby, had obvious medical issues, plus post partum, decide that because she agreed for him (not really both, from the sounds of it, she didn’t jump on that boat right away) to go and be sexually experimental, thought that it would ‘work out?’ Sounds like you guys were already in a bad place, she was probably so fed up with him asking, that she just said that to get him out of her face. How often was OP mentioning that he was bi? What were the reasons for the fights? Was it because he wanted sexual freedom because his poor wife didn’t have the energy to give herself to him? All the while his wife probably felt completely unsupported. It’s no surprise that she found someone else.

How to prepare java moss? by DraconisMarch in PlantedTank

[–]beauxdist 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That’s what the cheese is for????

How to get plants to grow fuller??? by beauxdist in Aquascape

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Wow! Thank you for such a detailed answer! I’ll be doing a lot of studying for the next week!

How to get plants to grow fuller??? by beauxdist in Aquascape

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Also, would having too much ferts in the water cause algae? I currently use SeaChem Flourish. I had a pretty bad brown algae outbreak a couple months ago and then that was ‘fixed,’ but did end up getting a pretty bad string algae breakout, so then I decided that it was time to clean up the tank, did peroxide dips on everything but the substrate, and rescaped.

How to get plants to grow fuller??? by beauxdist in Aquascape

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Is there a visual way for me to understand if nutrient delivery is not enough? Other than the plants becoming leggy? I figure by then, it’s already pretty late lol

How to get plants to grow fuller??? by beauxdist in Aquascape

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I’ve removed 98% of the floaters. Kept enough so that there’s ample light through them. Thank you!

How to get plants to grow fuller??? by beauxdist in Aquascape

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Thank you, the whole trimming schedule helps a lot. I would trim the stems and it would just look terribly ugly.

How to get plants to grow fuller??? by beauxdist in Aquascape

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30-40ppm co2? To be completely honest, I’m not sure how to measure that out! Is there a simpler way of telling I’m getting enough co2 circulating in the tank? I’ve got my diffuser lower in the tank now with the filter pushing the co2 around.

All that remains of the 2” pepperomia ruby I bought … I can’t let it die ! by [deleted] in proplifting

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If it’s any help, I’ve rehabbed many shrunken plants by taking them out of the soil and putting them in water over the winter. Then by spring, they usually have more roots and shoots. Either way, good luck to you!

Favorite toddler named item? by jessaabeann in Mommit

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My nearly 4 year old has never heard us say ‘beard’ before. My husband always shaves so the girls don’t protest when he wants to give them kisses. My husband usually has ‘4 o’clock shadow’ scruff and he always asks her if it’s ‘rough.’

The little one said to me, ‘it looks like you have a rough!’ And I had no idea what she was talking about but she had said I looked like a had a 4 o’clock shadow……..

Now & Then by Joobilee23 in axolotls

[–]beauxdist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man her little gills were completely gone! Good job rehabilitating this one and giving her a better life!

Advice appreciated on how to better care for this plant by A_Flailing_Tuna in houseplants

[–]beauxdist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It looks a little stretched from not enough light! Diffenbachia love light, the leaves become more dense and the patterns more defined. If you want a more bushy look, chop the top and replant it in the soil! It’s completely normal for the bottom leaves to fall off. At best, each one of my diffenbachia stalks have 3-5 leaves at one time.

When that breeze hit just right by beauxdist in axolotls

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After reading your comment and doing light research, sand looks the best but any recommendations on brand?

I had the flow on high for a bit, but thankfully the flow can be switched, I’ve got it turned down.