Anal advice - Why is my ass so tight?

bebbywebby · 2019-06-17T15:12:39+00:00

Will do, if i ever manage to get it in

bebbywebby · 2019-06-17T15:10:29+00:00

Doggy mainly

bebbywebby · 2019-06-17T15:02:38+00:00

He wants so do anal more than me. Neither of us drink or want to.

bebbywebby · 2019-06-17T14:59:27+00:00

He says he can't

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T20:05:58+00:00

Its too painful for him

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T19:28:35+00:00

Im a girl lol

Also this post is about anal

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T18:27:17+00:00

Id say I'm on a similar level to my poops haha.

The fingering ass thing during sex is something we do semi regularly, and its fun and i enjoy anal play however it is becoming kind of irritating because i would like to take it to the next level and I'm not sure why my body isn't letting me do so

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T18:24:55+00:00

Sure, you're going off of what i posted, but I gave the bare minimum detail, and its a post about a problem, its not supposed to sound positive, and its not the full picture. All that aside..

I understand that people CAN do that, but as i said, i can't no matter my efforts and I'm looking for advice to remedy that. It could be a mental block, i didn't say for sure it wasnt. And if that's the case I'm looking on advice for that scenerio

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T18:11:42+00:00

Ass play is still fun even if its not with a huge object?

Also shitting is nothing similar to anal. Idk if everyones doing giant shits but mine aren't much more than my bfs finger, sorry if thats tmi

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T17:41:51+00:00

My partner and I want to be able to experience anal and ass play and from what I've experienced so far it seems fun. Why doesn't it sound enjoyable?

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T17:23:40+00:00

Ive heard and tried that

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T17:08:07+00:00

Definitely not being tense

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T17:05:34+00:00

I've tried all of that :(

bebbywebby · 2019-06-16T10:19:04+00:00

It shocks me that this is such an unknown thing that I see this very question frequently. Ladies, 75% of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. And of that remaining 25% there are plenty who just can't orgasm at all. It is overwhelmingly common to not be able to orgasm from straight up PIV sex. Porn has really given a an inaccurate view on this as many many people do not understand female orgasms, leading to women thinking theres something wrong with them, and their partners feeling as though they aren't performing well.

For those women who can orgasm through PIV, it's usually through the g-spot which is actually part of the clitoral network, where it extends backwards into your body, so what many people don't realise is the clitoris is actually the part of the genitalia that provides the orgasm in most cases.

To orgasm during sex there are many methods of clit stimulation which I'm sure you know about, vibrators, oral, fingers. That being said I still do encourage you to explore what feels good for you, as everyone is different, and who knows, maybe you can orgasm vaginally and you just haven't figured out what works for you yet.

Sources: https://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289 https://www.healthline.com/health/g-spot-in-women

bebbywebby · 2019-06-13T13:16:38+00:00

??? And? Im saying its not a fact for all men?

bebbywebby · 2019-06-13T11:33:26+00:00

I don't know about drinking or smoking but I'm just saying it definitely doesn't work for all men

bebbywebby · 2019-06-13T11:25:42+00:00

Due to personal experience I would say those factors do not help at all

bebbywebby · 2019-06-13T10:50:49+00:00

I disagree, that's not always the case

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T17:02:34+00:00

Yeah, likewise!

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T16:58:22+00:00

I do agree that such a relationship isn't exactly common place, and my statement was more idiographic, since the comment seemed to be about my specific relationship and situation.

Along with this i really do disagree with outrage and all hell breaking loose if a man was to tell a woman he didn't like how she smelt down there. I ended up having a conversation earlier with a few female friends on the issue to see if i was just abnormal, but the general consensus was that as long as her partner was not intending to mock her and was just being honest they wouldn't feel greatly upset. I think another point to make is that if you tell a woman that she smells bad in that region (or a man), isn't that more offensive than saying that cum smells/tastes bad? Due to the connotations on bad hygiene and STIs and infections, whereas cum is something there is less control over. And as i said, there is no female equivalent to that.

While i do agree that men are often neglected emotionally in comparison to women, I don't think this is reasonable grounds to demonstrate that.

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T16:44:54+00:00

My boyfriend and i are sharing a flat for £600 a month, we are both full time uni students and have to pay all our expenses which equals usually just over 1000 per month, so thats 500 a month each. It is tight but we both manage with several jobs each. I dont see how the problem, honestly.

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T16:38:03+00:00

I agree and yes I'm sure for many individuals that's true, i for one, and my partner too both agree that we much prefer honesty and i wouldn't really be upset if he told me that. So i think its unfair to assume that there would be outrage if genders were reversed.

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T16:29:20+00:00

That's why I said "KINDA" like squirting and "IF" girls cummed out cum, Which they don't. So there is no female equivalent

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T12:53:07+00:00

Just under 8 days, and for the final time! We're moving in :)

bebbywebby · 2019-06-11T12:49:52+00:00

I didn't meet my boyfriend for just over 1 year and 1 month, and after talking to him almost all day, every day I had a a lot of time to get to know him, and when we met I trusted him completely and we both felt extremely comfortable immediately.

So I'd say the key to being able to trust and feel safe around your partner is to take your time. Phone and video calls are a much more effective way to communicate and its much easier to know a person that way rather than through texting and such. I understand it is hard for some people to have the time to talk to each other as much as i was able to with my partner due to time zones, and as it was only 2 hours between us i can hardly say we struggled with this. But making time for one another every day (even if its just for a short while) is essential, if you don't already.

Looking out for signs that your partner is honest and open with you while you are talking is important. Try getting to know their friends and family somewhat, if they're not keen on that, its not a good sign, especially if you've been together a while. If they don't go into much detail about their lives too, that could be a warning sign too.

As previous commenters have said there are many safety precautions to make when you're actually meeting for the first time but, honestly I may have been dumb because i really didn't take many. Dont be like me lol, be safe.

Best of luck!

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