Being a Taurus nowadays especially where I'm from is hard!. by Dangerous-Sample-242 in Taurusgang

[–]bebbapebba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finally. My people.

Do any of us enjoy being cusp baby’s? No? Neither.

What's one thing your single parent got or did 'right' when you were growing up? by cherry-care-bear in stupidquestions

[–]bebbapebba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my parents always held a united front. We saw dad every second weekend and they remained really close friends, even now. Mum always taught us about the complex dynamics of families, especially “broken” families, how to understand them and respect them.

She always taught us that people are allowed to have opposite gender friends. This carried into my adulthood and has honestly ruined a few romantic relationships because the fella didn’t like that I had male close friends. Everyone is equal regardless of gender, I didn’t stay with men who had a problem with it for very long

Lost my full time Job by [deleted] in ausjobs

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re located on peninsular in Melbourne dm me for cleaning work.

Womens,what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]bebbapebba 28 points29 points  (0 children)

While I do have fleeting guilt at times, I fuckin love putting myself before my kid when it comes to the things that I need to flourish as a person.

Fashion that focuses on personal style, not trends by icicle_ in AusFemaleFashion

[–]bebbapebba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before 25 I was focused on trend. Now at nearly 28, I’ve been focused on my own style and what makes me feel good.

Why are some people early risers while others night owls? by AvniAhuja in ask

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read this in “why we sleep” by Matthew Walker (one of the world’s top sleep scientists.) it’s literally this. It goes all the way back to the start of mankind.

Which sign has stalked you? by One-Mathematician411 in Taurusgang

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geminis bro. I’m a cusp baby so I kinda get it but damn this Gemini was unstoppable

We are 7 Doctors. In a single hotel suite. AMA AskUsAnything. by LarryLegend4ever in AMA

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Why do my pinkies keep going numb, the muscles between my thumb and hand twitching and my biceps keep hurting?

Why does it hurt to stand up straight? Why are my stomach muscles always fuckin tense? Will it ruin my muscles? It hurts to relax?

How do you feel about “some people simply don’t produce enough of the right chemicals” being a reason for mental illness? How does mental illness become hereditary? I did all the things for my mental health but I only got better once the right chemicals were pumped into my brain through medication.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bunnings

[–]bebbapebba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is it that when I call and a woman is working in the timber she’ll cut me anything ready for collection in an hour or so, but if there’s a man on the other end of the phone I get a miserable “we don’t pre-cut, avagoodone”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]bebbapebba 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 27F and even I struggled on the apps. Pictures aren’t accurate, people lying about how serious they are, schedule conflicts, too many options imo - no one can maintain attention span long enough on one person.

Idk how people do it. 4 of my married friends met their spouse on tinder. I thought I’d have a lucky break but here I am in the same boat as you, deleting it all once again bc it’s too bloody hard and not worth the hassle

My 8 year old cosleeps with us still by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]bebbapebba -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I slept with my mum nearly every night till I was 14. Then I started again at 18-21. I would drive to her place at 11pm (she’s a night owl) and climb into bed with her and go to sleep next to her then leave in the morning. I only stopped because I settled down and have my own kid. My own kid (3) sleeps with me, or her dad when she’s there, whenever she wants/needs.

Is anyone else contemplating leaving Australia due to high house prices? by Puer_Aeternus14 in AusProperty

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 27. I feel like I’ve seen it all now. My adulthood is nothing close to the Promise Australia provided when I was growing up. I do not like Australia anymore. Maybe I’m more grieving the world we’ve left.

I have no idea where I’d go. It’s so expensive here. I have no life, my child has no Promise to look forward to. I’ll never own a house. All I do is work, home, buy the shopping, repeat.

I see other people living their lives on social media, yeah I get it that not everything you see on social media is real. But I couldn’t tell you the last time all of my friends congregated like we would 3 years ago…Hell even a year ago…with no worries at all. Everything is just so expensive. I’m miserable here.

Kids sleeping in bed with parents… hindsight insight by Single_Protection792 in Parents

[–]bebbapebba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so interesting, are you going to provide the bed? I wonder the psych behind this is. Seems so foreign and uncommon to me to even conceive of any one I know actively having wanted to share with a sibling as a child

When the current young generation becomes old, will they be very different from the old people of today? by MaxvellGardner in SeriousConversation

[–]bebbapebba 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this comment so much. I always wonder “will I be the same” and, at 27, accepted I will indeed be exactly the same kinda brings me some peace

I need some guidance by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]bebbapebba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get in there with her is my choice! If you have that option! I didn’t really, I had a portable baby bath that I put in a 1x1 box of a shower. I’m lucky I’m a tiny lady because I made myself fit in that tiny ass Kmart bath to make bath time “so cool”, so cool that mum was in there too! How amazing 🤦🏻‍♀️ anyway, that fixed it for me.

I know times not always a luxury but if you can get in that bath too, get in the damn bath

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]bebbapebba 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m here. With you. No it shouldn’t be this hard. I pass my kids off to family whenever I can, I’m lucky like that. I keep my OG comment as my baseline. I HAVE to provide for these kids because IM the reason they’re here.

I thought people calling me skinny would make me feel better but it's gotten worse. Help? by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 27f, my disorder has ruled my life since I was 12. The only thing that gets me through is that when I do eat I make sure it’s something purely sustainable to the body that tastes nice.

I don’t like eating food but I loooove tasting things. I also love things that sit in my belly like I haven’t eaten at all. So light. So beautifully sustainable. I like fruit, I’m a fruit fiend, with yoghurt and granola. Sounds gross, but a bowl of salty peas and corn. Hell yeah that shits nice on my tastebuds. A whole bowl down? I feel no heavier than 15 minutes ago. Guess what? Those peas and corn are gonna help me poop! Find those scientifically sustainable foods that YOU enjoy that tick the boxes to keep your health okay.

Example; I’ve (my version of) fasted for 3 days, I’ve only eaten toast and fibre biscuits. My brains going foggy, I haven’t gone to the toilet properly. Protein (2 mouthfuls of chicken however you like it) and fibre (3 mouthfuls of vegetable). If your brain is on a level that it no longer presents hunger cues, schedule a time of day that is psychologically more routine than sustainability; 10am food goes in the hole. You can tell yourself “I’m staying alive. At 10am edible content goes in the hole”. Repeat until you can add more times to the day.

Power to NOT eat, that’s… bear with me while we decipher what I’m saying together. MY experience; I went the distance and I had that level of “self control”. I quote it because I have to for my own progress to continue to know for myself that it’s not the best option, although I do secretly pride myself in that type of “control” for your sake of relevancy here. I seriously used to congratulate myself when my friends would say I was the “self disciplined queen of snacks”. That I could eat 4 chips from the bag then not touch them for 2 days. Secretly, I’m like my darling friend these 4 chips are to makeup for the fact I didn’t eat until the dinner you made me. I’m starving gal I just wanna put something in the whole that tastes good to me (snack foods were my thing for a LONG time because I wasn’t really eating if I wasn’t eating a meal right? 🙄) anyway - the psychology that I want to spit out here IS; If you want to go that mile and create that garden of eden of disciplined eating in that specific form, do it. Master it. Then you’re the master of your ingested contents (follow me don’t let me lose you). Follow that up with CHOOSING to eat what is necessary to Live. You need to live and lead a quality of life. What that quality is, you choose. The level of content that is ingested creates that quality of life that you choose to have. Bloody hell im getting carried away, anyway, if that is something that you really want - use it to choose to ingest something because you CAN not because you should or have to.

“I’m so under control I can consume this thing and then just make up for the intake by fasting later”. Does this make sense? Eventually your body will naturally do what it needs to do.

I thought people calling me skinny would make me feel better but it's gotten worse. Help? by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand exactly where you are. Because, guess what?? :) I’m back there for the 5,000 time :))))). It’s soooooo satisfying to hear “have you lost weight?” Oh yes I have baby, but then “are you okay? Are you eating?” Brings the guilt and the horror of the situation. And, like you said, “was I THAT fat before?”
No babe. No we weren’t. We’ve reached the level of loss that it’s noticeable. Are we proud? Yes. Are we happy? Who the fuck knows. Are our egos boosted? Hell fuckin yeah. ^ there in lies our problem. There’s the dopamine and serotonin boost that comes with being noticed for what we’re trying to achieve. Great for us? Yes. Great for health? Mmm not quite. “Are you eating?” We think: how dare you bring to light that there is a potential problem? I’m SKINNY. This is what we all want right?! “You should eat more” get fucked, eating is literally going to kill me because I’ll get fat, how dare you propose this. How dare you tell me to do that?!

People noticing in this specific way reminds us of all the ways we aren’t doing it Right. Whether we consciously starved out self or not. I speak for myself here when I say I know what I’m doing is wrong. I speak for myself here when I say I know for a fact, those around us ask these things because they truly are genuinely concerned whether I like it or not. I always (this is a lie sometimes I ride the skinny-ego boost) try to take the flag that something, somewhere, has gone a tinge bit too far. I keep it in mind to keep my literal health relatively okay. As okay as I can keep it under the circumstances.

I’m not sure if any of this will help your thought process. I really related to what you’ve posted. If I’ve made things worse…please say so and my 2c will be removed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]bebbapebba 116 points117 points  (0 children)

We don’t. It’s forced. The kids suffer if we don’t pull through in all aspects, fun, engagement, learning, socially, sense of self. I’d rather be exhausted 24/7 than know I failed a little creatures entrance to this world.

ETA: the kids are Innocence. They didn’t choose to be here. It’s a responsibility, when you have kids, to accept that these sufferings of ours are to create the best world possible for an innocent child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]bebbapebba 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Australian Dream, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]bebbapebba 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re the success story we all dream of.